hi palm tree, my mum has just been diagnosed with currently inoperable pancreatic cancer, at just 51. i know how u feel hun, its horrendous isnt it, we found out just before xmas for definate but we were all fearing the worst for a while, she was in hospital before xmas for 2 weeks, came home 21st dec then had to go back in by ambulance on xmas day

it has just been the worst xmas and new year ever for our family. she is starting chemo next week and we are hoping that will shrink it-we have been told it wont get rid of it, but maybe then she can have this special radiation called cyber knife, or an operation. its on a major blood vessel so thats why they arent keen to operate. i know how u r feeling and it seems hopeless, especially with the initial poor prognosis she was given, but once it sinks in a bit u will start to become determined to help ur mum fight it and feel more positive as u cant spend all ur days fearing the worse- altho now and again u will, but that is natural as our mums are our world. try to stay strong for her hun, wishing her lots of healthy dust xxxx