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23/06/2013 at 23:38
I am 5 weeks pregnant tomorrow, and we told my partners parents in the last few days. We went round for Sunday lunch today and I was getting annoyed about something, having a bit of a hormonal rant, and she said "Now, don't get your blood pressure up, you're considered an older mum now you know!"
I was a bit suprised, and I have googled it since we came home and I cant find a definitive answer.... I am 29 now, will be 30 when the baby is born.
Am I really considered an old mum nowadays??
23/06/2013 at 23:50
Huh? I hope not! I've just had my second at 32 and I wouldn't consider myself an older mum at all.
24/06/2013 at 03:11
In your 20's? how ridiculous.
FWIW I just had #2 aged 38, that is older!
24/06/2013 at 05:40
No! I think technically over 35 is older
24/06/2013 at 06:43
24/06/2013 at 06:46
How rude of her, your not an older mum at all! I hate it when people just come out with whatever comments they like without thinking of other people's feelings. I was 31 with my first and 33 with my second and don't consider myself as an older mum
24/06/2013 at 06:49
No definitely not!
I was 29 when I had E and she's my first. Actually I'm one of the younger ones in my NCT group.
I think technically it's over 35, but I'd say more over 40.
24/06/2013 at 07:05
No. To me an older mum is 40 odd. I had my first at 23 and second at 25. Will be 28+ for a no3.
24/06/2013 at 07:06
I'm 29 and definitely do not consider myself an older mum. I think the technical, medical definition is over 35.
The irony of her comment getting your blood pressure up by saying that is quite funny. I'd play up to it and make her look after you when she's around
24/06/2013 at 07:45
I'm 31 but I do think she is sort of right as I have heard this before? However, given the average for having a first child is now 28 (I think) then it's sort of irrelevant?
Note to self: must take note of where I hear these things from (and discount straight away if via Daily Fail, lol)
24/06/2013 at 08:26
Definitely not an older Mum....I'm 39 with 1 son and we are the only ones in our group of friends with a child...or even thinking about it just now for that matter!
24/06/2013 at 08:28
I'm 33 having my first baby, so I don't think you're an older mum. If you are, then I must be ancient!
24/06/2013 at 08:44
I'm also 33 & having my first baby - in my first ANC midwife appointment, the midwife said 'you're lovely and young & healthy so we wouldn't foresee any problems' which I questioned her on as I distinctly remember my mother being upset when pregnant with me as they had described her as 'veteran'.
24/06/2013 at 09:07
I had my daughter at nearly 37 and was considered an older mum. It made no difference to the care except I qualified to have the nuchal scan and the blood tests for problems for 'free'. At the time in my area they weren't offering scans at 12 weeks unless you paid for them. Unless you were old enough. First scan offered on the NHS was at 16 weeks. Think things have probably changed since then (this was 6 years ago now).
So at 29 you are not considered an older mum at all.
24/06/2013 at 09:17
Not at all! I was 33 when I had C which seemed about average among most of my friends - I'll be at least 38 by the time we have a second which I would say is more like an older mum.
24/06/2013 at 09:30
Like you im 29 and will be 30 when our baby arrives and it's our first! There is no way i would have called myself an older mum.
It must be a generation thing, my mum was 19, 20 when she had my brothers, 40 years ago that was the done thing. She was 36 when she had me and was an 'older mum'
I have a friend in her early 40s now who is pregnant with her 2nd and she was classified as an 'older mum' for both of her's as she is over 40!
24/06/2013 at 09:32
I think it's over 35 you are considered medically 'older'
I was 30 with my second, considering another now at 31.5 (it won't be till about 33 though) and my mum already thinks iv left it too late she said I need to get a mice on
Iv had abnormalities and mc before though and I think over 35 your risk slightly increases so I am feeling twitchy about that and In my situation, from my previous experience if we aren't pregnant by 33 I think we will leave it iykwim but that's purely because iv had abnormalities before.
**a move on not mice
24/06/2013 at 09:43
Definitely not! I'm 28 and feel like a younger mum if anything!
24/06/2013 at 09:53
Technically now it is over 35, but even at 39 my midwife is fairly dismissive of the label.
However, for your mil it would have been the case. My mum was 27 when she had me in the 1970s and that was classed as a "geriatric mother"
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