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Hello fellow potty-training mummies! My name is Michelle and I am proud mum of Oscar, 22 months old.
We started potty training after nursery started offering Oscar the chance to sit on the potty at each nappy change in April. I had read a few books "Potty training for Boy" and "The no-cry potty training solution" earlier in the year to start getting my head around it all (I love a bit of research before embarking on any new project!!)
So armed with my new-found knowledge, I brought a cheap potty (which was left it in the bathroom for a long time before encouraging Oscar to use it), started taking Oscar into the bathroom with me and explained that mummies did wee-wees on the big potty and also brought some "potty themed story books" and slowly started to introduce the idea of using the potty to Oscar.
Oscar showed no interest at first and did not actually sit on the potty for a good few months. He did his first wee on the potty 30th April and I remember thinking "he's got it, finally!". I decided that we were going to go for it and ditched the nappies during the daytime and for the first few days he was nappy-free at home. I started off by "suggesting" he use the potty when he woke up and then pretty much every hour thereafter until bed-time! He would always use the potty 20 mins after having a drink/ meal and ALWAYS before going out in the car!
The nappy-free method obviously wouldn't work long-term and especially not on the mornings he was at nursery so we went out to buy some "big boy pants", that we allowed Oscar to choose himself. He chose Thomas the Tank Engine, of course and he was sooooo excited!!
I also got a 2nd potty for downstairs and got some reward stickers. For the first few weeks Oscar would get a sticker everytime he did a wee-wee on the potty and it worked really well, he was so proud of himself. He soon lost interest in the stickers and was happy to use the potty without a "reward", which was great as we were running out of space on the potties!
By this stage we thought it would be a good idea to introduce the toilet, or big potty as it is known in our house! We brought a fab trainer seat insert and he was away! Infact he prefers using the toilet now!!
A couple of weeks ago he had 2 days full of accidents and I wondered if we'd started too soon. But I'm glad to say we stuck with it and the following day he was back in the swing of it.
So here we are almost 6 weeks later and he refuses to use the potty to do a poo-poo (he's managed 4 poo-poos on it so far) , and still has the occassional accident. Most recently yesterday, whilst we were in toys r us and I hadn't taken any spare clothes with me, arrrrrrrgggghhhhhh!! Never make this mistake! He was distracted by an aisle full of cars and tractors, but I thought we'd cracked it
I really would love some tips on where we go from here as I feel he's come so far already and I'm not sure whether we should put it on hold for a while and try again in a few weeks? Or should I stick with it? I also really need some advice on how to get him to do a poo-poo on the potty. I'm the only mum in my circle of mummy-friends that have embarked on the potty-training trip and I'm looking forward to swopping tips with other mums going through it too!
Wow I didn't realise I had so much to say on the subject! Promise to keep it short and sweet from now on!
Hi all , My name is Susan and my little girl Amy is 30 months old. We have been using pull ups for a few months now as Amy would keep asking to go on the potty when we were at toddlers and the other kids were going . The problem is that as soon as we are at home she is not interested. A few weeks ago she was sitting on her potty and she did a poo , she got really upset and very frightened by it and has lost all interest now.
People say not to use pull ups as they just feel like a nappy but I'm not sure whether she is ready for nothing yet. I have to change her pull up every time she has a wee but we've tried nothing on in the house and she just wees every where. She doesn't seem to get "the feeling " yet.
So its bite the bullet time , everything is crossed and we are ready to go !!
I' d tell the nursery what you're doing at home.It's better if you're all singing from the same songsheet hee.It's not fair being told one thing at home and another at nursery.All too confusing for a little one.
Might also be worth finding out how the nursery deal with potty training too,so you can do the same at home.They may just say this is what we do,as there may be other little ones doing the same,as they've probably dealt with it so many times they have their way of doing it.
Hi, My name is Yvonne & I am Mum to Ethan who is 20 months old.
We started potty training in April when he kept telling me when he was using his nappy. After a couple of weeks I thought I better do something incase he lost interest & I missed an opportunity.
We rapidly progressed and he is quite happy using the potty or toilet & all is well until I put his clothes on and he seems to forget all about it!
I started using trainer pants as they were easier than nappies.
I now need to find a way of getting him to tell me (when he has his pants/trousers on) that he needs the toilet in enought time to get him there. He does this when running around naked!
Monday is D-day for us with a new start again day! We have been out and bought Pirate Pete's potty book, some stickers & some brightly coloured paper to put the stickers on! I thought I'd put it on the bathroom wall!
We will aim to spend as much time at home as possible and see if we can master it so we can venture out towards the weekend!
Feeling positive & it's great getting advice & suggestions from all you other Mum's!
Good Luck everyone!
Try with just pants first,for a couple of days at home.If he has an accident clean it up,remind him in the potty ,not his pants and no reward.Maybe remind him to go and help him take his pants off before he does so he has the opportunity to "do it right" and get his reward.Also encouraging them to help you dress themselves helps them practice getting the clothes off quick when they need to.
We had a lapse when Matilda first went into clothes again,so we first went back to no clothes for a day,then just pants,and when I was sure she had worked that out we moved on to trousers.They've done the hard bit,they just need to get the last bit.
