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17/02/2014 at 07:24
Boooo to Monday morning already!
I hope everyone had a lovely weekend?
One more sleep for me now until my scan.
17/02/2014 at 07:46
Imp - I know I hate Mondays unless it's a days holiday :) Not long now til your scan woohoo :) Good news about the bra ;-)
AFM had a crap nights sleep due to spd, couldn't get comfy then my back and hips went a bit numb. I followed what the NHS advised online and put a pillow between my legs and it made it worse, could hardly walk when I needed the loo in the night. I'm really worried about the birth, it's bad enough normally but having this too help!!! I wonder if I'll cope. Good news though my H felt our little dude moving at the weekend and he hasn't really stopped, I also was watching my tummy this morning when he was fidgeting around to see if I could see him and I could, my god how blummin wicked!!! :) :)
Hi to all and hope catch up later xx
17/02/2014 at 07:59
Can't believe it's just one more sleep until your scan Imp!! Hope you had a lovely weekend.
Sorry you had a bad night LeeLee, but how great that your H felt baby at the weekend and that you can see him moving!! I can't wait for that! Hope your spd is better tonight.
AFM, feeling a bit coldy today, must have caught H's man flu! I'm feeling more and more movement from baby, and yesterday I think she must have completely turned around or something as it felt like my insides were churning. Very weird but also lovely to feel!
Hope everyone has a good Monday x
17/02/2014 at 08:26
Lee lee have you been offered any physio for the spd? I hope it doesn't get any worse. Lovely to see him moving about now.
Fig I hope the cold passes quickly, it's rubbish being ill anyway but even more so when pregnant as you can't take anything!
I can't believe the scan is nearly here either, it's crazy.
17/02/2014 at 08:37
Imp - eeek one more sleep!
Leelee - sorry you had a bad nights sleep, that sounds painful and really rubbish. Is there any physio available? Great you could see baby moving though :)
Fig - yay for feeling more movement. Sorry you're feeling crappy, I've woke up with it too this morning - bleurgh
AFM - Put the cotbed together last night and it was a bloody nightmare! The nursery is starting to take shape now. Woke up with the beginnings of a cold and cough this morning but I'm only working 2.5 days this week and 2 next week so can mooch around feeling sorry for myself for a few days :)
Hi to all who follow
17/02/2014 at 08:40
VT you'll have to flash us the nursery.
I hope the cold passes soon. Lovely to have two short weeks, have you taken annual leave?
17/02/2014 at 08:46
I will flash it as soon as it looks less like a baby storage warehouse (for baby goods, not somewhere to store actual babies)
Yup, annual taken, was going to have all next week but it's so quiet at work that I thought best to split it up to alleviate the boredom
17/02/2014 at 09:16
I got what you meant! Have you bought most of your stuff now?
Good thinking on the annual leave. I'm off this friday and monday so that I get two short weeks rather than just one.
17/02/2014 at 09:19
Knock knock..., can I come in??
Some of you will know me just about from when I was on first tri last time before my mc. Glad to see you're all doing well! I'm 14+2 today but suffering a bit. Horrible bruised feeling in one point on my tummy, and lots of what I believe to be ligament pain that kept me up last night. Anyone else had that? Anyway, not due in work for a few days so plan to rest lots. Carpenter is coming today to sort the skirting out (we had a new floor before Christmas but skirting got missed) then I think I'll go back to bed! Where is this 2nd tri energy I am supposed to have??
Hope to get to know you all over the next few weeks xxx
17/02/2014 at 09:24
Eeek VT, how exciting that you put the cot bed together!! The idea of a baby storing warehouse strangely quite appeals lol! Hope your cold passes soon.
Imp, good planning on the annual leave so that you get two short weeks!
17/02/2014 at 10:19
Hi Barefoot, nice to see you! Hope you manage to get energised soon :)
17/02/2014 at 11:35
Imp - Best of luck for tomorrow. Make sure you share a pic with us all!
Leelee - Sorry to hear you are suffering :(
Fig - Hope you feel better soon and it doesn't amount to anything.
Von - How exciting, look forward to a flash!
Barefoot - Welcome to 2nd Tri :)
AFM - Feel like a bit of a drip, debated whether to post at all to be honest. Started to feel better because I told myself I was not going back to work, but then as soon as I felt better I started thinking about whether I was being irrational and should I go back etc. Thats set me off again. I just don't know what is wrong with me, I've never felt like this before.
