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14/06/2014 at 11:57
Hiya, it's been less than a week, but I feel like I should get this all down earlier rather than later as it wasn't quite what we were expecting, even with the open minded attitude we went in with.
ok, so early labour was uneventful, but long, lasting from 3pm Monday unti about 5 or 6am on Tuesday, at which point we went into hospital and I was just barely classed as being in active labour. The whole place was full up, so they told Ant and I to walk up and down the corridor for a bit and they would get us when they had a room for me, which luckily was within about half an hour. Blah blah blah at 9 or so I asked for an epidural, got it in and working by about 10 and from then on all was hunkydory as I had the button to control it and I chose to top it up no more than once an hour despite being allowed to press it every 15 minutes. It was a low dose so I cold still feel tightenings, but without the pain. It worked perfectly for me and didn't slow my contractions, and my waters broke on their own a couple hours later. i was fully dilated shortly before 6pm I think, but they told me to not push for an hour. This was a little upsetting because I could feel the urge and ended up stupidly fighting it. I had let the epidural wear off entirely by this point and they let me try a few different pushing positions when they let me push eventually, but after about 30 minutes of pushing they could see baby's head, but something was wrong or stuck and they called in some doctors and said the foetal heartbeat was suspicious. By this point it's a bit of a blur, because I don't actually remember much. I remember them making me sit up with my feet on the stirrups (not legs up) and try pushing a few more times while they all yelled at me to go longer and harder until I yelled at them to shut up. H says the doctors then decided to do a ventouse delivery based on my reaction, and I pressed the button on my forgotten epidural and apparently it was only a minute or so, but the epidural hadn't kicked in yet, so it felt a bit like forever before Isla was actually born At 7:59pm. Oh, and apparently they told me they were going to give me an episiotomy, but I have no memory of them saying that, and in my birth plan I specifically asked not to have one due to research sayi they lead to more severe trauma, but whatever. I suppose if baby was in distress baby was in distress! And hey presto, my episiotomy extended into a 3rd degree tear, albeit just barely.
Now, in my mind up until this point it hadn't gone to plan necessarily, but was all pretty bog standard stuff, even the tear; I did end up with a 9lb 6oz baby, after all. Not sure where she came from, tbh, my bump measured small!
Shortly after Isla was born, things got a bit more interesting. I vaguely remember being asked to push once more and then H being asked to cut the cord, but then an alarm was going off and I was surrounded by people. They were trying to put a line into my hand, giving me a second synto shot into my thigh, and a doctor saying something about bleeding. H says he heard someone say code red, but surely that's too cliche. Anyways, he says they all ignored him and were talking doctor speak to each other that just sounded scary, and then suddenly they wheeled me out of the room and left him alone in there without a word with a crying newborn and a pool of blood on the floor. I do remember telling him not to worry as I was wheeled out of the room and taken to theatre.
i was gone for 80 minutes apparently (damnit, I missed the golden hour for skin to skin!), though theatre is a bit of a blur as well and I just remember shivering uncontrollably. They had to remove some
14/06/2014 at 12:21
Wispa - thank you for sharing! How frightening for all concerned. A million more congratulations on your little bundle. Really interesting about MLU/labour/epidural as well xx
14/06/2014 at 12:22
Poor you! And poor hubby being left like that! Goodness. How are you doing now? How's Isla? Has hubby recovered?
Massive congratulations to you, hope you're soon feeling fighting fit! xx
14/06/2014 at 12:31
Wow, Wispa, that's a fairly dramatic story. I'm sorry things went wrong towards the end, it sounds like until delivery everything was going pretty well. I hope you're recovering ok from both the blood loss and the tear, and that your mum and A are looking after you well. I hope the bf works out too if that's the route you decide to go down. Congratulations again on the birth of Isla though. (Flashes required when you're feeling more uoto it!) x
14/06/2014 at 12:36
Isla is fine, bit of a screamer at night, but sleeps and doesn't make a peep all day :). Ant has recovered from the trauma, I think. He can't stop talking about it, which makes me a bit squicky, but I think it helps him. He said he thought I was dying the way they were talking. I'm doing as well as can be expected, with my pharmacy of drugs to take and being house-bound by doctors orders for a couple weeks. It's like having the recovery from a section.
im sorry, I meant to post photos in the original post, so here are a couple now.
(That's a yawn btw, not a scream!)
14/06/2014 at 12:47
Glad things are going okay, and great that your mum is around to help. Great photos xx
14/06/2014 at 14:03
Sorry you had such a traumatic birth experience. E's birth was very very similar (almost identical infact!) and if it helps it was only rwading your birth story that made me remember - it will seem less traumatic in time! And if it helps I went on to have a super quick and easy delivery (20 mins of pushing and 2 puffs of gas and air!) 14 months later. Make sure you look after yourself as well as your lovely little girl. Have you got those horrible stomach injections? Those were the worst! My best advice if you have is get someone else to do them for you - I administered them myself as often missed as I knew they were coming and jumped! Congratulations and well done! X
ETA - I missed out on that golden hour of skin to skin too and it certainly hasn't affected my bond with E, in fact at 23 months she's a total mummies girl! X
14/06/2014 at 19:59
Wow, Wispa, that's a fairly traumatic story - you poor thing. Glad things are somewhat better now - thanks for sharing & Isla is just gorgeous x
18/06/2014 at 09:54
oh wispa, you really went through it didnt you, hope youre recovering well, congratulations on the birth of isla - shes gorgeous x
18/06/2014 at 10:34
Oh goodness, how traumatic. So glad you're both ok though - Isla is adorable. Congratulations x
21/06/2014 at 21:16
I've been AWOL since posting this, but thank you for your replies! Recovery going well all in all, cuddles making it all worthwhile :)
22/06/2014 at 17:27
Many congrats. Thanks for sharing, and well done being so brave!
24/06/2014 at 18:08
Only just had the chance to get back on here and read this. Horrible experience. Clearly the 4th June was the unluckiest due date going given what we've both been through! She's beautiful and cuddles really do make it all worth while. Hope you're feeling even better now xx
26/06/2014 at 16:27
Have only just caught up on this. Congratulations! Shes a beauty.
Your actual labour story sounds identical to mine, minus the theatre part. F is now 6 months and I can honestly say I still remember the trauma but it gets a lot easier and its more of a blur now. A few weeks post birth I was adamant there would be no number two. That was soon erased and I definitely want more! :-)
Enjoy being a mummy xx
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