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05/09/2013 at 18:23
LO seems to just about understand that there is a baby in mummy's tummy. TBH its not something I've pushed / mentioned to her all that much - but visitors / people we meet keeping asking her if she is looking forward to having a baby etc etc
She is approaching 26months at the moment - will be approx 2+1/2 when baby arrives.
I'm planning to breastfeed - LO was herself breastfed until 19months but she always bottle feeds dolls - i think its something she has picked up from other kids at playgroups / other Mum's bottlefeeding babies at groups etc
People have started telling me because of this, i need to "prepare" her for how i'm going to feed baby.
Do I really? I think its too early, i don't think she is all that interested / knows what it means to have a baby sibling? And if do, what do i say / shall we 'practice' with her doll?
(Sorry - this has turned a bit waffley!)
05/09/2013 at 18:31
No experience so just my opinion but I'd say its too early before baby arrives to do it now. Telling her now about something happening in 16 weeks is a long time.
Maybe nearer the time you could start doing pretend with her dolls- put a nappy on one, hold it next to your boob to say this is how baby gets milk etc if you think she will understand. If you don't I wouldn't think its a worry though. I wouldn't say you need to "prepare" her like its some shocking thing she's going to see. I might be wrong but I would imagine she may be intrigued by it but when you explain she will then move onto something else. You can't "prepare" them for everything that will be different when baby arrives
W is only 21 mth so doesn't understand I'm having a baby at all- although mummy's increasingly large boobs make a lovely cushion!
05/09/2013 at 18:43
I mentioned it once or twice and it was in a book I'd bought (about a new baby coming). I thought no more of it and then saw him making a goat drink milk from a toy cow. Lol. He knows the baby drinks mummy milk and we have cows milk. He's never questioned it. A friend bf in front of him a month ago and he said 'mummy milk' and then just carried on playing. #2 is now 16 days old and he's seen me bf loads and says nothing other than the baby is having mummy milk and pointing to the boob I'm not feeding from and says 'not that one' and points to the one I am feeding from and says 'this one'
Generally he's quite bright and gets stuff easily. He's known I was pregnant from 13ish weeks and he knew I was going to hospital and a doctor would take the baby out of my tummy and it would be sore after (ELCS).
05/09/2013 at 18:49
No, i never last time and i wont tell them again. They see friends bf anyway.
05/09/2013 at 18:55
he was 3, he stood and watched in the beggining and he liked pressing the buttons on the expressor.i just told him i was feeding I and that they had milk in them
i didnt do anything in preparation, i didnt feel the need, i wouldnt have sat him down and told him i was going to bottle feed so didnt occur to me to do it for bf
05/09/2013 at 19:20
I did but only because we have a 6 year age gap. Nothing too deep, just said hopefully that's where baby would be having its milk. She was totally fine about it as I knew she would be. She had never seen anyone bf their baby so that was only reason to explain.
05/09/2013 at 19:33
A is 27 months and his sister is due anyday, the only thing I've mentioned is when trying to get him used to the idea by making baby more real than something in Mama's tummy we've said lots of 'when baby comes to live with us...' and mentioned that baby will eat/drink milk. I've not specifically mentioned breast or bottle as I obviously have no guarantee that bf will work out this time, despite feeding A for 10 months. I figure this way I can elaborate when she's here that the milk comes from Mama.
05/09/2013 at 20:09
I was expressing before H was born to harvest colostrum so M saw. All I said was that some babies have
Milk from their Mummy and some have it from bottles. The reply was "ah, ok". Nothing more said by either of us.
05/09/2013 at 20:42
We read a book about a new baby which showed a picture of the new mum breastfeeding. I used this to explain that the baby would only be able to drink milk to start with and it would either come from mummy's boobies or a bottle and the baby would choose which way she would prefer. She was used to seeing babies BF and feed from bottles at baby groups so she just accepted it and was fine with me BF when I was able to.
Nope. We have a 22 month age gap. I didn't know if it would work as I couldn't feed #1. It has worked well and #1 has been interested and asking about it so we just explained that S has boobie juice. Now when S cries I just looks and says Mummy give her booby!
The other day I was sat feeding S and I came over put a cushion on her lap and pretended to feed her teddy. It was so cute!!
05/09/2013 at 20:57
I didnt prepare G. In fact it didnt even occur to me! She saw me BFing in hospital and was intrigued and giggled because P was "sucking mummy's boobies" but she was totally fine and interested more than anything.
05/09/2013 at 21:16
B will be nearly 7 when this baby comes along so bigger age gap. He knows where baby will get his milk from, but he also knows that we may need to use bottles like we did with him after a couple of weeks. He is fine with it, has asked to try some but not from my boob lol.
05/09/2013 at 22:41
Didn't particularly try to prepare B who was nearly 3 when his sister arrived, but we have a topsy and tim book about having a baby and there is a bit about mummy feeding the baby. The picture shows the mum BFing. When we read it I said that mummy's could give babies milk like that or from bottles. We read it loads but I only mentioned feeding a few times, along with talking about bathing, crying etc. When his sister arrived he was curious about 'mummy's milk' but not bothered.
06/09/2013 at 07:08
We didn't say anything about feeding baby. I'm bf J and D just says J is having more milk from mummy's boobies. I thought she would start copying me with her dolls but not yet. She has asked why and I just explaon to her that's how some babies have milk.
She seems to have accepted it.
06/09/2013 at 09:23
We talk about it quite a lot, only because A keeps saying how big my boobs are (!) and so I tell her that's because they are getting ready to feed the baby and she accepts that. She is 4 though so a bit older. K who is 6 completely understands, although funnily enough it's only A who keeps asking how the baby actually got in there!!
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