My mums been diagnosed with lung cancer.. Were all in utter shock. Shes 54, fit, healthy and NEVER smoked. A month ago the doctor sent her for a routine chest xray.. After a chesty cough. Two shadows were detected.. Since then shes had a ct scan and it was diagnosed wednesday. They think its stage 2 or early 3. She cant have surgury due to location of tumour.She is having a biopsy to determine the exact type. Im devestated and think my ds and dd can sense this. IF YOU KNOW ME ON FACEBOOK, PLS DONT REPEAT THIS OR WRITE ON WALL ABOUT IT only close family know. Im desperately unhappy and tearful.. Can anyone offer advice? Id fall to pieces if I lost my mum

I'm sorry I can't offer any advice having not been in that situation but I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am and that I ( and I'm sure all the BIO ladies) are thinking of you. I really hope that the biopsy will bring slightly more positive news.

Sorry I can't be anymore help. But we are all here for you to unload on us if you need to.

xxx

Hi sorry to g/c but saw this on the homepage.

So sorry to hear about your mum. Its such an awful disease and seems even more cruel that she doesnt smoke and is healthy.
It sounds like they have caught it at an early stage and that it will be treat with chemeo and radiotherapy. I am not too sure about lung cancer and its survival rates. My OH had testicular cancer that had spread through his lymph nodes. He was 25 at the time. He is now 44 and touch wood the cancer has not reared its ugly stupid head again. For every sad story there are more postitive stories out there. You have to keep positive and keep your spirits up for your mum. Its OK to be worried and upset but just see Cancer as an enemy that together you are going to beat.

I sadly lost my mum when she was 54. She was my mum but also my best friend. To say I was devastated would be an understatement. However, her love, our relationship and all she taught me has made me the woman and the mother I am today. I know she is there still guiding me and watching out for me.

It helps if you can go to appointments with her (if possible and if she wants you to) so you can hear first hand what is going on and what treatment she will be getting. Don't give up hope.

All the best to you and your family....

d xxx

hi palm tree, my mum has just been diagnosed with currently inoperable pancreatic cancer, at just 51. i know how u feel hun, its horrendous isnt it, we found out just before xmas for definate but we were all fearing the worst for a while, she was in hospital before xmas for 2 weeks, came home 21st dec then had to go back in by ambulance on xmas day it has just been the worst xmas and new year ever for our family. she is starting chemo next week and we are hoping that will shrink it-we have been told it wont get rid of it, but maybe then she can have this special radiation called cyber knife, or an operation. its on a major blood vessel so thats why they arent keen to operate. i know how u r feeling and it seems hopeless, especially with the initial poor prognosis she was given, but once it sinks in a bit u will start to become determined to help ur mum fight it and feel more positive as u cant spend all ur days fearing the worse- altho now and again u will, but that is natural as our mums are our world. try to stay strong for her hun, wishing her lots of healthy dust xxxx

Oh hun you are so not alone, my dad has just been diagnosed with throat cancer, but there are so many new discoveries about treating cancer and new drugs that are available her prognosis is so much better than it could have been even just a year ago. Hopefully you will all have some more information soon and some positive answers about the way forward xx

Hi

so sorry to hear your sad news so early on in the New Year....you must be heartbroken...

My Dad had LC in 2004....it was discovered when he was taken in with a lung infection....same as your mum they found it when they noticed a shadow on the Xray..... he had a CET scan and had to go from Leicester to London in an ambulance as he was on oxygen....

luckily after surgery (they cut out the tumour and a good part of his lung around it) he was home in 5 days....and he has had the all clear ever since....Dad was 69 yrs old at the time too

It does sound like it was caught early...I have my fingers crossed for you.......

DLAM xxxx

HUn, im so sorry to hear this, i havent been in your situation so cant offer any words of advise, but just want to send big hugs and you know that we are all hear to listen if you need to let of steam.xxxx

So sorry to hear this, I lost my dad 14 years ago to cancer and i know how devastating it can be. They found it very late with my dad but it sounds as though it's early days for you Mum so this must be positive. You'll be in my thoughts and i hope for a good outcome.
Take care and be strong, Dotty xx

I am so so sorry Palmtree. I'm sending you and your family lots of love and you'll all be in my thoughts and prayers during this time. You've been brilliant when i went through everything with B and her hip so i hope i can be the same support somehow. I can't offer advice but just a virtual hand to hold and we're all here to listen xxx

Massive (((hugs))) from SF, hubby and little B xxx

Hi hun,

i cant offer any advice, but just to let you know we are thinking off you x x

Oh my word, I am so sorry. We are all here for you honey. xxx

Oh sweetie,just want you to know I am thinking of you and your family.

Huge hugs xxxx

Hi,

I can't offer any words of advice but just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear your news, sending you massive hugs xxxxx

Oh hun what such sad news... My dad had prostate cancer a few years ago so can totally relate to how shocked and upset you must be feeling. I think I cried for a week non stop when we got his diagnosis!

You'll go through a rollercoaster of emotions but just know that all your buddies on BIO are here for you, if you need to offload how you're feeling (and sometimes it's easier to type away at a computer to near enough strangers!) then we're all here for you hunney.

Sending you the BIGGEST squeeze hug ever xxxxxx

hi,

havent spoken to you before i am g/c as i saw this on the homepage (hope you dont mind) i just want to say i am soo soo sorry to read this and nothing anyone can say will make you feel any better.

Take all the support you can get from family and friends and cry as much as you like. My mum was diagnosed with cancer in March 2007 (oespophageal) it was picked up after a few tests (due to her being unwell) and like your mum she couldnt have surgery we were given the cancer diagnosis after about a week and told we were looking at 6-9 months. to say i was devestated was an understatement as i was always really close to my mum and although i had been preparing myself for a cancer diagnosis i had been trying to stay strong thinkign with treatment we had a good chance but the problem was my mums type it had a very poor prognosis due to how advanced it is by the time symptoms show- she had chemo and radiotherapy to give her as long as possible but sadly she died 6 months later :cry:

i really hope things dont get so bad with your mum and at least it has been picked up now but i just wanted to say that i understand the shock and hurt you feel as nothing can prepare you for news like that or for losing your mum so i just wanted to send you massive hugs and i hope this post doesnt upset or ofend you.

Take care and try and stay strong - your kids and your mum need you but dont be afraid to 'let is all out' when ever you feel the need

Lx

So sorry to hear you, your mum and whole family are having to through this. I just wanted to show my support and set you big hugs

I am so sorry to read this. Sending you and your family lots of hugs. I really hope they have found it early and the biopsy brings some positive news.
Will be thinking of you, we're all here if you need to chat xxx

Thankyou so so much everyone.. Your positive words are calming. Im so tired of crying but I cant stop.. I hope in the next few days I will start to feel better, every day is heartbreak at the moment. Thanks again.. You dont realise how helpful your replies have been. X x x

Oh god i'm so sorry to hear this Palmtree, don't have any advice but you know we're all here for you.
Take care

Sorry to hear your sad news hun.

Like the others I don't really have any advice but did not want to read and run.

Take care and if you need to chat feel free all the girls from BIO are fab and here for you to off load.

Lots of love Dugs and Jack x x