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12/01/2014 at 09:57
I am desperate - if possible - to get our closest loved ones together around (ish) the time of our 1st WA (baby about 3 mths old). After I'd had a few difficult years it meant so much to have everyone together for such a happy occasion. Plus lots of hubby's friends & family aren't local because he grew up in Leeds so it would need to be something 'big' to try and gather everyone for one event. If we did it a bit earlier than the anniversary it would be whilst hubby is off and I'm only working 3 days a week.
We wouldn't have a christening, and a naming ceremony seems a bit odd, everyone will know the name by then (although I get that's not strictly speaking the entire thrust of a naming ceremony). I'd happily have the same humanist celebrant to do 'something' informal. I'd like it to be at home, if possible, but there's not a huge outside area so it could get a bit cramped, though the house has biggish rooms so it wouldn't be too bad...
Just having initial thoughts about this, wondered if anyone had done something similar, or had any helpful pros/cons/inspiration? Thanks for anything! :)
12/01/2014 at 10:04
Very interested to read your replies. B was dedicated in our family church, I wouldn't have had him baptised and it leaves him open to decide later on if he wishes to be. As it happens, he loves church, believes in God (as most 6 year olds do I think) and is there now with my mum lol.
For little B we don't think we want to do anything in the church, even though we met there and will probably marry there I definitely want to leave it for him to decide. If he wants to be dedicated later then he can and if that leads to a baptism then great.
But we want to do something for him. My friends had a naming ceremony for their son, it was lovely, just some readings, said some nice words to the baby and then we all had a buffet at the same venue. Interested to hear your replies.
12/01/2014 at 11:31
You could have a Welcome to the World party/get together with food, drink and maybe a guest/memory book for people write well wishes for the baby for the future.
Up to you if you included a celebrant to do a ceremony or just kept it as a get together.
Alternatively some restaurants have private doing rooms if you have more than X number of people. That could be an option for food then back to yours for drinks if you didn't feel like doing the catering.
12/01/2014 at 11:59
maybe a guest/memory book for people write well wishes for the baby for the future.
maybe a guest/memory book for people write well wishes for the baby for the future.
That's a lovely idea :)
12/01/2014 at 12:18
I fancy the idea of a naming ceremony, simply because I'm not really religious so a christening seems a bit hypocritical. I don't know anyone that's had one though so the OH instant reaction was that it seemed a bit hippy. I'd be interested to know how everyone else did there's
12/01/2014 at 13:04
We had a 'welcome party' for A when he was about 6 months old. It was a really lovely day, and a chance to let him meet all the extended family. For us the timing was just right as he was a grumpy little sod until about 5/6 months when he could sit up, and also after 6 months he could eat so we popped him in a highchair and he delighted all the oldies by picking up a chicken drumstick and eating it.
We didn't do a ceremony or anything as we decided we didn't want to. Just did a little speech to thank everyone for coming, and say "here is our son" and how lovely it was to have him, and then everyone had some champagne and cake!
12/01/2014 at 14:05
We did a naming ceremony when my daughter was 6 months (did it at 6 months as that was Aug so perfect time for us). I looked into having a registrar do it but they were so expensive & my friends hubbys mum is a registrar & said that it wasn't worth paying 1. I wrote the script from words I'd found on the internet mixed with lots of readings/poems. A drama teacher friend of mine did the hosting & we held it at a community centre, outside in the gardens followed by an indoor buffet. My hubby is an atheist so it wouldn't have been appropriate to have anything religious. We also used it as an opportunity to choose guardians for her (rather than godparents) & we had bubble vases with candle holders inside that each family member & guardian put a bit of coloured sand in to symbolise everyone coming together to help our daughter. We also gave the gardians glass vases to fill with the coloured sand & plastic shaped bottles for any guests who wanted to do 1. It was a lovely day (& the weather held out for the most part). I have the script somewhere if your interested but I won't be offended if you're not Instead of gifts we also asked people to bring something that we could put in a time capsule for her 18th birthday. We were lucky in that the year of her birth was very significant with the Olympics & the Queens Jubliee. Some people put things related to that & others photos of her with their children & others messages for her for the future. We didn't bury it in the end but it's up in the loft & I'll be so excited for when she opens it.
Here's a photo the candle:
12/01/2014 at 18:16
We had a naming day for A in September when he was 7 months old. We're not religious so didn't want a christening, but wanted something to mark his arrival. We also chose 'Guideparents' and they made promises about helping him to learn and guide him in his life. I wrote a script for it (can send you it if you like?), and then my friend officiated it.
My friend also made us a 'wish book' which we had at the baby shower and then anyone else could fill it in at the naming day. It's a lovely keepsake to look back on when A is older.
We held the naming day in a function room at a local pub/restaurant with a buffet. It was a lovely day, and got all our family and friends together. Like you they are spread out over the country so it was the first time some of them had met A as well.
12/01/2014 at 18:25
ahhh watching this thread with interest
I'm Jewish Athiest, H is Catholic (just by birth) but would be nice to do something like this
12/01/2014 at 19:06
We had a Naming Ceremoney for E when he was almost 8 months old. The ceremony was conducted by the registrar that married us, in the room we were married in so had great significance for us. We had the ceremony then a reception in a function room and although we had a lot of comments and questions about what it was etc. as it was quite a new thing for our family and friends (and we're known for being a bit kooky!) after the ceremony everyone said how lovely it was and how original. Even our quite religious family friends (Italian Catholics) commented that it was nicer and more personal than any christening they had attended, so high praise indeed!
We were able to totally personalise the service, had two readings and named supporting adults and included grandparents. My parents were thrilled to be included in it as wouldn't have been in a traditional christening. I think it's lovely to mark a baby's arrival into the world with an occasion, whether its a christening, naming day or anything you want to call it! Have fun planning xx
12/01/2014 at 19:14
This thread is fab! Thanks so much. Really would love to read anything others did for themselves. I was wondering about a local hall with some food, then back to ours to carry on with those we don't get to spend time with much. Definitely not a religious thing, something relaxed yet sincere :)
If you didn't mind sharing and wanted to email I'm firstname.lastname@example.org Thanks! x
12/01/2014 at 20:53
Some lovely ideas in this thread. I especially love the time capsule! Do you think it would be ok to include something in a first birthday party or would it be all a bit much?
13/01/2014 at 11:25
We had a 'welcome party' for Coco when she was 9mo, although in reality, everyone had already met her! Blackkat very kindly emailed me her script, and we used an edited version of that. My aunt is a teacher and led the ceremony part - talked a little bit about her birth, and why we chose her names. I made promises to C from me and her dad, then her 'odd parents' made promises to her too. We also said why we chose them as her goodparents. Then my 3 cousins read an edited version of dr Seuss' "oh! The places you'll go". It was all very informal, in my parents back garden, and was followed by a BBQ and plenty of champagne.
We had a fill me in party poster which everyone coloured in:
And my friend (C's odd mother)also bought her this, which we got people to fill in:
This thread has reminded me that I need to sort Otis' out!
13/01/2014 at 11:55
Love 'guide parents' so much! Going to steal this! The time capsule is an excellent idea too!
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