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14/08/2013 at 07:51
Hope you're all feeling well.
Work day for me today, have a day off tomorrow then back in on Friday, so a short working week. Meeting my old assistant for lunch today, she's been travelling the world for the last 15 months so very excited to see her.
Bump is ok, less than a month until EDD now, eeek! Had some bad stitch type pains in the side of bump last night, really painful. Seems ok this morning though.
14/08/2013 at 08:23
Morning BG, short week for me too. In today then out the rest of the week. We are taking the girls to Legoland tomorrow-they don't know that yet!! Hope you have fun meeting up with your old assistant, bet she's got some great stories.
AFM, hoping for an easy day at work but that is unlikely. Will try and knock off a bit early so we can start getting bits together for tomorrow.
Hello to all that follow!
14/08/2013 at 08:27
BG - enjoy lunch with your assistant. Bet she has some fab stories.
Noggin - hope you do get your quiet day. Have fun tomorrow.
Afm - D is at nursery today so mum and I are off to do some shopping and have lunch. Baby feels like she could fall out today. Lots of pain really low down. Not getting my hoes but you never know. H has both his phones on him today. He was hoping not to go to work but nae such luck for him.
Hi to all that follow x
14/08/2013 at 08:37
BG - Bet your assistant will have some exciting things to say!
Noggin - Hope you get an easy day.
Daisy - Hope you manage to enjoy your lunch and time with your mum. Finger crossed
I am not good today at all. Started with armpit pain yesterday, went into a mild panic about what it could be and there is a little lump. Then the double cold sore appeared and after a bit of googling it looks like my lymph nodes are swollen as they try and fight the virus. It's giving me face pain and head ache and I just feel like crap. I caved in and had some paracetemol earlier. I had some stitch like pains low down yesterday evening. Is this normal?
14/08/2013 at 08:39
BG enjoy your lunch and catch up , bet she has lots to tell you
Nog- enjoy leg plans, hope it stays dry
Daisy- hope the pains are a good sign. Enjoy your shopping trip
AFM W is at nursery today, so more gloss painting for me :( but then off for a meal with friends tonight for my birthday this sat . ( I have been in denial about turning 30 but as I seem to be having multiple celebrations in the build up to it I'm slowly coming round to the idea!)
14/08/2013 at 08:42
Hi LP - hope you start feeling better. I've been having stitch like pains on and off. Usually in the evenings. Last night I felt fine sat down but when I stood up it really hurt like something really pulling , but I was fine 5 mins later so I think sometimes its position and sometimes just things stretching in there
14/08/2013 at 08:51
BG - will be nice to catch up with your assistant and hear her stories, enjoy lunch.
Noggin - hope you get your easy day today!
D - have some baby out vibes lovely! Enjoy lunch and shopping in the meantime :)
LP - oh no, sorry you are not well. I think stitch like pains are normal, round ligament pain maybe?
JT - you are being spoiled for you birthday, how lovely. Makes up for the glossing!
AFM - back at work today after a couple of days ill in bed. Feeling better but really not in a working mood. Still, only in today and tomorrow then off on Friday as this week marks the start of my short weeks, woo! I too woke up with stitch pain in my bump early hours of this morning, right across the top and bump was really tight, strange. Think I freaked H out by sitting up and telling him I had stomach pain! It soon went though so not worried.
Hello to all that follow, have a lovely day all x
14/08/2013 at 08:53
Morning all :)
BG - wow bet she has some fantastic stories to tell! hope the pains stay away for you :)
Noggin - fingers crossed you can get off a bit early :)
Daisy - have a lovely day shopping! I'll get my hopes up for you :D
LP - hope you are feeling better soon :( nasty virus :( Ive been having pains like that since about 30 weeks, they came and went, now theyre there all the time :(
JT - have a lovely meal my sister says she is 29 and so many months because she wont admit to being over 30 lol.
AFM - mw today, Im still having pain pretty much all the time, braxtons are still there, so is the diarrhoea, its all poo (literally lol). Im hoping she will be able to give me some advice today. I had to speak to my tutor about my resubmission of my assignment that I so epically failed the other month and she has advised me to defer it until october so I have to get a doctors letter too today. I feel like I have rested less since being on anual leave than when I was working lol. Hi to all who follow xxx
14/08/2013 at 08:55
sorry missed you there PC I did that to hubby last week, it would have been mildly amusing if the pain hadnt been so bad hahahaha. Hope you have a good day at work xxx
14/08/2013 at 09:06
Generally feeling rubbish today and will do personals later.
