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06/11/2015 at 22:47
Hi I'm 20+6 today with a little girl and really worried about an incompetent cervix. I can't shake the thought that I may have one even though I have no real reason to believe that I do. I have suffered badly with anxiety this pregnancy and it seems to be one little thing after another that I worry about with it currently being this. I find it so cruel that the nhs doesn't normally diagnose unless you have a loss as it's not common. I've never had surgery on my cervix so I have no reason to think I have this problem. At 17+4 I had some spotting and freaked out I went to hospital and they found babies heartbeat and checked with a speculum and said my cervix was firmly shut. This bleeding was caused by an orgasm after external masturbation. It lasted for a few wipes and then stopped. I hadn't thought anything of it after hospital said all was fine but i was to embarrassed to tell them what caused the bleeding. Now yesterday I did the same thing and it happened again. I phoned triage who wouldn't see me as the bleeding had stopped and they told me to rest up and only to come in if I started bleeding again, doctors wouldn't refer me to the hospital and they won't check my cervix as I've never had a early loss (first pregnancy) really cruel I think that a women has to loose a baby before they check and my midwife app isn't until the 3rd December and she hasn't returned my voicemail. This also happened at about nine weeks as well and all has been ok so far but I've heard vaginal spotting can be a sign of incompetent cervix. After masturbating I have noticed that it stings for about two wees afterwards and that's it. Baby was still kicking last night and I found heartbeat on Doppler but I'm so scared I just want a scan on my cervix and I can't have one. All scans (dating and anomaly scan have been fine) but I am terrified I will go into premature labour and no one is taking me seriously. I feel so alone and spend every day wondering if today is the day and if my cervix is opening or not. I have a fundal placenta so it's not like a low lying placenta is causing the problem. But why is this happening?
Also the bleeding has never been fresh but pink/brown.Anyone to talk to would be lovely and so appreciated. I feel so alone and need someone to talk to instead of the endless googling I'm doing.Thanks everyone
07/11/2015 at 03:34
It's completely normal to bleed a lil after masturbating or sex. Cervix is more sensitive whilst pregnant,so unless it fills up a pad within a hour after masturbating or has clots,don't waste your time going hospital and midwifes are always on call if you're worried.
There is normally signs to a incompetent cervix and it can be prevented if it does happen most of the time.
I get it's easy to worry,I've worried this whole pregnancy but I never worried about "what if" just makes rest of pregnancy miserable,trust me.
Just relax and take each day as it comes, babies feel your stress through hormones in the blood stream, could hinder their brain growth.
Goodluck with rest of pregnancy x
07/11/2015 at 15:14
Totally agre with everything charrz said! It's very common to bleed after sex/masturbating and even more so if it's rough.
unless you bleed heavily with fresh red blood and clots with pain there is most likely nothing to worry about.
when you found out your cervix was firmly closed they would have seen if there was something wrong and done further testing there and then. Try and relax, and next time you see your midwife talk to her about your anxieties- she is there to ease your worries!
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