Good luck with it and keep doing what you're doing.
We had a poor start to the morning with a poop on the floor!
However I am very pleased to say we now have 4 stickers on the chart & he is still in the first pair of big boy pants so far!
We have been out!!! Ventured a walk, went to the play park & to see Grandad with no mishaps!
Now he has gone for a nap so hoping the afternoon will be as good.
Managing lots of praise & he absolutely loves " Pirate Pete's Potty" - I can't recommend it enough! The stickers are also going down very well.
Hope everyone else is getting on well & look forward to your updates!
Oscar refused to go on the potty when he woke up this morning, which is very odd as he has been going no problems for weeks? Typical!!
Anyway turned out that he needed a poo-poo, so I asked him if he'd like to where a nappy to do it in and he said yes. Nappy on, he did it within 5 mins! So poo-poo out of the way he has done 2 wee-wees on the big toilet today.
Some nights he has been waiting to have his nappy put on for bed and then doing it. I suppose rather that than on the carpet, but I still don't seem to be any closer to cracking the poo-poo issue??? Help please!
Tracy - I agree with loonie - get your oldest son involved as well as yourself!
Did you try sticker rewards or anything similar? Also sorry to keep going on about it but what about a book - the pirate one involves all the members of the family & my little boy has become obsessed with it & it really seems to have made the difference.
Remember tomorrow is another day & it does take time!! Keep persevering though as it will be worth it when you reach the end result!!
Hi my name is Natalie and mum to Jessica aged 31 months and Katie 4 months.
I started potty training Jessica in January and it was all going well until giving birth to Katie in February and there has been quite a few accidents since.
I have started a fresh today with the potty training, armed with new Hello Kitty Knickers that Jessica picked herself and a reward chart and stickers.
Well I tried to get Jessica on the potty when she woke up this morning and she kept shouting no mammy, no. So i sat on the toilet and she sat on the potty and she managed to go, she was very excited and shouted 'Clever Mammy, Clever Jessy' So far so good.
We then had quite a long car journey , so she tried before we set off and she had another wee wee. I popped her in pull ups for the journey and stopped at the service station she was still dry and she said she need a poo poo so she tried but only managed a wee.
We only got about 15 minutes down the road when she decided needed a poo poo. We were about 20 minutes from the next services and asked her to try and hold on till we stopped. She was absolutely hysterical and the thought of having a poo in her pull ups. I was so proud her of my clever little girl, she managed to wait and did a poo on the toilet.
After about a 2 1/2 hour car journey we got home she was completely, I thought we had cracked it in one day but it was too good to last. I popped her down for her afternoon nap and when she woke up she was very clingy so I gave her a cuddle and she weed all over my leg and on the settee and all over the carpet.
Well apart from 1 accident today, Jessica has done really well !!!
Lets hope for the same success tomorrow.
The poo thing is definately an issue with some children.They seem to not like letting go without the security of the nappy.It's a new way of doing it I suppose a new feeling.My fifth was bothered by it.It took a couple of days longer to master than the weeing.We had a few days on me knowing she needed to go but she'd avoid it.There were a couple of poo on the carpet incidents,but we cleared it up,just picked it up with tissue and put it into the potty.Reinforced the we do poo poos in the potty,not Mummy's carpet.Cleaned her,and dettolled carpet,actually easier to clean up than the wee cos it doesn't soak in.We then together flushed the contents of the potty down the toilet reminding her that's where poos go.
Obviously no one wants poo on the carpet but she was learning what it actually feels like pooing with nothing on,and there's really nothing to worry about,rather than putting the nappy back on which just reinforces that this is something to worry about,and doesn't really achieve anything..She also realised that wasn't where she wanted to be going,on the carpet,and found her way to the potty in time.I did sit with her to reassure her it was nothing to worry about,got very excited about every little bit she did and gave her a smartie for it too.The more he did it the more confidence she had.It was just a case of getting past that point to see there really was nothing to worry about.
Getting the older one involved is definately a good idea.Little ones like to be like their big siblings.Let them go with them to the loo.Let them see what they do,if your older one will let them.Also have your older one act excited,get them excited about helping your little one.I found some of my kids more obliging than others,but we have a ready made cheerleading team for Matilda's potty training.Sure the neighbours think we're all mad .
Ethan update: We were woken up today at 06.15 with shouts of "pee"! Anyway I didn't really mind because when I took his nappy of he promptly had a pee in the toilet! He told me shortly after he needed a poop & took himself to the potty! (Bottoms free at the time). After breakfast he started to pee in his pants but promptly told me and managed to hold on until I got him to the toilet - must be a good sign?
The rest of the day was good - been out and about far more than I thought we would. His only mishap was when he had a very long nap in the pushchair & was wet when he got up. The rest of the day he has used the potty/toliet no bother - mostly when I have prompted him.
I am not very sure if I should keep 'toileting' him or just leave him & see what happens? Does anyone know if there is a good time to just leave him to his own devices?
He is pretty positive about the whole thing so wouldn't like to go backwards!
He is still loving the sticker reward & if he is alittle resistant to trying the potty reminding him about pirate Pete works a treat.
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