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13/04/2015 at 09:10
Sorry I've not really been around for a while. I need to catch up. How are we all? What has everybody been doing?
We had an "eventful" weekend. H has chipped a tooth and we currently don't have a dentist so hes signing up to one tomorrow. Then he managed to tear some ligaments in his thumb and now he can barely use that hand, apparently it could take up to 6 weeks to go back to normal. Great timing hey! I've been feeling really sore around my pubic area and hips. Sleeping last night was a real struggle, I'm hoping I'm not developing SPD. However only a couple of weeks left for me.
I'm quite glad that the children have gone back to schools this week, it means that the places I would normally take D to in the week such as swimming won't quite be as busy. I've got a lady coming round today who lives in my area and is having twins about a week after me. She's coming over for a chat and a cup of tea. I've met her once before but H is worried about me having somebody over who I don't really "know".
Can't wait to hear how you are all getting on! Hi to anybody who follows.
13/04/2015 at 10:30
That does sound like an eventful weekend and not in a good way! I think it's nice you're having that lady round. I imagine it'll be nice for you to talk to someone in the same boat. I really hope you haven't got the start of spd. How long have you got left now?
Afm - not much to report. Currently 18+4. Had a lovely weekend, was at my sister's on Saturday, although my mum kept commenting on what I was eating. Apparently two rolls for lunch is ridiculous and this baby must have 'a healthy appetite!' I wouldn't mind but I'm actually lighter now than I was when I got pregnant!
13/04/2015 at 10:51
MS - I was wondering how you were getting on. That certainly does sound like an eventful weekend, your poor H! Hope you're not getting SPD. It will be lovely for you to know someone in the same boat, I'm sure she's really nice - but it is sweet of your H to worry!
Holey - Goodness me, TWO rolls?! Ludicrous! ;) Hope those comments don't last long, I'd imagine your patience would wear thin very quickly! Glad you had a nice weekend though.
AFM - Had a fairly nice weekend doing not a whole lot. On Saturday we went to get another gro egg and a gro light, and a couple of outfits for baby miraculously found their way home with us too! Bump has definitely grown since last week, I sent a comparison picture to my friend and she couldn't believe the difference! It's definitely getting to be harder work moving around, and rolling over in bed takes flipping ages now!!
My mum is starting to get on my nerves a bit, I don't know if I'm BU or not (H says not) - I live 100 miles away from her so I have to keep her updated on things mostly by text or phone call. It just feels like everything I say she turns it back round on to her. If I say I'm not sleeping well, or the night trips to the loo have started, or whatever, she replies with "tell me about it, me too, oh woe is me" etc etc. I'm getting to the point of just not wanting to tell her anything any more! Why can't she just let me have my pregnancy grumbles without always making it about her?!
Sorry, self-absorbed rant over now! Hi to all who follow x
13/04/2015 at 14:01
MS lovely to see you. Sounds like the kind of eventful weekend you could do without at 34 weeks with twins, hope your H recovers quickly. I really hope you haven't got SpD developing, I'm really struggling with it now and it's awful.
Holey that would drive me made if people were commenting on my eating like that but I've been the grumpiest pregnant woman ever this time round. How is two rolls too much anyways? Sorry, got ranty on your behalf then!
ST I can rant on your behalf too if you like? I am of the firm belief that in most cases, pregnancy 'wins' over other people's grumbles. You should see the look my H gets when he moans about being tired!
AFM had curry, pineapple and even hanky panky over the weekend but nothing. And the hanky panky was NOT easy with SPD let me tell you. Totally not worth it. I've got lots planned this week in the hope that I can invoke Sod's law! John Lewis with mum tomorrow. I heard a rumour that if you go in to labour in john Lewis that they let you keep whatever you were shopping for. You will be able to find me meandering around the shoes...or possibly holding a flat screen telly if H had his way...
13/04/2015 at 16:11
MS - Hope the chat with the pregnant lady goes well! I understand your hubby's concerns, but i'm sure she's perfectly lovely, and you'll have a good friend to bat things off of as times goes on too! - But Ouch to your H's tooth! Hope he can get it sorted!
Holey - How are 2 rolls ridiculous? you're allowed to eat whatever you want regardless of whether your pregnant or not for a start!
ST - Funny you should say that about your mum....My H's mum went off on one at my H because we were refusing to disclose the section date because she thinks we should allow family to share in our excitement... you're certainly not being unreasonable to want to have it about you, because it should be about you.
