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30/04/2014 at 00:15
It always surprises me the misconceptions that some people have over breastfeeding!
I took H for his 2 month immunisations today, and understandably he was crying! The nurse doing them looked at me and said 'oh is it lunchtime?' meaning was he hungry. It was about 12 o clock and I said yes he probably was hungry. She said 'what time do you normally give him his lunch then?' I said 'we'll I'm breastfeeding him on demand, so whenever really, usually every 2-3 hours during the day'. She looked at me like I was bonkers and just said 'oh dear, that must be tiring!'... I honestly think she thought breastfeeding an 8 week old was a 'breakfast, lunch and dinner' routine and nothing in between!
30/04/2014 at 01:13
Yeah - sort that routine out!! ;)
Sister in law today was asking about breastfeeding. I said it can be between 1 hour and 7-8 hours between feeds because baby has a natural 'night' of her own (7 hours) - or at least she has for the last 4 nights - but then fits in the remaining feeds in her 'day'. SIL told me I'm looking exhausted, that I'll end up ill, and that I shouldn't kill myself just to BF. she was really disapproving but if we're both happy (and we are) I don't see why it bothered her. At the moment feeding is my one and only 'job' :)
30/04/2014 at 06:25
There are some weird misconceptions out there!
I was with H's grandma at 2pm one day when I was BFing and she asked me if I was about to feed him. I said no, because he was sleeping and clearly not hungry. She said she thought all babies usually had a feed at 2pm. I had this image of babies all over the world waking up at 2pm local time hungry all at the same time. Bonkers.
30/04/2014 at 07:22
I wonder how people think cave women used to manage with no clocks or formula! Keep up the good work everyone x
30/04/2014 at 07:27
30/04/2014 at 08:30
C was cluster feeding the other week and my mum said she didn't think it was working for us, I was going to have to admit defeat and put him on bottles. And if I gave him 3oz formula there and then he'd go to sleep. Not 2oz, not 4oz, but 3. Weirdo
30/04/2014 at 08:43
I am so jealous that you all have managed to feed your LOs! I think BFing is an amazing thing to do, and I wish i'd been able to for longer. I had such a bad experience with BFing when i had W. I had no support in the hospital at all, basically the MW grabbed my boob and shoved W onto it, instead of showing me how to latch him on correctly. this resulted in my nipples getting torn from me not latching him right and feeding became very hard. I cried SO much over it, and all i got from the MW was that if i was struggling, there was no shame in bottle feeding. I explained i wanted to feed him myself, but she just wasn't interested in showing me how. It was my HV who was really helpful and explained BFing to me in more detail, but by that point, the damage was done and I only managed to feed W for the first month.
30/04/2014 at 09:11
This made me giggle!
30/04/2014 at 09:14
RKB, you fed him for a month which is an achievement to be proud of, even more so as you went through so many problems to do so. Try to take what you've learnt from the experience to help next time if you choose to BF again and then it can be a positive thing hopefully x
30/04/2014 at 09:46
RKB, you did a whole month though, and you really had to work hard for that. Sounds awful. I can imagine your experience where the (lack of) support is concerned. With my son I just had a bullish nurse grab my nipple and do it for me over and over. He wouldn't latch. I left hospital not having fed and really upset. I promised to return the next day if he still hadn't fed. I was LUCKY and when we got home he did latch, but it was touch n go whether we attempted more BFing as he was already almost 48hrs old. Horrible. Then I was advised to mix at 1 month as I wasn't producing enough. I wasn't advised as to how to improve my milk or methods, just to introduce a bottle, so I did.
30/04/2014 at 12:02
I fully intend to BF the next time around (formula is expensive :-s ). Thanks to the HV who did spend a bit more time with me on it, i do have a better idea on what to do next time. I was proud to have managed a month, but i was angry that because of the lack of help, i only managed a month.
30/04/2014 at 15:00
I don't think many people realise how often breast feed babies actually feed. My sil is giving up top feeds as her 6 week old is a hungry baby & needs more than she has. I wish more women knew that babies do feed a lot & you don't have to turn to formula if you don't want to as it's completely natural (even if it is tiring!). The lack of support drives me mad. I'm so glad I went to Le Leache league meetings when I was pregnant last time as otherwise I might have fallen foul of mw helpful 'advice'. I really think mw need to have more training on bf.
30/04/2014 at 16:11
I agree BK! It was my own mum who told me about BF babies needing fed more than FF because Breast milk is digested quicker than formula, hence why baby appears to be hungrier if they are BF!
30/04/2014 at 16:16
Comments like that used to really annoy me. I try to let them wash over now and put it down to ignorance on their part. PIL used to say "oh, he can't be hungry AGAIN", well yes he is actually. MIL would do ANYTHING to try and stop him crying so that she didn't have to give him back to me to feed him. It was hard because I knew that he was crying because he was hungry, but I didn't want to demand my baby back from her. They are much more supportive of me BF now. But now we are starting BLW and that's a whole new thing for them to try and get their heads around. I believe if my H and mum hadn't offered so much support for me BF I would have been alot harder. I truly feel sorry for anyone who has tried their best to BF but they just have not had the support to continue
30/04/2014 at 20:17
Popcorn - your comment about babies across the world all waking up at 2pm for their lunch made me laugh out loud.
Stupid question number 1005689565 - what is cluster feeding? The reference I have is a cluster bomb - so trying to link the two and I like to ask you all stupid questions rather than google things for myself
30/04/2014 at 20:50
Cluster feeding is where babies have lots of feeds very very close together - so A used to start feeding each evening at around 5 and not really come off the boob for any significant length of time until 9 or 10pm.
My MIL hated me feeding on demand, hated it. When we went to visit at Christmas she was constantly asking me if A was due a feed. I took to giving very dramatic shrugs and going "Dunno" every time she asked!
30/04/2014 at 21:07
S is now ff and I'm still asked when he's due a feed. The assumption is that now I'm not breastfeeding him I can schedule him, it's bizarre. Like TT, I just shrug and say "when he's hungry". Which is usually met with "when will that be?" Drives me bonkers.
30/04/2014 at 22:33
wow to the cluster feeding. Is it very common then?
30/04/2014 at 23:10
CeeJay, yes very common and completely normal. B went from 6pm-12am for the first 8 weeks or so then took that down a bit. Still hours though. Now he has a quick cluster of about half an hour before settling around 9pm.
01/05/2014 at 10:24
Yes to cluster feeding being common, the thought of spending that long feeding a baby used to blow my mind pre-birth but now sometimes I secretly long for it to happen again just for one day so that I'd have an excuse not to move from the sofa! H used to feed me my dinner every night over the top of a hungry baby! I couldn't understand how some mums had time to express or cook or shower. Then one day it just stopped.
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