H and I are having a really tough time at the minute. We have rowed (explosive screaming rows) about 4 times over the past week or so and it's really getting me down. H seems to think that I am being a complete pregnant nightmare of a woman which I completely disagree with, yes sometimes I am tired, yes sometimes I feel a bit stressed or hormonal but generally I am just being myself and actually love being pregnant.
Last night at 9pm he suggested we walk the dog to get out of the house for a little bit. Then he starts complaining at me telling me that I'm a completely different person when I'm not in work, he can't wait for me to finish, I'm so miserable all the time etc etc. I explained that yes, I am probably more tired when I am working and I feel fed up with work at the minute but that the majority of people are a bit more perky and happy on their days off surely!? It's this general moaning at me on a daily basis that is really getting me down. We talked about it for a while and it seemed to blow over.
Then, at about 11pm H suggested I go up to bed and he give me a back rub because he could tell I was tired and I couldn't get comfy on the sofa. We were lay in bed for about 10 mins and he was looking unease and tense. He then picked his phone up and said his friend had texted and he was going to go for a pint because he wasn't tired. All fine by me. I then asked if he was p*ssed off with me as he was coming across that way and I got another moan about how I look miserable again, how everything revolves around me, how I think I'm the only woman ever to be pregnant etc etc. Queue another 2 hours of talking on and off. Finally went to sleep at about 1.15am.
I always wake up before H and sort the dog and cat out in the mornings do any little bits etc. When I finally woke H up he sat up in bed the first thing to come out of his mouth was 'Why are you still p*ssed off?". I said I'm not pissed off, just immensely tired. This resulted in another 'Why can't you just drop things' etc talk even thought I was literally just tired!
I spent last night cry and have cried already this morning. I know my hormones are all over the place but just feel that I am getting such a hard time. I am feeling completely on edge that I have to act super happy and smiley all the time because if I don't H jumps all over me about my 'moods'. I have tried speaking to him over and over again but nothing seems to change. Feel completely deflated and like he isn't allowing me to enjoy this pregnancy.
Sorry for the rant. Just feeling a little emotional this morning. Don't really know if I am expecting any advice or just needed to vent!
14/08/2013 at 09:53
Sam I know exactly how you feel. My h and I have been arguing much more in this pregnancy. Last time I was fine- he even said so during the pregnancy and after that I was really good and not moody like most pregnant women seem to be.
This time I have been so different. I'm so do hormonal. I snap at him all the time, I make arguments out of everything and he's getting really sick of it. I feel like because I was fine last time I was pregnant I should be this time, but I'm finding it so much harder. Last time I was working full time so it was tiring but at least at weekends etc I was relaxing. Now I am a SaHM and running round after a very busy toddler 12 hours a day. At weekends I'm always in a really bad mood as he still lets me get up early with her and he sleeps in for ages. I tell him I'm really tired but he says so is he. He also gets annoyed that I fall asleep by 10 most nights on the sofa but its because I am so exhausted.
Sorry this had now turned into a rant of my own! But I just wanted to let you know you're not the only one. It's such a stressful difficult time for couples . I get really upset and worry that he's going to get sick of me being moody all the time and leave me. But I know I'm being stupid and paranoid and things will settle down again. We have got a very very rare child free night on Saturday Sonoma hoping we can have a good chat then and make him realise I'm not being like this on purpose,,I literally can't control it.
I would speak to your H ( ideally when you are not too tired, emotional etc) and explain how you are feeling. Tell him he needs to realise there is an awful lot going on in your body at the moment and its not something you can control. Tell him how he is making you feel.
But please don't worry, you're not the only one , I'm sure there's loads of others like me who can sympathise. And before you know it your baby will be here and as tiring and stressful as the early baby days are, they also help you bond as you gave to work as a teAm with exploding nappies, bath times etc.
14/08/2013 at 09:56
Missed you there Luna and pc
Luna- hope you get the doctors letter sorted. Will October be any easier for you though as will you have the time with a new baby to do it then? Can it be deferred any further?
PC enjoy your short weeks, a nice way to wind down your last few weeks
14/08/2013 at 10:08
Aw Sam I really feel for you. I don't think men can really understand how different being pregnant can make you feel - sometimes even just a 10 minute walk can be enough to knacker you out completely and turn you in to a grump. Can you suggest a date night to get you both out of the house and a change of scenery? If you can have a nice evening out together then you might be able to talk a bit more openly without going round in circles - tell him you don't want to be arguing all the time and that you're in this together and remind him that it's all for the very best possible reason that it's happening :) JT is right, once the baby is here, you will be pulling together to manage your little girl and I'm sure all of this will be a distant memory.