Popcorn - Sorry to see you're still here :-( Come on baby Popcorn!!! I've heard about shops doing that too. Totally get yourself to John Lewis and fill a basket!
AFM - Well what a bloody weekend I've had!! Started that I got home from work on Friday and my mum was watching W so my sister could get away to her boyfriends a bit earlier and avoid the traffic (which she normally does) But my mum then turns around and tells me that my sister is planning on going on holiday while I’ll be in hospital after I have baby…which put a massive spanner in my organised plan that I had in place for this baby’s birth. We had discussed it all at length months ago that the plan was that she would be off the clock the day I came home from the hospital, and that she would be off for the next 3 weeks. Got into an argument with my mum about it because she didn’t understand why H couldn’t watch W while I was in the hospital because SHE didn’t have any company when she was in having my sister. I pointed out that it wasn’t about the 2nd day, but the day I get discharged. I didn’t want to be hanging about waiting for H to show up to leave and have to bring W into the hospital when I didn’t know how long it would take.
So my mum left and I was raging. We decided to ask H’s mum to watch W on the day I was to be discharged so that I didn’t have to rely on my sister.
H spoke to his mum the next day and she seemed less than thrilled at the prospect of helping because she was of the opinion that we’d shut her and H’s family out of this pregnancy. She said she’d do it, but didn’t want to stay at ours, which kind of made things a bit difficult as I wanted W to stay at home and retain a little sense of normality until we came home. Anyway, so H and I ended up falling out on the Saturday morning because what was supposed to be a discussion about what to do about me going into hospital, turned into a discussion about how his mum felt shut out. He got a text from her saying that she thought we should tell everyone in the family the section date because family should be able to share in our excitement which just angered me more. It wound up that I stormed off to our room and had a rant about it to some of the girls who are on Facebook and the more I thought about it, the more I realised that I felt like I was losing control of something that I thought I had complete control over, and I didn’t like it. I sat on my own for about an hour really thinking about how I felt and it donned on me that the whole reason I was going for a section was to please everyone else, and to make things easier to plan around for everyone else…Not because I wanted to go for one…I never really wanted one, and now that I really thought about it, it hit me like a ton of bricks that I really, really didn’t want to do it. The hospital said that there was no reason why I couldn’t tr
13/04/2015 at 21:55
MS - that is an eventful weekend! I think it's lovely you'll get to meet a twin mum so close to you, should be a great support for you!
Holey - gasp! Not 2 whole rolls! My dad said I look 'very healthily pregnant, wouldn't it be nice if it was twins', ***! Ignore, ignore, ignore! Eat what the hell you want, it's all for baby
ST - you're definately not being unreasonable. You should unequivocally be allowed to grumble, it's a pregnant lady's right!
Popcorn - definately hang round the shoe department! My money is going to be on a due date baby for you!
RKB - that's one hell of a weekend! Sorry you had to go through all that, but I'm so happy for you that you're happy with the birth plan for you now. Really hope that baby is playing ball and is in a good position for you!
Afm, the appointment I went to on Friday was a vbac clinic, they haven't managed to pursuade me that's it's the right option for me yet, and the midwife couldn't answer my questions about any age related risks, so I'll still have to see the consultant for that info. She did tell me that after reading my notes from last time, her opinion was that I'd have never given birth naturally as he was back to back and had his head up rather than chin to chest (forget the name she used). No one ever told me that! So I'm now trying to get my notes but not getting very far.
Hi to anyone who follows x
14/04/2015 at 08:52
Hi Mrs P! When i was at my appointment in March about delivery options, i had the consultant and midwife sit in and talk me through W's birth. It amazed me how much i didn't know about what actually happened. It was all a serious of unfortunate events, and nothing that i could have done to stop it happening! W's size, the fact i'd been labouring for so long and W didn't descend into the birth canal because of the swelling that was caused (due to his size). Had i known that from the outset, I'd never have agreed to an elective. The consultant told me that the safest way to give birth is naturally. An elective section is the 2nd safest method. Obviously if you opt to go for a vbac and it fails, then you may end up in another emergency section, but apparently 70% of first time deliveries that resulted in a section, go on to have successful vbacs!
14/04/2015 at 09:14
Popcorn - please can you be holding a joolz pram when you go into labour in JL?! I'll buy it off you! (For a reduced rate!). I hope you have a nice day with your mum and it does make everything kick off. Got everything crossed you're not holding on much longer.
ST - you most definitely are not being unreasonable! Pregnancy pain definitely trumps anything else! Do you normally get on well?
