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16/07/2014 at 17:45
I know there's still a lot of you here so I just wanted to shout out about the Saying Goodbye services. I work for the charity and I attended my first service this year. I was surprised how calming it was, really peaceful. The charity holds remembrance services throughout the country (and expanding abroad now) in churches for anyone who has lost a baby whenever it was and whatever gestation/age.
If anyone wants any information there's a website with all the service dates and locations. I'll be at the Canterbury one on 26th this month doing the team welcome and possibly a reading as well.
Some people come just to cry, as a safe place - often because not many people know about their loss. You can light candles and ring a bell for your babies.
16/07/2014 at 20:08
What a lovely idea. I'm quite surprised that there isn't one at Coventry Cathedral (nearest cathedral to us) since it's the sort of thing they would usually partake in. I'm fortunate to be pregnant again, but I would have loved to attend a service like this in the days/weeks after our loss, since I really felt we had no one to turn to. Sounds like you do a fantastic job.
16/07/2014 at 21:39
I've shared the date/info with a couple of my friends who had losses Pip as they're local to Canterbury. Hope the job is going well xx
18/07/2014 at 11:26
Thanks ladies, yes it's fun. I'm doing a sky dive for them in September - something I never thought I'd say. I'm terrified of flying and heights! Ha ha!
18/07/2014 at 20:15
Thanks for sharing pip.xx
18/07/2014 at 22:59
My friend went to 1 of these services and said it really helped her, take care all x
19/07/2014 at 10:38
Thank you for this. I will take a look, although I struggle with churches and faith, particularly after losing k. Its nice to know there are charities out there supporting people that experience the loss of a baby. Its something we certainly will never get over, no matter how many children we have, and its nice to attend things like this where others feel the same and to have that 'safe' time to think about them.
19/07/2014 at 19:50
Bunny I also struggle with faith as I don't really have one, I was apprehensive at first about how religious the services would be - I know that sounds ridiculous because they're in a church but I didn't find it too in your face if that makes sense. There's usually a choir and some prayers but you don't have to do anything you do want to. The service I attended at St Albans had a lady singing popular songs that were appropriate as well and I know they often do this. I just found ti peaceful. There were obviously lots of families there crying and upset but it felt safe to do that somewhere that I wasn't judged for it.
Hugs to you all x
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