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07/10/2013 at 05:43
Turns out hubby and I agree on about 80% of the names we suggest to one another. It's great! We have a very short list of boy names we both LOVE! Everyone else, without exception, either doesn't like them or positively hates them.
We are slightly less in tune about girl names, but still close enough. And people seem more tolerant of our girl names. But girl names are SO much harder, for me. Genetically hubby's side of the family are built like rugby players, including his sister (over 6ft) and his niece. My son is over 6ft 6 (the height genes come from my side) so chances are, even if baby isn't mahoosive from the off, it will turn out to be. As a result I don't want anything too girly as Betsy (for example) would probably not fit a girl who potentially makes Miranda Hart look like Kylie Minogue....
If you both loved a name and the world hated it, would you just steer clear to save the hassle? I'm the sort that *would* bite if people were snarky and maybe I'm better off looking for more of a middle ground. Dunno. :)
Have you had any negative feedback about names you love?
07/10/2013 at 07:23
We didn't tell anyone what names we were planning with J, and we won't with this one either. I think people can be very vocal about their preference in the deciding stage, but far less so once the baby has actually been given the name. I found it hard enough agreeing on a name with H without anyone else being involved and making the decision harder!
07/10/2013 at 07:28
I didn't discuss names with anyone except H. That way nobody could pass judgement and cloud our thinking. Also, people feel it's ok to comment when baby hasn't arrived yet if you have the baby and introduce them to baby 'x' they'll be a lot less likely to comment because you have already chosen.
07/10/2013 at 07:34
Agree with the others. We haven't discussed names with anyone really (other than me saying to my friends "you'll never guess what name he's come up with now!" but that's names I've vetoed). Once baby is here people will say nothing
07/10/2013 at 07:35
So many people didnt like Phoebe when we told them. I didnt give a monkeys as its our choice.
07/10/2013 at 07:37
Maybe it's just my lot then! I had negative comments about the name Harrison after he was born!
We have been asked potential names and reeled off a list to give a flavour, but they're much more unpopular than I expected. Ah well. :)
07/10/2013 at 07:39
People have said to me they didnt like it. Infact gone silent when we've told them but then we've had far more saying how much they love it. I wouldn't worry if we all had the same taste the world would be very dull!
Just to say people don't always say they like a name once baby is here, we've had a few people openly say to us they don't like M's name (but Millie is ok..).
I did discuss names this time round as I was so less sure (read:didn't have a clue what to call her) and it was useful to test people's honest reactions. I kind of agree with the use a name you both love, but if a name I loved had a unanimously negative reaction from everyone I mentioned it to it would make me reconsider depending on the reasons I liked it and everyone else didn't. I'd rather reconsider a name before they're born than after.
07/10/2013 at 07:44
Test it on us :-)
07/10/2013 at 07:50
Test it on us :-)
Ha ha! As a taster our fave boy name is Edgar.
07/10/2013 at 08:03
It's not my cup of tea (too posh for me ;-) ) but i wouldnt say i hate it!
07/10/2013 at 08:18
Ooh, I don't think of it as posh. There's loads of names we discounted for being too posh. Interesting :)
07/10/2013 at 08:21
I really like it counter
07/10/2013 at 08:30
Yeah I'd class it as posh too
07/10/2013 at 08:37
I quite like it. Then again, I also like Arthur, Edmund, Alfred and other similar old fashioned names. Don't worry what people think. The only name we have decided on already is a middle name for a boy, and I'm pretty sure we will get all sorts of comments on it, but we don't care!
07/10/2013 at 08:41
My Mum hated both of my boys' names. Once C was born, his name grew on her. J is 28 months (today, actually), and my Mum still doesn't like his name. she calls him by one of the shortened versions, and introduces him to people as that. When I correct her, she takes people's confused face as a sign they don't like his name, and says "I know, it's a bl00dy horrible name isn't it?" and HATES it when people say "well actually, I like it" The confused face is generally because they have never heard the name before.
H didn't like J's name either, but was of the opinion that "he's my son, I'll love him whatever he is called", so I got free reign, now he can't imagine him as anything else.
I got a lot of negative comments when we told people out name choice for J, it had no impact on how I felt about the name. I think if anyone can be swayed by other people's reactions to the name, they can't have liked it that much themselves...
I don't think of Edgar as posh, mainly as I went to school with a lad whose surname was Edgar (and in typical lad fashion, liked to be referred to by his surname only), and he was as common as they come, haha.
07/10/2013 at 08:52
Don't tell anyone your choices as most people have said.
At the end of the day, so long as its an actual name, ie: not a made up word or a word never used as a name normally like apple etc, then people's negativity it's just personal taste. Edgar is a name that's been around for years, if they don't like it its because its not their taste, not because there's something wrong with the name.
We've been really lucky that both times we've had a single name picked by about 24 weeks and then had ages to get used to it and know we're totally happy with it before birth and announcing the name. So by the time we tell people, to us she has been that name for so long we couldn't care what anyone else said.
07/10/2013 at 08:57
Should have known BG would turn up on a name thread!
We didn't tell people as its hard to be sure. I could never name a baby before birth in case they looked like something else (iykwim?). Luckily we have 2 names we like that suit our boys. And they are 'sensible/normal' names people always say. Which they are. There is a boy I know of called Nemesis. To me, that's child abuse. Even the boy I know called Zeus is a bit close to abuse for me too. In my mind, names that are too left field should be reserved for dogs, cats and small rodents!
07/10/2013 at 08:59
We didn't mention our name choices to anyone so that they couldn't comment on them before C arrived - as it happens, everyone seems to really like his name
07/10/2013 at 09:22
Tell them to F off! It's your baby. My parents hated Jude at first but now they love it. Edgar is a lovely name, I do think of it is as a bit posh tbh but not massively so.
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