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20/08/2013 at 13:54
Or was it knowing what sort of age gap you wanted and starting to TTC then?
I was ridiculously broody with O. H has said he wants between 2-3 year age gap between number 2 which would mean starting to TTC in the near future which tbh scares the hell out of me! It doesn't feel like 5 minutes ago since I had O and she still feels so young.
I originally said that we could start TTC next June after my 30th birthday. (I didn't want to be pregnant for my birthday - selfish moi? ) I keep changing my mind and thinking about perhaps TTC sooner but there is no real desire to have another one yet. I know I want another, I just don't feel the need like I did with O.
20/08/2013 at 14:06
I feel exactly the same. Before having F I was terribly broody but now that I have him, it's as if that part of me has been satisfied. Does that make sense? I no longer feel that need to have a baby. We definitely do want another though and we have been planning on TTC from, like, this month but it really scares me. Maybe it's because I know what to expect with the birth, etc now! I also worry about how I'd cope with a toddler and a baby.
On a completely selfish note, I worked hard to lose my baby weight and now feel comfortable with my figure but I worry about having to do it all again after #2. It's as if the thought of putting weight on again terrifies me but I never felt like this before getting pregnant with F. It's weird.
20/08/2013 at 14:15
Pregnancy and birth don't worry me too much (although it should!) it's the thought of another newborn like O! She was hard work and I'm scared of having another one like her I suppose.
You're right about weight too. I've lost 3 stone since having O, still want to lose another stone or two and want to do that before getting pregnant but also want to enjoy being that weight before getting pregnant. That probably makes no sense to anyone else.
20/08/2013 at 15:22
We were going to wait until E was 2 and a half before TTC number 2 but I got whacked with the broody stick when she was 18 months old and M arrived 10 months later!
20/08/2013 at 15:38
I know I want a 2 year age gap (or did before I had J) so we're loosely ttc now. I'm a little bit broody, but not hugely, and the idea of having a newborn who was as difficult as J+toddler J is terrifying. So part if me is fine about the potential for it to take a bit longer this time.
20/08/2013 at 16:09
On the whole, F was a pretty easy baby and I found that hard enough at times. I do worry about the next one being the complete opposite.
I also 'get' the whole thing about losing weight and enjoying your goal weight for a bit first - I think that's where I am now. I've lost just shy of 3st (all baby weight plus a bit more) and I'm the slimmest I've been in years so I feel like I want to enjoy it a bit longer. Originally I said I'd enjoy the summer being slim and then TTC haha.
20/08/2013 at 16:13
My first was 3 months old when we talked about when should we have another. We agreed we both wanted if possible an 18 month age gap as we wanted a close age gap, we were lucky and have a 19 month gap between them
20/08/2013 at 17:09
I was first broody from around A being 3 months, really though I think I just loved the baby days do much I wanted another baby as I could feel my baby getting bigger and older so quickly. We initially intended to ttc from Christmas when A was 7 months, however the lack of AF (still BF'ing) and then some bad smears meant we were forced to wait until A was 18 months old, at that point it was most definitely head over heart, I wasn't broody at all and I found 18-24m the hardest of all ages, the thought of a newborn scared me, I just didn't want the age gap to be any bigger. Luckily now he's 25 months it's a lot easier (not easy, just easier than 18m!) so I'm hoping it'll work out ok.
I completely get the not wanting to be pregnant for your 30th, I'm lucky that I fell of quickly this time, i should have a 3.5m old when I turn 30, I was prepared to have a break from ttc to avoid the risk of being in labour for it. Being, say, 2nd trimester wouldn't have bothered me so much.
Even now at 36 weeks pregnant I wouldn't describe myself as broody.
20/08/2013 at 17:56
I was broody from the minute we got home from the Hospital with W. I nearly started crying when i walked past the pregnancy test aisle in superdrug when W was 9 days old and thought about the fact i wasn't pregnant any more. - But i put that down to hormones rather than actually feeling broody.
Realistically, i think we'll wait until W is nearly 3 before trying again as i want to concentrate on watching him grow and develop especially when W is such an easy baby that i know the next one won't be given the number of people i know who have had an easy baby followed by a difficult baby.
20/08/2013 at 17:58
Oh I just don't know what to do. I suppose the thought I'm thinking about it is positive as up until she was about 18 months old I wouldn't even discuss it.
Just watch, the broody stick will hit very soon now...
20/08/2013 at 19:03
I've never been particularly broody, and TTC for A was definitely a calculated decision. As I had/have PCOS we thought it might take a while but as it turned out we fell first month and we have a 27 month age gap which has worked well for us. Don't even ask about #3 Lol!!!
20/08/2013 at 20:32
I was desperate for no 2 and he was a struggle - 3 years TTC followed by IVF and he's now 5 months and I'm so broody again...... Husband is distinctly unimpressed!
20/08/2013 at 22:03
G is 9.5 months old and i'm very broody for another baby but my logical brain kicks in and tells me it's too soon for us and to wait a while yet, but yep, definitely stop and stare at tiny babies out and about and feel my ovaries clacking saying 'use me, use me' lol x
21/08/2013 at 15:00
a lot of my friends wanted a 1.5-2 year age gap so I felt broody but did want a more 2.5 gap as had no family nearby to help out, H worked long hours with lots of travel, etc. I felt jealous others were having their babies but knew was sensible thing to wait. ended up with just over 3 year age gap
21/08/2013 at 15:21
I admit, I'm broody at the moment, Z is nearly 8 months old. However, the idea of having another at the moment scares me, I think it's Z I want back as a newborn rather than another if that makes sense. We said we'd wait until he was at least 1 before discussing it. I wonder if we'd stick to it!
21/08/2013 at 17:10
Yes I knew I wanted another one right away although we had planned an extra couple of months gap if I'm honest. I don't think it would have made a massive difference though.
21/08/2013 at 19:09
I've not experienced the bloodiness, number 1 was a happy accident and number 2 was planned but in a practical way. We knew we wanted a child, we were ready and so we got on with it. I was 100% sure I was done and now I feel a bit unsure, not broody exactly but just pondering a potential number 3.
21/08/2013 at 20:04
I currently have no desire to have another. As things stand I'd be happy for her to be a one and only. Maybe when she's getting towards school age I might think about another, but I don't feel broody no. I'd perhaps like a sibling for her but at the moment that would be the only reason.
21/08/2013 at 20:19
I was very. We started TTC #2 when I was 4 months old and that was after a terrible birth, shoulder injury and pnd... I took 9 months to fall pregnant which with hindsight I am glad about but on the other hand if she was 9 months older I might be getting more sleep by now...
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