Of having sex for the first time :cry: hubby is pretty keen already and in my head i really want sex with my hubby but after a second degree tear and an episiotomy i'm s***ting myself to say the least obviously i'm still healing so not gonna do it anytime soon but the thought of doing it makes me cry :\(

Anyone else in the same boat

haha i'm just the opposite hun, i'm dying to get back to it but just waiting for last of bleeding and stitches to stop and heal before we can. i had a tear and stitches too but it hasnt put me off to be honest, just relax and take things nice and slow and gentle and am sur everything will be fine xxx

hey clair, i must say i was nervous but we have had lots of sex since the birth, think we started 3 weeks after. i had 2 tears both second degree and honestly hun its not as nervewracking as u think. just take it slow and if it hurts at any point just stop.xxxxxx

Hi,

I've got a slightly different worry. I had a second degree tear and needed what felt like quite a few stitches and I am ready to get back into having sex. I'm not worried about whether it will hurt or not but after doing some checking out "down there" (sorry if TMI) in the interests of seeing if it was painful, it feels quite bumpy and scarred and I'm worried that my husband will be able to feel that and be put off by it.