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18/07/2013 at 08:06
Everyone wants us to find out the sex - Its really getting on my nerves. Actually this time i want to find out the sex because we didnt with Lucy and everyone kept saying "the way you're carrying, its gonna be a boy" "etc etc boy, boy". You get the gist. So i had convinced myself she was gonna be a boy. My husband had to tell me twice at the birth that she was infact a girl!
So, whilst its more important that baby is healthy and 20week scan shows all bits&bobs in the correct, I would quite like to find out this time.
However I want to them keep quiet that we know - i thinking it would be easier to pretend we dont know, rather than saying "we are not saying" as it will cut down on the on the pestering!.
How did you go about it - Tell people you decided not to find out? Baby wasn't in a good position to find out? Did it work or did people guess?
18/07/2013 at 08:13
We have a friend that found out and told us she had found out but was keeping it a secret. The thing was she kept saying he and him so we all guessed. I would pretend you couldn't find out then if you slip and say him or her you can just claim its a hunch and no one will be any the wiser.
Have you got a 'feeling' about whether this one is pink or blue??
18/07/2013 at 08:14
Yep, we have! We told everyone before that we weren't going to find out, and family have therefore not even bothered asking - except my mum asked once if we had stuck to it and I just said yes. Random people who ask if we know what we're having just get told that we decided not to find out. We've known for over 6 weeks now and *so far* not slipped up and given the sex away either. Touch wood!
It's quite entertaining now when we say we don't know and people say, "Ah well, I think you're having a boy/girl because...." and we know whether they're right or not! It's actually really lovely having the secret between H and I.
18/07/2013 at 08:17
We will find out if baby obliges, a few know and we have told them we aren't telling anyone and they've been ok about it. For everyone else we will just say that baby wasn't in the right position and not sure if we'll get another chance to find out, pretend to be upset about it and hope that shuts people up!
18/07/2013 at 08:25
First time we found out but didn't tell anyone we knew, well apart from hitched and even then I didn't say what 'it' was.
Tbh I found that I was telling a web of lies to cover my tracks for slipping up! I kind of enjoyed us secretly knowing but not enough that this time we've just told people when they've asked. It was nice to keep everyone guessing and think it added to the overall excitement when he was born.
Never had a problem of people thinking we knew, people just believed us that we didn't. I imagine if you didn't find out last time people will believe you even more.
18/07/2013 at 10:29
We found out at 16 weeks and told immediate friends and family but that's all. On here I lied and said I didn't know and in work I admitted we knew but told them we weren't saying. I loved keeping it a secret but it was hard and a neighbour wanted to see his nursery and hubby showed her the inside of wardrobe.....doh all blue clothes!
18/07/2013 at 10:53
If everything is ok this time then me and H have agreed we will find out but not tell anyone else. I think its a nice secret to keep.
18/07/2013 at 11:06
HF that's what we plan to do. We have both decided we will find out (if we can) and I'll tell my parents (as I see them every week) but other than that we're not planning on telling anyone. If people ask I'll just say we don't know. I'm actually sick of people asking if we are going to find out, me saying I'm not sure and them then telling me, don't do it, it will ruin it, wait for the 'suprise' etc etc. I'm sure I'll probably say He/She at some point and my H and I said we will just go with the story that, say it's a boy, at my work I will say I think it's a boy and H thinks it's a girl so if I say he it's fine and vicaversa, if H slips up he will say at his work that he thinks it's a boy and I think a girl so that should cover things!
18/07/2013 at 11:33
We never found out, but from day one I referred to W as him. After the 20wk I continued to refer to him as a boy. People were convinced I had found out, but we really hadn't! I do think that it's possible to keep it quiet! I think next time we might find out what we're having and keep it a secret!
18/07/2013 at 12:21
If we find out I would defo lie and say we hadn't! I have a friend due next month and we already know her wee one is a girl called Emily. It's nice to know but it's so public!
18/07/2013 at 12:37
we have done excatly that. We didn't want to know with Isla but H decided he wanted to know this time around so we found out. We've just told anyone that asks that we didn't find out as we didn't with Isla and wanted it to be the same. No one questions that response. I think if you didn't find out the first time around people are more likely to believe the story that you didn't this time either x
18/07/2013 at 13:20
We have. Had a private scan at 17 weeks for growth and found out. No one knows apart from here, I frequently say he and if anybody asks I just say oh I say he instead of it. Most of the things we've bought are neutral as is the nursery etc so no one has cottoned on yet
18/07/2013 at 14:20
Glad lots of you have the same devious minds!! My Mum was convinced we had found out last time but weren't telling anyone. Convincing her this time should be interesting!
18/07/2013 at 17:09
TP you've reminded me how I had one drawer full of neutral clothes that I opened when my mum came to look at the nursery, fortunately she didn't insist on opening the other drawers!
18/07/2013 at 18:07
Yes we did first time, the bump was always sprout, we found out he was a boy, but was always referred to as sprout and we didn't let on to anyone, not even to the nurses when I was in labour. 2nd time we told everyone, we wanted N to know he was having a brother so didn't keep it a secret.
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