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23/03/2016 at 11:33
Im 19 and i found out im 11 weeks I've known for like a month and i keep feeling like im too young and that i cant provide for my child. I was working as a bouncer on a weekend but can no longer do that in case i get hurt splitting fights up which doesn't bother me but i have a baby to think about now. I dropped out of university last December because i was living too far from home and was planning on going back to university this year somewhere closer to home but i clearly cant do that anymore. I'm currently living at my parents home and i cant afford to get my own place due to not working and the council will only give me a 1 bedroom flat. ive tried looking for jobs and is currently on JSA but i got told by the person handling my claim that i have no skills and was looking down at me when ive never not had a job and been working since i was 16 with 2 jobs at least and still in education so will having a child hold me back from a career? my partner is working none stop so i barely see him and i feel as though i can no longer have the life i wanted as i can no longer go out drinking or work on the doors. i was thinking about defering my university application for next year however i dont know how im suppose to get childcare for a child under 1 as my family are never available for care. I already miss going out on a friday and saturday night when im not plus ive never been on a lasses party holidays etc and i dont want to miss out :((
23/03/2016 at 13:41
My friend got pregnant at 16 and still Managed to do everything she wanted whilst having a baby, but she also lived with her parents and her mum wasn't working anymore so she could count on her mum to help out, it's tough if you don't have your mom.
I live in a different country so I don't have anybody to help me out with my 4 month old and it is tough on your own no matter the age (I'm 24)
I also live in a one bedroom apartment and that's plenty for me,my partner and my son, so if that's all the council can offer,you should take it
You also got plenty of time to go on a girly holiday, heck some people go abroad when they're pregnant, just can't get any heat on the tummy area and keep hydrated.
Don't see this as a end of the life you got now, having a baby is the most precious thing and it's life changing, I didn't miss alcohol at all and I barely drink it now even though I can.
Sorry for the long essay,just don't want you feeling alone with these thoughts.
Take care x
23/03/2016 at 13:44
Ohh and to answer your question. Yes you can totally have a life and a baby to bring you join at the same time.
Also once baby is a year, they can start going nursery and you can go back to university part time, if that's what you still want then x
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