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14/11/2015 at 16:14
I am currently nearly 5 months pregnant and 17 years old. I have appointmeant booked for an abortion but I just can't do it, I feel like I love my baby already and have a feeling it's a boy. I am against abortion but my partner is adament that I get the abortion. He said we don't need a baby to ruin our lives. A baby would not ruin my life!!! He's basically saying its him or the baby, he said at the beginning he would support me either way but now I've suggested keeping the baby that seems to have changed. I am still young but I know I could look after this baby, it would be my little prince or princess and I cry about it everyday, my family are extremely supportive and say it's my desicon and they will help me either way. I had to have a scan yesterday and saw the baby, I broke down into tears :(. He keeps saying that we will have a family in the future but no we will not, he can't expect me to kill our baby now and then just have one when he decides he's ready. Hes a bit older than me and has a job and we was planning on moving in together in Feb/March and thats when baby would be born so I don't see why we can't have a family now. I had no idea I was 5 months I'm not showing much at all, even the doctors were surprised. He cries to me about it and says he wish it was different but it's only him preventing it being different. I feel like I can't speak to him about it as he gets angry and doesn't like speaking about it.
I really can't have this abortion:( please help me I'm so confused !!
14/11/2015 at 19:25
Hello sorry you are going through this. First and foremost however you say that you want to keep your baby and that you can't go through with an abortion. Please be reassured that noone can force you to do this if it's not what you want. Ultimately the decision is yours as it's your body and when it comes to it, you that would have to live by whichever path you choose. Perhaps think about what you'd regret most, having an abortion or having a child. Having said that, your other half has said that a baby would ruin your lives but has he actually gone into detail and explained his worries and fears? How does he think your lives will be ruined? Perhaps he's just scared of the unknown and needs the chance to talk through his fears with someone.
I hope things work outGreat to hear you have a supportive family around you as they'll be able to help you either way. And either option will be challenging.
14/11/2015 at 19:34
Aww its really your decision. If he is being a baby about it then maybe he should have some time to grow up!
I get the feeling from your wording that if you go through with the abortion to only make your partner happy that you would be extremely resentful toward him in the future and that pretty much makes a relationship impossible, I doubt you would forgive him for forcing the situation.
In my opinion a 17 year old can raise a healthy happy child - I did it!!! (He is 17 now too and doing well at college.)
If you have the full support of your family - all the better ! Yes it would be tough but totally doable !
It's your choice - what's best decision for you to live with? A baby at 17 - possibly being without his biological dad or an abortion?
I coulnt consider one and have never ever regretted the decision to have my son at 17, I still went to college and worked and did everything I wanted to do - nowadays there's even more help around for younger moms so if you are adamant you want to keep the baby don't believe for one second you are on your own!
Feel free to pm me if you need to chat x
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