10/12/2013 at 07:54
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10/12/2013 at 07:59
That sounds rough. I'd be off to a local bf consultant in your shoes. I'm sure they'd be able to help you out. x
10/12/2013 at 08:00
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10/12/2013 at 08:05
I'm sure there will be people on with help but just wanted to say there is no shame in giving him a bottle. My first was bottle fed and second is breastfed. Do what you need to do,as has been said on here before, formula is not poison xxx
10/12/2013 at 08:16
I dont know anything about reflux but have you got a sling - have you tried breastfeeding in that? There are you tube videos demoing how to BF in slings if you need help on poitioning baby etc .... just thinking you would be BFing hands free and could get up and do things .......
10/12/2013 at 08:21
10/12/2013 at 08:22
Oh PC :-( I don't have any advice but I know you're not a terrible mother and if you decide to switch to formula because it's better for you both then there is no shame in that. Big hugs xxxx
10/12/2013 at 08:23
10/12/2013 at 08:27
It's a decision that only you can make but you've given him 9 weeks of bf which is fantastic. It's not 'selfish' but you do have to consider your feelings too! Happy mum does a lot towards happy baby xxx
10/12/2013 at 08:30
Hi P, sorry you're feeling like this. Is your H being supportive? Please don't feel like a terrible mother for wanting to stop - I ff both of mine from birth due to personal choice so at least you have bf (i sometimes think A's rflux/cmpi is my punishment) If youre a terrible mother for wanting to stop then i'm the worst mum in the world for never even trying! you should be patting yourself on the back for doing it this long with all the problems you've had - big hugs x
10/12/2013 at 08:32
10/12/2013 at 09:00
Firstly PC well done on BF for as long as you have, you have not failed you have succesfully fed S. You are not selfish for giving formula you are doing the best for you and your baby and at the end of the day thats all anyone can want! I havent BF myself so cant offer any practical advice but it sounds like youve seeked out help in the right areas, sobbing at every feed is not good for you or S, he needs a happy mummy.
10/12/2013 at 09:01
Sounds like you have had an awful time.
Will he not still have reflux if he's on a bottle? So effectively still the same issue? Also he's not comfort sucking, each time he sucks it stimulates you to produce milk so he's trying to up the supply iyswim.
Have you tried expressing? I had a tough time with both mine (horrendous trauma as L had a TT and Isaac just fed constantly!) anyway h ended up giving ebm to give me a break. I assume LLL have recommended feeding him whilst he is in as upright a position as possible?
Its fine to stop it really is. You are not a terrible mother
10/12/2013 at 09:08
Firstly if you feel that bottle feeding (weather it is formula or expressed milk) is right for you and baby then go for it,
Secondly at 8/9 weeks in I often still had days on the sofa just feeding feeding and keeping little one up right as he had silent reflux so he was more comfotable that way. They still have tiny tumies really plus doing lots of growing can just make them mik monsters disco would comfort suck to I just used to unlatch him but keep cuddeling. Thumb sucking was definately a saving grace though.
The sling was fab he would cry for the first few min but then settel in for snuggels ( I didnt feed him in it though, but it meant I could get something to eat with two hands).
Be warned he might still want to eat frequently on formula (for comfort o just because thats the way he is made) I know people with formula fed babies who ate every 2-3 hours and were frequent night feeders and some with BF babies who ate every 4 hours and slept though the night early on so I guess it just depends on each baby.
Do whats best for you Happy mum is happy baby.
10/12/2013 at 10:22
I haven't had any experience with reflux but it sounds awful.
I have been very lucky that I've been able to bf both my babies, but I said both times that I would try and if I couldn't or had problems then I would switch to formula.
Yes breast milk is better for baby than formula , but a happy mum is better than a sad/stressed mum.
You have to weigh up which is worst. You have been doing everything you can to bf and you should be really proud for doing it a lot long than a lot of people, but a baby senses your emotions and needs to see his mummy smiling and happy.
If you think giving a bottle is going to be better go for it.
B is only 8 weeks old and I feel like the time has flown by, our babies don't stay little for long and it's so important to enjoy this time as before you know it they will be running around. You want to be able to look back on this time with happy memories and at the moment it doesn't sound like you have that.
How about you give bottles for 48 hours and see if it makes much difference. Express as much as possible during that time to keep your supply up so at the end of the 48hrs you can switch back to bf if you want
10/12/2013 at 13:57
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