I feel like I should try to go back - mainly for after maternity leave. I've got more chance of being able to take part-time hours there, and still keep my career / a good salary than I have anywhere else. Hopefully by then, my hormones will be normal and I'll be able to take things in my stride again. To do my job elsewhere, I'd need to go full time and thats not something I'm interested in doing when our baby is here. If I took a different job route part-time, I'd be bringing home a lot less money. Money isn't everything but I feel guilty about throwing away the opportunity to earn more, when that money could go into the pot (and H won't feel pressurised into bringing home the majority of our money to cover bills!).
I just can't seem to bring myself round to the idea of returning though. Its like right now, I can't. I can picture it, I'll just be an emotional wreck. I don't know how I'd manage it - even getting myself up on the morning to do it and so on. I just feel so guilty with every option thats available to me right now. I know I still have a week to compose myself, but I can't seem to forget about the upcoming decision and its on my mind constantly. Its emotionally draining to say the least.
And I'm well aware I'm going round and round in circles too :-( (Sorry!!) x
17/02/2014 at 11:40
Ah Pep, sending you a big hug. When are you supposed to be going back?
You've made some valid points for going back, but you don't have to go back until you're ready. If you feel like you need more time then I'm sure your dr would give you another sick note?
17/02/2014 at 11:44
Fig - Not till next week. I'm just nervous about anymore notes because inevitably its just going to make the return even harder. But at the same time I don't feel like I can go back right now. Its like a no win situation! I don't want to go back and have an emotional breakdown.
17/02/2014 at 11:52
Pep can I be honest? You don't sound to me as though you're ready to go back, or that you'll be ready to go back in a week. I really think that I would ask for an extension on the sick note and ask them to make it for longer next time. You sound like you're feeling under pressure as you know that the time left on this note is drawing in.
As for your other point abput returning, I can understand that and I agree. I am in the same boat with regards to PT money available elsewhere etc. I think take some time now over the next month, don't make any decisions as you don't need to yet.
17/02/2014 at 12:08
I agree completely with Imp. The return will be easier if you allow yourself to go back when you're ready. Forcing yourself to go back when you're not ready really wont help x
17/02/2014 at 13:21
Thanks ladies. I think you are both right. Sorry for going on and on about it, it helps to talk! I don't feel like I have many people to talk to - I just keep crying to H and can't get my words out, and I don't really want to worry my family etc either. Other people who keep asking how I am are just driving me insane - I don't know what they expect me to say - I don't feel like I can respond with how I'm really feeling, as the people asking are people who I don't think would understand, if I'm honest. Plus I feel like a drama queen being so doom and gloom over this.
17/02/2014 at 13:42
You can always talk to us pep, don't ever apologise for being honest. It's good to talk :)
As for others. They just don't know what to say, at least they're showing concern but I know how hard and frustrating it can be to answer. In the end I was honest with people, I told them I was feeling terrible, or sad, or generally just in a bad place.
17/02/2014 at 18:20
Imp - what time is your scan tomorrow, keeping everything crossed everything with Happy Feet is on track :) can't wait to see a pic
Fig - I get ya with how weird the feelings are when baby moves it's strange at times. I hope you don't get a cold.
VT - aw don't say cot beds are a nightmare to put together, we'll end up buying one soon and I guess there will be some heated words at the time haha! I hope you don't get a cold either. Nice to have some time off though ay :)
Barefoot - hello lovely, so great to see you over here, get stuck in :)
Pep - you poor thing you certainly are going through it right now. I hope you find some peace in your decision when you make one. I hate being indecisive and things like this is very important. I'm with Imp keep on talking here, we are all here to offer view points should it be needed and a huge shoulder too :)
I haven't seen the mw over the spd, so not been diagnosed but I'm pretty sure it is that after reading about it on the NHS website. I have the mw in 2 wks so will speak to her about it then. I might start a thread on here about it get some advice from others going through it.
Take care ladies and hope you have lovely evenings and woohoo that's Monday done :)
17/02/2014 at 18:36
Not sure if I'll catch anyone or not.
Imp - Wow only 1 sleep. Its absolutely amazing how quickly its come round. I know you'll be extremely nervous but I'm confident everything is absolutely fine. Hope you get some sleep tonight!!!!
LeeLee - boooooo to bad sleeps. Sorry your hips and back are giving you so much trouble. Yay to H feeling movements though.
Fig - hope you haven't caught man flu - I hear its really awful!!!! Yay to the little girlie doing some back flips in there!!!
VT - thats exciting getting the nursery furniture sorted. Defo need a flash when the room is sorted out. Hope your cough doesn't come to much and you feel better soon.
Pep - I agree, it doesn't sound like you are ready to be heading back to work yet. Think of yourself and your little baby. They are the most important things right now and try not to worry about anything else. Easier said than done I know but don't stress yourself out any more. Hugs to you xxx
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