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06/03/2014 at 11:58
Noods is coming next week via a planned section. I do not know yet whether it'll be under GA or Epidural it depends what they decide on the day (existing medical condition). However I have lots planned going forward with in laws and parents lined up for babysitting but now I'm panicking I may not be ready.
13 days after the section is my OH's birthday so were off out for a meal, his Mum, Sister and Nephew (4) are coming down for the week starting that day so they're babysitting, we'll be within 30 mins of home. They live a few hundred miles away so it only makes sense for them to come for a while, the OH will still be off work so he'll be about to help out and keep them entertained and feed them if needed.
Early April- I have a caravan so I'm thinking of going up for a few days with noods as friends are borrowing it over Easter and it's not been opened up since winter. It's a few hour drive each way. Easter- Going down to London to be on a TV show, Mum is coming with me to babysit whilst I film. I think I'll go on the train
May- Probably do a few weekends at the caravan, and nip to visit my parents at there's in the week as it's only 40 mins up the road.
June- OH Brother and SIL are coming down for a few days, they live even further away. Then going away abroad for a few weeks possibly 3 weeks with OH and Noods
July- Got the parents babysitting whilst we go to see Jimmy Carr overnight, then a week later we're meant to be going to Glasgow (from Yorkshire) for the weekend for a friends birthday party, still umming and arrhing over whether to take noods or leave her with my parents for the weekend.
I have had a cr*p pregnancy and have literally done nothing in 9 months, hence why I think I've got so carried away planning things for afterwards. My mum and dad were babysitting overnight for my nephew from a few days old to let my SIL have a rest, hence why they're sort of expecting it and it's not occured to me until recently I might not be ready to leave her. I am a little worried that my parents might be a bit too over excited and recently retired so are literally planning taking her out for walks, and trips to the towns lake for a few hours. Will I be glad of the rest or am I going to not want her to go?
06/03/2014 at 12:26
I think this is a really hard question as it's so personal. I didn't leave my H with anyone until he was 4 months and I had my hair done for 2 hours. I left him for about 6 hours at 7 months and have never left him more than 10 hours or overnight at 13 months. I don't know of you will be able to tell until baby is here as my plans totally changed!
Just make sure you don't push yourself to do things and get to enjoy time with baby yourself just doing not much. But don't turn down help either!
Don't think ivr really been any help apart from I think it may be too soon to know hoe you will feel
06/03/2014 at 12:29
Everyone is different as to if they don't want to leave baby, of if they are happy to get the break, so you won't know how you feel until baby arrives and the weeks go on.
From a practical point of view if you plan to ff if should be ok, but if you plan to bf then how long you can leave baby depends on how well they switch between boob and bottle.
W was always fine and was happy getting milk from anywhere so I was able to leave her. But B is a nightmare. She is 20 weeks and still very hit and miss with taking a bottle. Most of the time she refuses and would rather go hungry ( my friend took her out for the day for six hours and she wouldn't take the bottle the whole time)
06/03/2014 at 12:38
I am hoping BF, but want to get the baby used to expressed milk ASAP (I know it may be difficult), as my OH is keen to help out and I don't want to exclude him
06/03/2014 at 13:01
06/03/2014 at 13:12
I had a section 3 weeks ago. We went out for a meal on day 4 but took T with us. I would not have been happy having family staying with us but if OH is there hopefully he will do all the running around, and they will be helpful and do things for you. I felt funny having lots of people around me at first so may be worth suggesting they have some time out of the house to give you some peace.
I think you'll be ok with the rest. I went to Blackpool on Monday for the day (4 hour round trip) and I was shattered but I coped. Wasn't driving obv but just being in the car for all that time and walking around while I was there was quite tiring and I was very sore when I got home. T was grumpy too, think it was a lot for him too.
I had to leave T for a couple of hours the night we got home from the hospital as I was in absolute agony and had to get checked out. I felt horribly awful about it but he was fine, my mum watched him for me.
06/03/2014 at 14:24
His is your first right? I think its a bit early to know how you will feel..... you may be shattered and all you want to do it chill and not go out too much - play it by ear and don't book anything (or at least too much) you can't back out of if you feel like it at the time!! All the best for a safe delivery xx
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