RKB - I'm so pleased you have made the decision YOU want. It doesn't matter about anyone else, you have to make the right decision for you. I'm also glad your sister situation is resolved.
Afm - yes my mum can be a bugger sometimes! She started going off on one when I said I'd had scampi the other night, she was convinced I shouldn't be eating it, grrr!
I meant to mention that I think I felt the baby moving for the first time last week! I can't be sure but I think that's what it was.
Off out for dinner to a steak house tonight (sob! I love steak!) But as I can't have it rare I'm going for fish cakes instead.
14/04/2015 at 09:19
Popcorn - ooh if that's true I'm going to plan to spend a lot of time in John Lewis towards the end! Hope baby doesn't keep you waiting too much longer. Yeah if my H mentions being tired he gets "the look"!
RKB - Goodness, what a weekend - and what a can of worms! In a way it's good that it happened though, I'm glad you've made a decision about the birth that's what *you* want. Sod everyone else! And if they want to throw their toys out of the pram that's their problem.
Mrs Penguin - Hope you have some success in getting your notes, and getting answers to your questions from the consultant.
Holey - On the whole yes, we get on well. We don't argue or anything, but sometimes she can say or do things thoughtlessly and at times I find her very difficult to be around. How exciting to feel baby's movements! Soon enough you'll be in no doubt that's what you can feel.
I am *tired* today. Think I'll be heading to bed at an obscenely early hour tonight! Bump also feels quite tight inside, if that makes sense... It's uncomfortable, that's for sure!
16/04/2015 at 08:42
ST - I think my relationship with my mum is similar except she thinks she knows everything! Hope your bump is feeling less uncomfortable now.
Well I am 19 weeks today! Seems very weird. I am also tired, I've been out for dinner for the last two nights so haven't been going to bed early enough. My H's nan has given him a load of knitting patterns to choose what cardis we want which is lovely. She also sent him away with a little knitted rabbit which is baby's first toy!
16/04/2015 at 10:57
Holey - eek, almost half way! That's so lovely of your H's nan, what a fab first toy! We've been given a crocheted blanket by a colleague of H's, another friend said she's making us a knitted one, and no doubt my grandma will give us a few bits as she's always been into knitting and crochet and all that. Dinner out two nights running sounds exhausting! Hope you get a nice early night to compensate.
I've spent most of this week feeling tired, achy, and a bit more on the side of miserable than I'd like... But I've perked up a bit today because a) I'm off tomorrow, and b) we booked a cheeky weekend away in a log cabin last night - one last break away before our lives are turned upside down! Only 29 days to wait, yay!
17/04/2015 at 06:35
ST - log cabin sounds lovely. Whereabouts will you be going? We went to one in the forest of Dean last year and it was really good. I hope you have a nice day off today.
Has anyone got any plans for the weekend?
Also shout out for popcorn, I hope your absence is because baby has arrived! Also for peanut as I haven't seen anything from her. Hope everything is ok
17/04/2015 at 07:55
Am I too early to join you ladies? Got my BFP this morning, haven't had a scan yet of course and anything could happen but would like to join in as I am technically in my first tri :-)
17/04/2015 at 08:49
Never too early to join in Enjayee. Congratulations again.
I'll be back on later to catch up on personals.
17/04/2015 at 09:19
Thanks, MS :) We have our first scan on 27th April which seems quite early? But I guess they know what they're doing and because it was via IUI I guess that's something I'd be getting anyway. Who knows. Anyway, I have a bunch of questions for them - I'm now questioning everything I eat! Really fancied making a homemade pizza tonight, am guessing mozzarella is ok? I literally have no idea what I am doing!
17/04/2015 at 09:20
(Sorry in advance for any newbie questions which may have been asked over and over!)
17/04/2015 at 09:33
Yay! Hi enjayee!
Yes mozzarella is fine. I've used the nhs website for the list of foods you should avoid. Some of them are quite random! How far along will you be on the 27th then?
17/04/2015 at 10:04
Oh man, not long! Four weeks, something like that? I'm 15DPO today. See, I literally have no clue :D Will check out the NHS website, thanks Holey xx
17/04/2015 at 10:13
No probs. I had literally a million questions so keep them coming, one of us can definitely help!
You go from the date of your last period to work out how far along you are. So you'd be 15 plus the number of days since your period started if that makes any sense?!
It'll be interesting to hear how things work for you over there compared to the nhs here too.
17/04/2015 at 10:29
Ah ok well it's CD30 today so I'll be six weeks in that case!
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