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27/11/2013 at 20:03
For the past 3 weeks A has been waking quite a few times in the night and will settle all the while either me or H is in the room but the minute we go to leave he starts to cry and does not stop until we go back in. There is no pattern to it some nights (like last night) he woke at 2am then 3.30am crying so I went in and popped his dummy in and he went straight back off. other nights like last Friday he woke at 1.15am so we did controlled crying until 2.30am where he worked himself into a right paddy and I ended up bringing him downstairs to sleep on the sofa with him. i ended up pulling him away from his toys 3 times before giving up, he then happily played until 5.35am then fell asleep until 8am. I established a bedtime routine with him 3 months ago which starts with bath time 7pm - 7.30pm then he goes into his cot with a warm bottle of milk and falls off to sleep with no problems. He also has a 2hr nap during the day from 12 till 2pm. When his awake his very active and happy. I refuse to let him get in bed with me and H as we did this for 3 months and it resulted in him having a lovely nights sleep but me and H walking around all bleary eyed as A would starfish and we would be squashed at the end. I refuse to give him any milk before 5am as I don't want to go down that road but always offer him water. He has a nightlight and lullaby teddy but both aren't really working. All we are doing at the moment is controlled crying which is resulting in him wearing himself out and eventually falling asleep after a huge paddy.
Can an anybody else offer any tips please and tell me this is just a phase that will pass. I don't think it has anything to do with his cot as he goes down no problem most nights and will happily self settle after drinking his milk.
Thank you for any tips/advise, I just feel like a real mean mummy and it breaks my heart hearing him sobbing :-( x
27/11/2013 at 20:46
have you checked if he is teething? Disco is 16 months an we are having bad nights on and off most of it is tooth related, a cuddle is enough to sooth him but put him down and he cries again and becomes very agitated. He chews his fingers in the day but is fine without pain relife but sometimes at night it takes a does of painkiller to help him settle.
We don't do CC but if he does wake in the night (non tooth related) we go in and pick him up and cuddle (we have a chair in his room) he doesn't get to go anywhere other than his room he isn't allowed to get off our laps etc if he tries he gets put back in his cot and we keep the room dark so he knows it is still night time.
I think non tooth related waking maybe developmental he wakes at2/3 and just wants to practise what he is learning but then gets frustrated / upset.
I guess I am saying this too shall pass its just rotten when your knackered
28/11/2013 at 06:41
Thank you drifter. Yes he has all the signs of teething again and it feels like it's taking forever for this tooth to cut. I also think it could be a back tooth coming through as he wasn't this bad when his top and bottom cut. I have tried on occasions giving him paracetomol to help the pain and always keep the room in darkness all bar a nightlight. I really do hope this is a phase as he woke last night at 2am and wouldn't go back until 4am this morning. I mainly let him cry it out with the occasional head stroking to sooth him but I just feel like such a wicked mummy. The main problem is that he is already so headstrong (gets that from his daddy, lol) so I know if I stay with him each time he wakes then he will come to expect that every night, so all I can do is go in and erasure him then leave the room.
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