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12/08/2014 at 19:36
I'm so sorry for the anon but I am an MDer (although I've not been around much).
My 7.5month old baby fell from our bed today. I know it was my fault, they've just started crawling and I turned away to put a towel in the washing and they either rolled or crawled off the bed. When I turned they were on their back on the floor and obviously crying. I picked them up instantly and they stopped crying within about 30sec when I gave them a dummy.
I checked them over and moved all their limbs and head and put light pressure on all their body (this even got a few giggles as they thought I was tickling them) they've had a feed since and a bath and seem fine but I'm so so worried.
I cant stop thinking about it. I'm in a difficult situ as I'm having real marital problems at the moment and please don't judge me but if I tell my H right now what's happened and ask him to take us to the hospital this will finish us.
Has this happened to anyone else and is there anything I should be looking out for? Ive bawled my eyes out over this (we got terrible news today about a family member so my H thinks this is the only reason I was upset).
Please help me. Do I just have to tell him and take my baby to the hospital and deal with anything that follows? I know it's my fault and nobody could make me feel as bad as I do right now. I feel like the absolute pits of a mother.
Sarah - I know this will be moderated but would appreciate if you could post quickly.
12/08/2014 at 21:56
I've just seen / approved your post and am bouncing for you.
12/08/2014 at 22:02
I don't have much advice but didn't want to read and run. Could you phone NHS direct and see what they say?
Hugs lovely xxx
12/08/2014 at 22:12
My little one fell off our bed as well which is pretty high up and actually landed very badly crashing into the chest of drawers and he was absolutely fine. I just watched out for him being too sleepy or any sickness. It's a right of passage in parenthood and happens to a lot of us so please don't beat yourself up. Xx
12/08/2014 at 22:13
Please don't beat yourself up about this....at some point 99% of babies will have a fall of some description... I know my little boy has. How has baby been since? No vomiting, loss of consciousness etc? They're surprisingly hardy things our small people, and although I would advise getting checked over just in case at the same time if it's been several hours, there have been no nasty symptoms or obvious signs of injury I'd say you're likely to be fine.
Big hugs on your bad news and marital issues though ... I've been there and come out the other side so here if you need to talk xx
12/08/2014 at 22:14
What Mrs Penguin has said. Phone NHS24 for advice. And if I'm brutally honest. Regardless of what's going on between you and your H, your child should come first.
By the sounds of things, baby is going to be ok. They tell you to watch for drowsiness after a fall or bump. If baby has been ok for the rest of the day, then I'm sure they'll be ok. These things do happen, and will probably happen more than once (not specifically falling off the bed) and as baby gets bigger, it will only get worse. W has bumped his head and face more times than I care to count!
12/08/2014 at 22:47
Thankyou for the quick replies.
I haven't phoned NHS24 as my H is at home. The news was about someone very close to my H and he's having an awful time of it and if I tell him that I let his baby fall today it's going to be too much.
TweetiePie did you take your LO to A&E?
Coco thanks so much for the post. They seem just as normal. Had their bath and bottle fine and went down to sleep as normal. I've been in and out their room all night though as I'm so worried and I woke them (just from disturbing them) about 9:30 and they woke for about 20mins and had a drink of water and I got smiles as normal and they went back down. They've not been sick or drowsy (other than when they were falling asleep) and were awake and alert at 9:30. They fell at 4pm so it's been nearly 7hours. I checked them over at bath time and didn't see any bruising.
I'm never going to sleep a wink, I'm so worried about them.
RKB I was asking if I should just go to hospital, believe me my baby does come first. I really didn't need that comment.
13/08/2014 at 06:47
You poor thing, it sounds like an awfully distressing day for you. I'm later to this I know, but wanted to say, you did not let the baby fall off the bed. You didn't stand there and watch him while he rolled off. It was an accident. A complete accident. Don't be hard on yourself.
I'm wondering what you would have done if you and H were not having marital issues?
