25/04/2012 at 11:27
25/04/2012 at 18:27
hi heavenly mummy, im sorry i saw this on live feed and am g/c as have not had pnd.From an outside perspective i think they perhaps think if you've put them off for 2 weeks you're doing ok enough to wait for her to be well again - i know you have your reasons for that but they don't know what they are. obviously you are feeling terrible and its important that you see someone, so its not unreasonable to ask to see someone now, and im sure they will understand if you can explain you just couldnt see them with your little boy around. sometimes when you are down things can seem more complicated than they really are, give them a ring.
Really big hugs, am certain your little boy doesnt hate you, you have lots of courage to ask for help, hope you feel better soon x
26/04/2012 at 12:30
26/04/2012 at 17:50
07/05/2012 at 20:35
07/05/2012 at 22:42
hi heavenly mummy
im always the mum who forgets everything, am always frantically looking through the nappy bag etc...one day recently we went to meet with postnatal group, i couldnt find my wallet at the other end, had already got LO out of car seat into pushchair, raincover on, had to then put him back in car and when we got home i found the wallet...there are loads of examples of this sort of thing, i am in chaos most of the time, my LO is warm, fed, changed and loved but how people are so organised with their babies is beyond me. I always lost my keys, wallet, phone etc even before LO - now i have two of us to sort out! It can seem like everyone is doing a better job,
I dont do these things alone anymore as i find it too much like hard work. If mum can't come shopping with me to help i dont go. I order online where i can. I know you need to get out but debenhams perhaps isnt the best place - what about childrens centres, mum and baby groups etc? or another mums for a coffee, perhaps one of your son's friends mummies? i know you're a second time mum so won't preach at you too much but i also find planning the day around his meals takes a bit of the stress away. after breakfast he has a play, then milk and a sleep, then a play and lunch. i dont attempt to go anywhere till after that and i know i dont have to be back until half 4 for tea. Often its just easier to have a few hours out and get back for mealtimes.
i hope the health visitor has been able to suggest some things to help, please dont ever feel inferior - your baby doesnt want anyone else to be his mummy and you'll never be inferior to him. the absolute best thing for him is you. Hoping you carry on feeling better bit by bit x
08/05/2012 at 13:35
08/05/2012 at 21:08
what a load of crap heavenly mummy! Its not good enough to say she'll get back to you over the phone with details of a group...i bet the last thing you feel like doing is walking into a full room feeling like you do...she could at least have done a caring one on one visit to discuss it with you and give you a bit of preparation. You have tried so hard to ask for help, i know i said earlier that they might think you are ok and to call them again, but you really have put lots of feelers out now and you are feeling down and vulnerable, they should be on your doorstep by now.
i dont feel able to say too much about pnd as i dont know about it; but do find every last ounce of courage you have to go to the group. A tough thing to do i know but meeting other mummies like you will hopefully make you feel supported, and not alone, and hopefully they will suggest ways to improve things.
trying to cope with work must be tough as well - big, massive hugs, none of this is your fault and i hope you just look back on this time as a bad dream very soon x
18/06/2012 at 22:14
19/06/2012 at 20:00
wow heavenly mummy, sounds like you are well on the road to feeling better - am so pleased. And they've obviously taken you seriously and given you loads of support - in the space of such a short time its made so much difference to you and your bubba. So lovely that you want to help others too - im sure no one is better placed than you to make a difference to somebody who feels like you did. Nothing else to add but wanted to say well done for having the courage to get better x
12/07/2012 at 21:58
12/07/2012 at 23:32
13/07/2012 at 07:29
13/07/2012 at 11:27
sorry you are feeling so bad, remember as sah83 says your thoughts are distorted from being off the meds so it all feels overwhelming again. The next few days of taking them will make you feel better able to think clearly about your son. read your earlier post from 18th june, the medication has made the world of difference to you and will again, im sure its not without its downsides as you have said it makes you exhausted but this is one to discuss with the doctor when you have a clearer head. you sound like a lovely mum who cares very much about her children and im sure you will do what you have to do xx
31/12/2012 at 21:09
I recently read a book that helped me a lot with my depression. I think the main point of it was really helpful. That the sufferer should first and foremost seek help and then take an active approach to make sure that they are healing along with finding a partner to help them on their journey. Also, it kind of opened my eyes to the different foods that can really worsen people's depression because of the different chemicals in the foods and how they can affect you. I know it doesn't seem like it but what I've discovered is that the little things all add up and can have a big impact on the way you feel. Feel better! The name of the book was 'you can cure your depression' by the way
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