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30/06/2013 at 08:20
H is best man at a wedding in 2 weeks and I am invited too, but A isn't as they have a no children rule. We were going to leave her with the in laws but things aren't going well with a bottle, so I can't go if A doesn't (exclusively BF).
Would it be unreasonable to ask them if we can bring A? I would sit elsewhere during the ceremony/speeches if necessary. The groom's sister has a baby a month or two older than A who is going, so I'm thinking it wouldn't be completely unreasonable to just ask?
If they said no, that would be fine and I'd just accept it and not go, but I don't know if it'd be out of order to ask?
30/06/2013 at 08:25
I don't think it would be unreasonable at all. if you explain that you did have something else arranged but because A is refusing a bottle that now won't work out im sure they will understand.
30/06/2013 at 08:27
As your H is best man and not just any random guest I personally would think the bride and groom would be looking out for his personal enjoyment too iyswim,so I'd say no harm in asking. She is v young and you are nursing her so I personally wouldn't have issue with this but thenway x to me weddings are about children anyway! Ask them...no worse off that
30/06/2013 at 08:28
Sorry my reply is a tad jumbled...MD on mobile is a frigging pita!
30/06/2013 at 08:52
I'd ask but be prepared for them to say no
30/06/2013 at 08:55
It wouldn't be unreasonable to ask, and explain you had made plans to leave her but that she now can't be, and hourly they eil be ok with it. However I would be prepared for them to say no.
30/06/2013 at 09:24
what coco said, theres no harm in asking. If they say no they say no but it'd be pretty mean of them x
30/06/2013 at 09:31
i would defo ask, it seems a bit mean that they didn't invite A in the first place considering you are important guests.
30/06/2013 at 09:33
I'd definitely ask too. Not unreasonable given they probably would rather have there than not and this is the only way.
30/06/2013 at 10:13
H is going to call them later and explain the situation and see what they say. If they say no, then so be it, but at least we'll have asked :)
30/06/2013 at 10:22
it'll be really mean if they do say no Nenas, they cant expect you to not feed your baby all day x
30/06/2013 at 10:41
H just spoke to him and its a no-go. A bit *** really as it turns out the bride's niece will be there too, but that's the choice they've made.
30/06/2013 at 10:42
omg! thats awful :(
30/06/2013 at 10:52
Thats really crap to say no to their best mans breast fed baby! I would be seriously annoyed but not a lot you can do about it really. What does your h say about it all?
30/06/2013 at 10:57
He's pretty annoyed tbh, but what can we do. No point in making a fuss over it because if they do relent after we fuss, I'll be spending the whole day knowing they don't really want us there.
30/06/2013 at 10:58
Oh no Nenas that's rubbish, so you can't go and your H is best man? I'd be really upset too, what does your H think? xx
30/06/2013 at 11:00
Are you still going to go Nenas? Theyve put you in such a difficult position, and to say no just like that, Id be fuming
30/06/2013 at 11:05
I can't go if they're not letting A go. She won't take a bottle (at least not reliably enough to leave her with the in laws all day and us be 2 hours away which is what it'll be), so I'm going to have to stay at home.
The more I think about it the more annoyed I am, but it's their wedding and their decision and who am I to say it's wrong.
30/06/2013 at 11:10
But surely they must have been prepared for something like this knowing you were expecting and H being best man? To me I never understand the no kids thing anyway, I was happy to have kids and wouldn't ever put anyone in that situation but I'm aware others have strong feelings about it. However with your H being best man and obviously a very good friend I'd bend over backwards to accommodate you, especially if you arre going to be two hours away. It's going to cause bad feeling isn't it, and I'd want to avoid that at all costs. Did they just flat out refuse when he rang?
30/06/2013 at 11:14
Can you book a room for you inlaws and baby? And nip up to feed?
I think it's very unfair for them not to let you bring her.
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