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15/04/2013 at 11:56
We do this as H wouldn't lay flat and settle (reflux related?) till still at it 11 weeks on. Now am I asking for a clingy demanding baby? Speaking to MIL yesterday and I got 'oh he's getting used to it he won't move to a cot now' with a tone of 'I told you so' in her voice. What's the longest you've co slept for and managed to get them in a cot?
15/04/2013 at 12:07
Until a week or so ago A was exclusively sleeping, not just in our bed, but ON me. And only there.
He 's now slept in his own cot most nights the past week. He's 13 weeks old.
Your MIL is talking rubbish.
If you like cosleeping stick with it. If YOU genuinely want/need to move him, go slow. We pushed our cot right up to the bed (edit: and removed the side of the cot) and wedged a rolled towel into the gap. I feed A to sleep, then put him on my shoulder for burping. I leave him there for a good 5-10 mins, then put my hand behind his head and lean forward so I'm holding him. Then I roll him into the cot gently. He sleeps the 'other' way round, his head where my tummy is and his feet by my head, as that made it easier. At first he'd only go an hour or so before waking up. Then a few hours. Now he'll sleep in it all night, as in I'll feed him in the night and put him back until morning (previously he wouldn't go back). So small steps, but I'm a lot happier now my back and neck aren't so squished!
Good luck x
15/04/2013 at 12:42
I always said I would never cosleep but if I didn't I literally wouldn't have got any sleep in those early days. Like saisi, S would only sleep on me. When the reflux settled a bit when we started weaning we put him in his cot on a slope and he was fine actually much to my surprise. So for us it was purely the reflux that was the problem.
I wouldn't worry about it for now, just do what you have to o cope with the reflux!
15/04/2013 at 13:39
Ignore, ignore, ignore! We had the same from my MIL and luckily H was on-side enough to tell her to shove her opinions!
E was co-sleeping up until 5 months and then went into her cot fine. i slept on a mattress in her room for another month and she often ended up in with me to begin with but gradually stayed in the cot. She still comes in with us if she's ill or won't settle.
I would really recommend the book Three in a Bed which debunks lots of the myths about co-sleeping x
15/04/2013 at 14:17
Ah thanks so much. It makes me question myself sometimes but I started it because it was the best for us and our situation. I need I stop doubting myself.
15/04/2013 at 14:30
I co slept on and off with N as and when he needed extra comfort or extra feeds during growth spurts. Also for daytime naps when I needed to get him having one long nap rather than a few short ones. I'm sure it went on until he was around 6 months old. He would often sleep in his cot in that time but sometimes he needed me more. All of a sudden he needed to be by himself and we've never had issues. Annie was even worse than him and now at the grand age of 6-7 weeks can sleep in her crib all night (most of the time!)
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