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29/06/2015 at 10:54
Hi I live in the UK now but its only been a year. I am 6 weeks pregnant and will be traveling to my home country for a pre-planned vacation. My confusion is .. should I have the baby in my home country where I know the hospital the staff and my family has given birth there or should I have the baby here where I dont know the procedure of the NHS ( I have heard I'd have to travel here and there for tests and scans and that all of it would not be taken care of in the same hospital) not to add I dont have any family here and am unlikely to be able to call anyone here. you might think this is a personal issue and I need to think about it ...its just I want to gather thoughts of anyone who might have been in a similar position. Plus it would be great if anyone could help me put some faith in the NHS system ( I watch the news and that does not make it easy )
29/06/2015 at 19:20
Hi, didn't want to read and run, my advice would be to have a chat with other mums in the area, lots of places have a bumps and baby group or ask you midwife what the options are.
I know different parts of the UK have different procedures but essentially it boils down to being safely delivered in an environment where you feel safe and comfortable.
I have delivered 5 babies in out local maternity unit and have been well looked after every time.
Alot if units have a tour to show new moms the rooms and what's available - birthing pools etc and they are all very friendly and helpful so ask the midwife on when and how to book one.
You can ask anyone to be your birth I g partner - not just dad ! So think about a close friend ?? You can even hire a doula ( someone there just for you during pregnancy and birth and shortly after )
I can assure you tho even if you are on your own the midwife attending will be super supportive and helpful tto you before during and after x
I don't know what the facilities are like back home but I'd defiantly check all the iptions .
02/07/2015 at 09:52
Thanks that has been very helpful.. Though I am probably going to deliver in my home country.. Its just I am by nature an anxious person and everyone I have spoken too has highly suggested having a support system after the delivery in order to maintain the health of me and my baby .. I dont know anyone where I live currently not a single person so its very difficult to imagine a support system. Its going to be rough ride anyway as having the baby abroad would mean lots of legal work but I have my family there and they can help me out with everything. its great to hear some good stories about the medical care here as you know there are always horror stories that can scare one especially if they are new to it all .
02/07/2015 at 15:43
Can I just throw a different point of view out there??
If you give birth in your home country, you will feel more comfortable during the time of the birth etc, but surely you will still need a support network in place when you come home and it would potentially be harder to find these groups when the baby is a bit older?
If you have the baby here, you could join an NCT birthing club where you will meet people due the same time as you and a lot of the time these people stay in contact and the kids grow up together. My best friend swore by them when she was on Maternity leave and they became like a second family. Plus there are NHS run classes too where you will have an opportunity to meet people.
If it was me, I would ask the appropriate family member to come and stay here for a few weeks before and after the baby is born and then try and build that network here, otherwise you are almost alienating yourself even more.
Just my thoughts x
02/07/2015 at 16:52
Hi thanks squeak i just checked out the nct page and it is of great help ! Thanks for letting me know .. this is kind of why I put this out there so that I can find out more about such support groups this definitely has helped me out a lot !
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