30/09/2013 at 22:27
A friend of mine on facebook just shared this. It's sad that so many people think that children aren't doing well if they're not sleeping through. This is a refreshing article http://sarahockwell-smith.com/2013/09/30/the-great-sleep-obsession-the-problem-of-modern-day-life-versus-the-primitive-infant/
30/09/2013 at 22:58
That is so refreshing to read, thank you. With P he would wake constantly and I was beside myself ,and everyone disbelieving he didn't sleep to any pattern at all until over 3yrs old. S sleeps far better but still regularly wakes once a night or more at aged two. I'm so more accepting of it now, I think from knowing everyone here and their natural approach a lot if the time. Nice to see it written for others to read.
01/10/2013 at 03:10
Interesting, particularly at 3am but there is always something niggling in the back of my head when I read stuff like this - why then do some, or in my experience, a lot of babies sleep through the night? Are they evolutionary more advanced?
F is an awful sleeper and at times I am embarrassed because most people I come across in real life seem to recoil in horror at his lack of naps and frequent wakings! It doesn't help what is already an extremely stressful issue to deal with.
01/10/2013 at 07:54
JRJ I don't think some are more advanced, I think the ones that do sleep through have given in to sleep training.
01/10/2013 at 07:59
JRJ: This is the reason I shared this article. Very few infants naturally sleep all the way through the night but so many parents believe that they should so have used artificial 'sleep training' to ensure that they do. The point is you shouldn't feel embarrassed, he will sleep when he is ready to. Also, with all the added pressure on parents I wonder if everyone tells the truth about night wakings?
01/10/2013 at 08:16
Really refreshing article, thanks for sharing. Was only out yesterday when some strangers came up to admire E and the first question they asked was "does he sleep through the night". Have forwarded to my mummy friends and told them all to be proud of what we have achieved just like the article says
01/10/2013 at 11:53
Thank you BK, have actually cried reading this! There seems to be so many parents that profess their child 'sleeps through' (making me feel like poo!) but on further questioning it's not actually the case. Feeling a tad sensitive about this at the minute so your post was well-timed, thank you x
01/10/2013 at 13:34
Thank you for posting this. It was good to read after a very frustrating night with L (2yrs, 2mths) awake from 3am, for hour+half
01/10/2013 at 14:33
F is a very unsettled sleeper, he starts to stir anything between an hour to five hours after going down, I rush to settle him and if I can't I bring him into bed with me but I am worried that it is doing more harm than good, the last few days he has been screaming when going down to sleep and I haven't been able to work out if it is his reflux or if he is exhausted. He has not really been a crier up until now and I find it very hard to deal with.
Does anyone have any experience of unsettled sleepers, will he grow out of this, all google suggests is training him to self settle!
01/10/2013 at 14:34
Glad it was useful to so many of you. It ridiculous that parents are made to feel like failures if their children aren't sleeping through. My daughter (through nothing i did) slept through from 9-22 weeks but then didn't sleep through until she was a year old. Yes it was tiring as it co-coincided with me going back to work but clearly she needed me so I was there for her. I still consider myself lucky that generally she sleeps through now but as parents that what we signed up for
01/10/2013 at 14:42
Will come back and read properly later but JRJ, Jacob was a dreadful sleeper and had only slept through about 15 times ever by the age of nearly 3. We did have to do some training to get him to settle at bedtime when he was about 2y9m, but other than that he just got it on his own so hang on in there, it's draining but there is hope! x
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