Hi after years of Anxiety and Paranoia, i have took my Doctors advice on seeing a Councellor. My first appointment is 3rd Feb and i am abit worried about what will happen etc.

This started when i was pregnant with my little boy 7 years ago. Worried sick over miscarriage, the stillbirth then cotdeath. Did'nt enjy my pregnancy one bit and can barely remember him as a baby.

It has reared it's ugly head again and i am worse than ever, cause i do know of a few people who have had awful things happen. (wont go into detail cause dont want to start scaring other people)

Just wondering if anyone has seen a councellor before? I really want to be able t enjoy my pregnancy and my princess when she is born without feeling like i did last time. xx

Hey Hun,

I never have but my sister started having anxiety/panic attacks a few months ago as well as heart pains and shooting pains in her head... After an MRI scan and numerous other tests coming back ok the Dr has referred her for counselling and she is waiting for her first appointment,

Just wanted to say I know how horrible it is for her and how much it scares her. She has packed up hers, her LO's and her OH's stuff and gone back to our mums a few times when it has felt too much for her and she feels safest there. She seems to be scared that something will happen when her and LO are alone and no one will know or that something will happen to her OH.

I hope your councelling really helps you and that you can go on to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. I am sure that who ever you go to see will be absolutely lovely and that things will start getting better xx

I'm g/c from toddler, saw this on the homepage.

I see a counsellor once a fortnight and though it takes time, she is really helping me. I was scared to death beforehand, was really panicky and worried sick about going- barely slept the night before! However, she put me at ease from the start and now I feel comfortable to talk about anything.

I know it will be frightening but once you get the 1st appointment done it gets so much easier. Hopefully it will help you enough so you can relax a little in your pregnancy and not feel as fearful once your lo arrives. Good luck hun.

xxx

I did when I was in University and then again in my mid 20's. Personally, I think that everyone should do it. If you are able to be open and really give it a go (although it can take time to get there), it can be incredibly helpful. But as lea says, it all takes time. Look at it as a long but worthwhile process, and be proud of yourself for being brave enough to take a step to towards dealing with the things that scare you.

Good luck. x

I have just started seeing one at the hospital. I am seeing her because she is a specialist councellor who deals with pregnancies after losses and I had a still birth in 2008. This pregnancy has been constant worry and panic and I couldn't handle it. It got to the point where I was constantly at the hospital or on the phone to them for no reason, but I was just paranoid that something was wrong all the time and after seeing her once I already feel alot better. She is amazing and more than anything made me realise that I'm not going mad and I am doing well. Hope it goes OK. xxxx

I saw one briefly a couple of years ago and it really helped. It's just an opportunity to talk and they have a great way of guiding you so that you sort of anwers your own questions and find your own solutions (if that makes sense!).

Hope it goes okay chick.

K 29+1 x

Yes. I saw one a few years back as I had a bad car accident & had terrible panic attacks after the accdient and occassionaly I still do. Im actually seeing a new one tomorrow as I had to stop my panic attack medication when I became pregnant so the midwife thought it may help.

I actually enjoyed seeing the last one, she really helped and I ended up talking about all sorts of things that I never knew still troubled me.

As KayeCee said it just really helps to figure out your own solutions & it nice to talk to someone who is completely alien to your own world. Good luck x x x

I completed a 10 week course just before Christmas (the NHS start you off at 6 sessions and it's up to the counsellor if they choose to extend them) and it's the best thing I could have done.

I had anxiety problems (I was mugged at knife point a few years ago and it affected my confidence) but mainly it was to put some ghosts from my past to rest, as I was so worried I would end up passing my issues on to my children. It had to be done but I dreaded the first meeting, knowing I would have to open up and I hate to cry in front of strangers, but after the first half hour I started to relax and she explained that we would talk about whatever I needed to and in my own time. I grew quite attached to her in the end and was sad to say goodbye, but by that time I was ready to-I'd run out of things to say.

You will probably wonder if it's doing you any good to start with, stick with it as it takes time. I initially wondered what I was doing as I could feel any initial benefits, but it was a cathartic process. I had to hit rock bottom before I came back up but I'm so proud I did it. I feel so much better now, not because those things are gone forever (they'll always be with me) but I've learnt to deal with them in the best way I can.

I would also recommend cognitive behavioral therapy as this helps you to analyze your reactions to things and learn to over ride them-basically understanding yourself better and understanding why we think in the way we do in order to break negative cycles.

Do it for yourself. xx