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07/07/2013 at 07:08
Im feel so low right now, alone and lost
Im ment to be 7 weeks pregnant with my second child yet today would be my normal period date and on going to the loo this morning i saw that light pink on the loo roll and the fact iv had cramps all day yesterday and the same now im no longer holding my breath, it started offon a bad note 15 days bleeding and now i feel its ended the same way.
I feel sick to the bone and im in a fair bit of pain when the cramps come, it hurts to sit down i feel iv let my self and my family down....
I thought i had cried all i could at the begining of last month now the tears rolling again i dont know if im strong enough to cope with this
07/07/2013 at 07:27
Awww, I'm sorry you're feeling like that, I have every sympathy as my wife went through the same 2 months ago. We went for an early scan at 7 weeks and got told we were only 4/5.
Have you seen the doc yet? And... You've let nobody down you can't blame yourself x
07/07/2013 at 07:32
I have had 2 scans already the 1st scan they saw a small sac the sencond scan a week later they saw a bigger sac and was told it looked like there was the start if a yok forming i should be 7 weeks but they said i was more like 5 weeks, i cant help but feel iv let everyone down ilost and overay and tube a few years back so when i fell pregnant with my son i was over the moon and i thought id be ok this time but its not looking that way xx
07/07/2013 at 07:35
It's not your fault, there's nothing you have done or haven't done that can have caused this. I try telling my wide this all the time but she won't have it.
07/07/2013 at 07:46
I think its just part of the package of being a woman, i know deep down inside that if i have m/c its not my fault but i still cant help feeling guilty
It was the look of pure joy in my partners face when i told him i was pregnant again that sticks in my mind, i think thats where the guilty feeling comes from.
I just feel so sick right now, i want to call the midwifes but im also so scarred.
07/07/2013 at 07:48
I wouldn't put it off, the midwife might reassure you or you might get some good advice. It's worth doing because even if its bad newstithe sooner you deal with it and come to terms with it, you can press on, never give up.
07/07/2013 at 07:54
That is very good advice thank you so much, i will try calling them and see if i can be seen today in my local maternity unit, i never had any thing like this when i fell pregnant with my 1st....
I dont want to give up hope....i really dont
07/07/2013 at 08:05
Good luck! I'll keep checking to see how you got on.
I can see myself getting addicted to these forums, it's comforting to know that we're not alone in this but also so sad that all these amazing people are having problems. Not fair
07/07/2013 at 08:27
Its not fair....im not one to judge anyone but some times you have to ask your self why it happens to the good people....
I sit and read post of people saying they have found out they are having either a boy or girl but wanted the other and i feel like saying be bloody greatful you have a healthy baby! It sbouldnt matter what sex the baby is.....
Sorry rant over....just waiting for a call back from midwifes see what they say....so far iv not had much luck with the midwifes up here in scotland....i do wish i was still living in devon at times xx
07/07/2013 at 08:52
Oh honey that's rubbish -'I hope you get seen and get some answers today, the waiting is one of the hardest things.
There is no way it is your fault if anything does go wrong, it's one of those things and is completely devastating. I've had 3 mc including one ectopic and a missed one and i remember each one vividly. I am now almost 23 weeks with our second child and every day brings new worries.
Please don't blame yourself and keep talking to your partner, they hurt too in these situations.
07/07/2013 at 09:00
Thank you Hushpuppy, i know its very hars for us both he has had m/c with his ex so its bringing back hard and unplesent memories for him as well, i believe there is a wedge between us at the moment and im hoping if i get some answers today it will lift the wedge.
I also find my self being snappy towards him and then i feel even worse, i just want to know whats going on inside of me, if iv lost then i can start the heeling period.
I just would love to have some sort of answer xx
07/07/2013 at 09:57
thoughts are with you sarah, hope the midwife can answer questions for you x
07/07/2013 at 11:08
Sarah I'm sending you a ***HUGE CYBER HUG*** these guys are right it is not your fault, you mustn't blame yourself hunny. The waiting is the worst part. Could you go to A&E and get a scan to see if anything has changed since your last one? Things change so fast in the early stages and all the waiting is so heartbreaking.
07/07/2013 at 11:12
Thank you Lou4966 i know i need to go either midwifes or a&e im just so scarred its going to be a bad out come.
Thank you for the hug its much needed xxxxx
07/07/2013 at 11:21
I know it's scary but once you know either way you can either relax or deal with it - it's such a torment having to wait not knowing what's going on - I find it so weird you can be so detatched from your own body! Good luck hun we're here if you need us xxxxx
07/07/2013 at 13:50
What a fucking waste of space Montrose maternity unit are!
I feel let down so much....so i get through to them and their reply to me was
"If there is no bleeding and it just pain your in you will have to just ride it out till your nexted scan on the 24th of july!"
So it does not matter that im sitting here in tears, cant sit or lie down for the pain in my lower belly!!!
God im sorry i should not name amd shame but right now i couldnt give a shit and to make it worse im told on the phone that the lady that does the early scans is in today but she wants me just to wait almost 3 weeks in pain!!
Fucking joke....god help them if im not ok!!!!
07/07/2013 at 14:17
Sorry Sarah that is a joke. Seems ridiculous they can get away with being like that, I'd complain about them. If the pain gets any worst just go to A&E, they can't turn you away without treatment. It's easier to dismiss someone on the phone than in person xx
07/07/2013 at 14:22
Im fuming Lou4966 its a bloody joke!
07/07/2013 at 14:31
That's ridiculous hun I'm so sorry. Get down to a n e they can't turn you away if ur in pain x
07/07/2013 at 15:58
Well update iv had bleeding so been back on phone to them kicking off.
Been told im more likely having the start of a m/c for sure they have booked me in for a scan tuesday morning at 10:30 looks like my jelly bean has left its home xx
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