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22/07/2013 at 13:08
Just looking for abit of reassurance tbh.. I’m 31wks and feeling really down. The weather over the past few weeks hasn’t helped either. Its my first pregnancy and really want to enjoy it, I’m only 23 and although the pregnancy was planned - i feel alone. My partner already has two boys from a previous relationship, so iv been going to most midwife appointments on my own. My best friend & mum have been there for me loads.
I got on the weighing scales the other Saturday and noticed i have only put on 3lbs.. I feel like im failing my daughter already - I don’t know what to do with myself. I don’t want to keep putting on Mum and Bestest because they have their own life’s.
So is anyone feeling fed up & want a chat ?
22/07/2013 at 13:16
Bless ya hun wots ur mw say about weight gain? I remember u saying ur only very small anyway so maybe that's it. Ur not failing ur daughter at all and I can sympathise with the weather, my dd is a July baby xx
22/07/2013 at 13:28
Nothing - She hasnt weighed me since my first appointment Im back tomorrow so im going to ask. I was 7st 8lb when i fell preg - so i have put some on, but all books and people are saying i should have put a stone on by now not a few pounds
I have 9wk left & im praying i dont go over.. Im finding it really hard at work at the minute too but i dont wanna leave yet, i want to spend as much time with my daughter as i can before i have to come back to work. Everyone says im over doing it
Any tips on getting her here on time xx
22/07/2013 at 13:52
Sex! That and a birthing ball I sat n bounced on that for ages n she was 10 days early n very quick labour but the sex set me off within minutes of the last time we had sex I could feel something happen down there x
22/07/2013 at 14:13
Bonus - Well to say im so far on our sex life is pretty good... Getting it in while we can i think haaha.. Iv been told drinking strawberry/ raspberry tea too - So stocked up on that.She can came anytime after 11th august - Dont wanna miss my lil mans bday party Deffo going to get a birthing ball, xx
23/07/2013 at 04:18
Hey, I know the feeling of being alone. My husband has no children but his work takes up a lot of his time so I end up going to most prenatal visits with my mother. I try to schedule them so he can come too but it doesn't always work. Try talking to your husband about it and explain how you feel, and remind him that he may already have two boys, but this baby is his too and he should still be there regardless of if it's his third child, because it's your first. And it being your first, is supposed to be a special time for you and he should share in it. Also don't worry about not gaining so much/little weight. I'm in my first pregnancy (38 weeks now) and only gained, at the most, only 3lbs at first, then as I got closer I gain maybe a pound every day to my current weight of 134. I was worried that I wasn't gaining enough until now. Just got to remember that every woman and pregnancy is different. So long as you eat right and (continue) exercise, your baby will be healthy
23/07/2013 at 12:20
Iv been at the midwife this morning & my lil princess hasnt grown much/ if at all since my last check up. So she has sent me for a growth scan....
All i want is my lil princess to be okay & healthy. And im trying my best. xx
23/07/2013 at 12:36
When's your scan? maybe they'll induce you do she comes early. I'm sure shell be fine prob just small like her mum x
23/07/2013 at 13:31
Tomorrow morning at 11...
They have said i may need to have her early - but dont want her to come just yet. Not due while 22nd september. Worse case is that i have her end of august.
Im hoping shes like me - I was only 5lb 7oz full term xx
23/07/2013 at 13:39
If you're only small then chances are she will b too hun. My lo was almost same weight and size as I was and born almost 2 weeks early like me. I'm sure she's just fine keep us posted tomoz x
23/07/2013 at 13:59
I will do just so worried & to make things worse im stuck at work xx
23/07/2013 at 17:48
Chin up hun, your little one will be fine! Im feeling pritty misrable atm too- having quite alot of tear moments! I spent a year desparate to get pregnant, and now i just want it to be over! Pregnancy is HARD WORK, little flump has been sat on a nerve for 2 weeks so im waddling/limping everywhere, and people have NO sympathy, just expect you to get on with it but its so painful...ill be full term in 2 weeks, hoping for a early arrival...but knowing my luck it will be overdue!
They say you dont need to gain any weight to give your baby everything it needs hun, so try not to worry Im the opposite, feel like a whale with lots of weight gain and swollen legs! *huff*
24/07/2013 at 15:33
My lil princess's is weighing a healthy 3lb 8oz at the minute and said she will be about 5lb 9oz full term
So i have nothing to worry about.
I know how you feel about the teary moments - im having loads. Im still at work and really hot - so that isnt helping.... I have to get the bus home now and some people are so rude. You can tell im pregnant and far on but people dont care and take up seats with there shopping! I had a pop at an oldish lady the other day.. Was 31c and i was stood up, i asked her to move her shopping bag of the chair and she said no!! I told her to move it or ill sit on it. I felt like i was about to pass out.
Only 3wks left at work.. i can not wait xx
24/07/2013 at 18:50
Stupid cow. Glad all is well with baby she's gona b soooo teeny bless her how cute x
25/07/2013 at 15:47
Saw this post and was so relieved that somebody else has posted about how fed up they are! I am 34 weeks + 1 and today is my last day at work. The last few weeks have dragged by so slowly and although Im really glad to be finishing work because of how tired I feel I'm also dreading being sat at home all day with nothing to do as I know this will make time go even slower! Everybody keeps telling me to get up and about and enjoy it but with this heat all I want to do is sit down, even doing the housework feels like too much of an effort at the min!
Nicola so glad your scan was ok and your little lady is growing well, must have been a big relief for you and bet she'll be a teeny little cutie bless her! I've also been shocked at how rude some people can be, dont care that you're pregnant at all and have no consideration.
This is my second child (my dd is 4) and have also been feeling quite crap about how much people think that just because you've previously had achild its like you're supposed to not talk about it too much or ever have a moan about it you should just get on with it!!
Really sorry to gatecrash and have a major rant just feeling really low and emotional today vx
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