13/08/2014 at 06:48
Hope you had a good night? X
13/08/2014 at 08:18
13/08/2014 at 08:40
Hi, just to add, you've done everything right. From what you say, if I'd come out to your little one I wouldn't refer them to hospital (I'm a paramedic). We would ask if baby cried straight away, then do movement tests as you have done, looking for any pain. We'd also check feeding and interaction was normal, nappies normal etc etc. Then ask you to monitor for any drowsiness, change in habits, vomiting or agitation. If all those are OK, which in 99% of cases they are, baby will be fine. TBH babies bounce, and falling off beds, sofas etc happens all the time. Only time I've ever seen a baby need further treatment from rolling off something is when they've rolled off a bed or sofa and fallen onto something like a sibling's toy that has hurt them, or falling from a higher surface like the kitchen worktop.
Hope things are still Ok this morning and hope you get through your other problems xx
13/08/2014 at 08:41
Sorry Help Please, i wasn't trying to be mean, what i meant was that If you were concerned at all, i wouldn't worry what your H had to say. Accidents do happen. W has fallen off the bed a couple of times while under my watch, and it is horrible when it happens. I hope you are ok. xx
13/08/2014 at 08:48
Casgup your right, but I can't help feeling responsible. I would have spoken to him, he probably would have phoned his aunt (who's a nurse) and we would have just watched the LO like I did but it's always so much easier if you can bounce things off someone or ask if they think they seem ok etc.
Thanks coco LO was ok. Was really unsettled and stirred/cried a lot from about 10-12 but then slept fine and just stirred once in the night. They've had breakfast and are down for a nap. When I changed them I didn't see any bruising or marks or anything.
Thanks for that Mrs B x
13/08/2014 at 09:07
No I didn't take him to a&e or call NHS 24. If he had lost consciousness, been sick etc I would have but he was absolutely fine after the initial shock. I did feel so awful but all my friends had been in the same position and said its bound to happen at some point as we can't watch them every second of every day.
Sorry missed a couple of posts
Barefoot thankyou so much for that. You have no idea how much better that makes me feel. Thankyou got replying.
Sorry RKB I probably read that wrong, I was all over the place last night.
Thanks TweetiePie. I'll keep an eye on them again today and then all being well just try and put this behind me and learn my lesson
13/08/2014 at 09:24
I probably didn't write in the best way either. I am really sorry if i upset you at all. I really hope everything is ok. xx
13/08/2014 at 09:49
Don't really have any useful advice, but I just wanted to say what the others have that it's not your fault and I reckon every baby will fall from a sofa or a bed or from climbing on something at some point. If it makes you feel any better, I've had about 10 close calls with O. I know people always say you can't leave them for a second and it's so true! I've caught him on the edge of the sofa a few times and I'm talking, I've just stood up and he's nearly thrown himself off while I'm right there.
As RKB says he's dunted his head a good few times, even this morning I was reading your post and he was on his changing mat on the floor in his room, we have a gliding chair and foot rest and he reached up and pulled the wood on the footrest and it sort of glides forward and hit him in the head. He looked at me while he registered it then started crying. I just picked him up and as soon as I put him on his feet he was trying to jump and the crying stopped. They really are hardy little things.
I hope your ok today xx
13/08/2014 at 18:03
Oh bless you! Babies are surprisingly bouncy :) Hope you're feeling okay x
14/08/2014 at 09:39
I hope you are feeling a bit better about it this morning? HONESTLY, things like this happen to EVERYONE. My LO fell off the bed at 10 months, I checked him over and like yours he had a giggle and smile and seemed fine. It actually didn't occur to me to take him to hospital, I just kept an eye on him. The same week he also climbed the stairs unattended, had the hoover fall on him and spent a night in hospital (unrelated to the others!) It was a horrible week, but things happen sometimes, and you can't watch them like a hawk 24/7. Big hugs to you - you are only human remember.
I hope things improve with your H soon and that you can start talking xx
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