Lots of hugs lovely x
14/08/2013 at 10:16
JT- Thanks for the response, makes me feel a bit more normal! The frustrating thing is that I really don't think I have been particularly moody or snappy generally, just that H expects me to be super cheery all the time at the minute and if there is any sign that I'm not I feel like I'm just being scrutinised. Then when he starts moaning at me I can't cope with the stress of having another long drawn out conversation (H is famous for feeling the need to sit down and talk about such teeny issues) so I completely flip my lid because I just want to be left alone.
We have H's daughter at weekends so are busy pretty much all weekend, every weekend and I feel like I just don't get a break. She doesn't go to bed until 9.30pm because she has no routine at her mums making it hard for us to put her to bed any earlier but by that time I am so exhausted and just want some down time. It also makes me sad that he seems to make out I am the worse pregnant woman ever which makes me think that his ex obviously coped with everything better than me and makes me feel like a failure.
I just worry that when the baby is here I'm going to be even more tired and stressed and if I'm not getting the support and help I need from him now then what is going to change?
I have spoken to him this morning and he has apologised and said he knows that he needs to back off and give me what I need. It just feels like I have heard it all before but I suppose I will have to wait and see if anything changes.
14/08/2013 at 10:37
Awww hell sam, trust me you are not alone. My H has been similar except if I apologise for anything he tells me off, he has asked his female friends and family if they were like me going into some detail about problems Ive had (kill me now!) and due to issues with his family getting so out of hand we have even discussed splitting up. I hate the phrase do you think you are the only woman ever to be pregnant luckily my H has avoided that one but I can see it coming from his family. We all know we arent the first woman to be pregnant and experience all this but we are the only ones experiencing THIS pregnancy NOW and that is all that matters. Massive cuddles.
JT - Ive got the main body of work done it is the travelling to the campus on public transport I cant do for tutorials and referencing, Ive tried but its due in monday next week :( . At least when baby is here I can go for an entire day, at the moment Im just not feeling good enough to do all the travelling and Im a bit too hormonal lol. My tutor has been fab , its the middle of October and if I need too put it back again I can, Im very very lucky lol.
14/08/2013 at 10:52
BG- have a lovely day, I bet she had a fab time. A month to go eekk
Noggin-hope you get off early, they will be so excited tomorrow
Daisy- have a nice lunch, hope its the start for you
LP- perfectly normal when your fighting a virus, if the paracetamol doesnt calm it down then you might need to see the GP, keep a close eye on it
JT- have fun at dinner, im denying turning 30 soon! Hope the glossing goes well
Popcorn- glad your feeling better, yay for shorter working weeks now
Luna- hope the midwife can give you some answers
Samjh87-I dont think men can understand at all how tiring it is and sometimes you just wanna be quiet and go to bed early.glad you had a chat this morning, hopefully that helps.
AFM 38 weeks today, saw midwife yesterday all good. Tens machine just arrived so im all ready!
14/08/2013 at 11:06
Thanks for your advise and experiences all. Really has helped!
I think I'm just going to whack H over the head and try to knock some sense in to him. He seems very apologetic this morning so we shall see if the penny has finally dropped over the next coming days/ weeks I suppose.
Hope everyone else is doing okay xx
14/08/2013 at 11:19
Don't want to Read and Run, but Sam, my hubby has been crappy too. First pregnancy he was amazing and wrapped me in cotton wool, wouldny let me hoover at all (too strenuous) and brought me breakfast in bed EVERY DAY for 9 months and a bit after baby was born!
This time it's total opposite. I actually shifted a set of drawers right in front of him the other day and he didn't even offer to help.
14/08/2013 at 11:39
IDC- Would love to see it if it was men that were pregnant!
I really don't expect him to do anything above and beyond, and he certainly hasn't taken on any extra jobs around the house etc. I have pretty much carried on as normal throughout pregnancy anyway and was painting the house over the weekend while H sat and watched tv- things like this really don't bother me! I have no problem doing as much as I can and don't expect tonnes of extra help and to be pampered because I'm pregnant. The only thing I am asking him to do is just leave me alone and not keep nagging me if I come across as a little tired.
Starting to feel like moving out for 9 months while I was pregnant might have been a good idea!
14/08/2013 at 11:42
OMG. Due to all the moaning I've been doing I've only just realised baby is now a squash! That looks bloody huge!
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