im the same as sunflower - give bottles sooner after food (gradually) which is why i think we'll be able to drop one soon and thats what i was meaning with replacing with cups too

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My dd now wont take anything from a spoon (sometimes yoghurt or jelly as 'pudding' or weetabix in the morning providing she's had plenty of finger foods first) i posted something similar in baby last week looking for advice but basically what i have been doing is just giving what im having (where appropriate) and letting dd feed herself and she is so much happier and although i worried she wouldnt take enough strangely she is taking less milk so must be taking more (and proof in the nappies right lol)
i give everything you have mentioned - lots of veg whole (brocolli, cauliflower, carrots, mushrooms etc with meals) and fruit afterwards or breakfast (banana, melon strawberries and grapes - halved) i also give strips of cheese, she loves cucumber and tomatos - she will take pasta and spaghetti which is easier to eat as she sooks it in to her mouth ('lady and the tramp' stylee) with tinned tomatos - she loves the big plum ones halved and also cherry tomatos its VERY messy (i need to get a 'mess mat' but cant find one anywhere') but she is happy and eating which is main thing but good help me when im out - i also do potato wedges and last night she had meatballs and also a boiled egg chopped up. i have given scrambled egg (but 'rubbery' yum lol so she can pick it up more) and also omlette and french toast. i just put everything on the highcahir tray for her (i hate our highchair so it makes it easier for her to see and get to as she struggles with a bowl cause of the seat) i also give veg and fruit she cant necessarily eat yet but can suck on like apple and pear and also green beans and mini corn cobs.
she was eating bolognese and tuna before but now she wont take a spoon its harder as like your lo she isnt too good at picking up really small pieces although she is getting much better even just in the past week so dont think that'll be long so the more you offer the better he'll get with them - i just hand her tiny bits she cant get herself and she can take them from my fingers or she'll open her mouth (and i know blw says not to put things in their mouths for them but i dont mind doing this) i also bought mini bitesize weetabix which i soak for breakfast.
With meat i have given chicken and fish (not beef yet as its 'chewier') cut into strips sometimes with a sauce sometimes not as she tears pieces off by herself and eats it ok. i boil it though which sounds disgusting i know but i find it makes it 'softer' and easir to shread - you can make chicken nuggets and fish fingers with breadcrumbs and also the filled pastas - im looking for some way of making them myself as the prepared packs have alot of salt in them and also made some wee 'pastries' (just the ready made filo) with some wee things in them but wouldnt give them alot. im going to try a tuna and cheese 'toastit' for lunch tomorrow.
sorry long post again - hope thats some help?
Lx