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31/07/2013 at 11:46
Short version: I'm tempted to give in and let H use the girls name he's wanted since I was pregnant with Alex even though I don't love it.
Long version: I do have an alternative, Elisabeth nn Beth, but it's a late entry after me discounting Elizabeth early on for reasons that I'm now ok with. I was all for pushing and pushing for 'my' name but he's massively pulled on my heart strings (read: taken advantage of his hormonal wife) by telling me how he sees in the future he and 'Kate', and me and Alex will pair up for things like kayaking, and he can envisage doing those things with a Kate or Katie. You may remember we both struggled with the fact this baby is a girl, and hearing him talk excitedly about her has made me all about soppy.
It's his birthday next week and I'm considering giving him Katherine as a birthday present.
BUT, whilst I don't hate it, I have a number of dislikes about it, I don't like the fact it's a K name (he won't spell it with a C), I don't like Kathy, Kath or Kat. I'm not too taken with Katie either. I think the full Katherine is a bit dull too. (Apologies to any offended K's!)
H doesn't hate Elisabeth, but prefers the Elizabeth spelling and his reasons for disliking it are because he grew up with a friend's annoying little sister called Elizabeth. I think she'd mainly be called Beth, just as Alexander is always known as Alex.
Gah, I so want to give him this one, I just wish it was a name I liked a little more. I almost feel I'll be embarrassed to use her full name. Will I always regret it? WIll I really learn to love the name?
I LOVE Alex's name, and it was the only name I could ever imagine using on a boy, is it only fair H gets his way this time for the same reasons I did last time.
Well done if you've made it to the end of another mammoth brain dump re names.
31/07/2013 at 11:54
I think you can learn to use a name a certain way and grow to love it. How about Kitty (love that name!)
But if you don't have options you think you will love, I think it could grate a little over time. Especially since you're so very happy with your boy's name :)
31/07/2013 at 11:55
I couldn't, no.
I felt very strongly about my kids names, and would never compromise.
However, H didn't like J's name, but let me have it. He said "he's my son, I will love him whatever he is called", and within a couple of days, just couldn't imagine him being anything other than J.
31/07/2013 at 12:02
Would he not negotiate to Catherine / Cate? I know a few katherines but have never known any get called Kath or Kathy so wouldn't worry about those nn's. In answer to the general question, i don't LOVE our chosen name but know when i associate it with my son then it will take on a new meaning which no other name will then compare to. I think that your H is excited about your new family is important.
31/07/2013 at 12:10
He won't move to Catherine/Cate, and tbf I think we'd all get bored of spelling out Cate with a C.
Kitty I like, not sure it works with my surname though.
My concern with Elisabeth is that over the last 7 months I've fallen and then out of love with a few names and wonder if the same will happen with this one? At least with Alex I loved the name for over a year before he was born. But then having thought about Katherine for over 2.5 years I'm not sure I'm ever going to love it. I just want to do something nice for H.
31/07/2013 at 12:11
I know a Kathryn who is called Kate, although we (friends) always call her Katrine/Katrina (and the waves). But then again, we all call each other random stuff anyway!
31/07/2013 at 12:12
How are you on model names? Some kids end up being known by those as opposed to normal names?
31/07/2013 at 12:13
Lol, not model, MIDDLE. Damn iPad!
I did, My 3rd child was very hard to name. I wanted to call him Elliott or Elis and H wanted Ewan. In the end I agreed to my husbands choice even though I wasn't 100% or even 50% to be honest! We asked my daughter who was 4 and she liked Ewan so that's what he became. I still have moments of "oh dear I not sure that's right" and for the first few weeks I was embarrassed telling people his name but at 10 months I couldn't imagine him as anything else (although I mainly call him pooh bear or Sir pooan bear). He grew to fit it!
Ps, Hi everyone this is the first time I've posted but its subject close to my heart
31/07/2013 at 12:14
I know a Catherine I call her Cathy lol I like Kitty version If you are compromising on the name he HAS to compromise on the spelling!!! Kathryn?
31/07/2013 at 12:15
I didn't choose Dawn's name. It was never my favourite but now I couldn't imagine her being called anything else. I am not the biggest fan of this one's name (jennifer) Jenny. But it was a losing battle with H. Even Dawn prefers Jenny too so I'm never going to get to use my name
We're not having anymore
31/07/2013 at 12:19
Dawn & Jenny sound cute together.
31/07/2013 at 12:21
Middle name will be Kay (family reasons) which is another reason to dislike Katherine as Kay is derived from Katherine, but that's not enough to out me off it on it's own. Kay is also from my side, as is the surname (although that is H's choice, not mine) so I'm wanting to hog all 3 names .
I prefer Katherine to Kathryn, more classic I think.
Batmummy - welcome to MD! That's exactly how I feel, like I'll be embarrassed and have to explain that it was H's choice if we use it. It's good to know you learnt to love it relatively soon.
31/07/2013 at 12:23
Daisy - that's what I'm hoping will happen but it just feels like such a gamble.
The irony of this is that H will come up with some random nickname for her in the first week and she'll be called 'Bob' or 'Lincoln' for the first 6 months if history is anything to go by.
31/07/2013 at 12:33
I think Kitty would work really well as a pet name, especially when she is younger. I think I'd probably go with it, it's a good solid name, works well with Alex and I think once it is her name, it becomes less about the name and more about the little person it belongs too IYSWIM.
31/07/2013 at 12:34
I have a sister called Kathryn, who is always called Katt or Katerina.
How about some other origins of the name Kate? Katelyn, Katerina, Kathlyn or just simply Kate itself with Elisabeth as a middle name? You could put the Elisabeth in between Kate and Kay to break up the sound a bit.
31/07/2013 at 12:36
I wouldnt say I loved any of my kids names. Boys especially we struggled with. Samuel was a make do name cos we had no other options but now at only 13 days in I love it and couldn't imagine him being anything else
31/07/2013 at 12:44
I ended up doing this with my youngest. It was a name H really wanted and he went on and on about it for the second child.....but yet again I got my way (like I did with A!) So, I relented with the third! His name really suits him now.
31/07/2013 at 12:58
Not read the other replies but my advice you be to not discuss names any more until she is here and see if one just suits her more than the other. I didn't get to use any of the names I loved but we used the name I preferred from a joint list. F's name was my first choice and it was H's third from the list. We both had names we loved and the other hated but I adore his name now and nothing else would have been right but we waited until he was born to see what he looked like.
31/07/2013 at 13:03
I wouldnt call my child a name i wasnt happy with.
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