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07/09/2013 at 20:35
Hoping this isnt to sensitive for anyone.
A's labour and birth was a bit of a nightmare, ended up with epidural, episiotomy and forceps so not what I had in mind.
L's labour was super fast and 1 push and be was out, again not what I had planned but much better than the first time.
For my third I would really like to have the waterbirth I always wanted but in my head I'm thinking what's the point of thinking about it, just see what happened at the time.
Did you think much about it beforehand and did you get what you wanted?
07/09/2013 at 20:39
Yes I did, I feel so lucky and blessed and it does scare me re no2 because surely I can't be that lucky again?
I wanted a water birth at home with minimum intervention and no pain relief and that's exactly what happened.
07/09/2013 at 20:46
I want what Isis had!
One of the reasons I want to be at home is it reduces my options to deviate from what I want. I am worried that if I was in hospital, I'd be offered pain relief I didn't want at a time when I was vulnerable and might accept it; I'm worried they'd want to interfere in some way that meant I couldn't have my water birth (eg insisting on constant monitoring) etc etc. I think my best chance of a water birth with minimal intervention is by staying at home, so that's what we've planned.
07/09/2013 at 20:51
I was very open minded so didn't really have in mind a birth that I really wanted, I was really only focused on the baby coming safely part, however it arrived! I didn't want to set my heart on something I couldn't control.
I of course wanted it to be as smooth as possible though and luckily it was and fairly quick too (10.5 hours in total) despite being induced. The one thing I thought would be involved was pain relief - I was totally fine with the thought of an epidural but I ended up not having anything at all, not that this was a disappointment, but a definite surprise!
I hope you get it mrs50's :) the only time I struggled was just before the mw arrived, I was having contractions on top of another but didn't dare get in the pool in case I slowed things down and I wasn't far on, she examined me and I was 8-9cms so I got in quick sharp lol this time I'll get in the pool sooner I think, it was bliss.
07/09/2013 at 21:29
I wanted, was desperate for a homebirth but E had other ideas and I had to be induced which had been my worst nightmare. However having said that and having gone into hospital like a woman on death row I was lucky and cracked on with a whiff of propess and was able to deliver in the birth centre pool whihc was fantastic despite. my subsequent 3rd degree tear! I now call it my home from home birth. Not quite what I wanted or expected but uktimately a good experience.
07/09/2013 at 21:36
Nope, although I don't really mind. A's birth was induced but easy and straight forward - ended in bad tears and a PPH, blood transfusion, longer stay in hospital than I had hoped
2nd was a spontaneous labour, very quick but J was in fetal distress and was whipped out with forceps. I was in agony until I got the spinal in theatre as the contractions were one on top of the other and the consultant wouldn't let me have anything other than G&A
3rd was supposed to be a nice calm and controlled labour which was why I asked to be induced so I was in hospital when things started and I could be monitored as I was very anxious after J's birth. Having a MW who didn't believe I was in labour meant it was all very quick with no pain relief until I was already pushing (few puffs of G&A) In the end I was glad it was all over quickly!
07/09/2013 at 21:51
I wanted a water birth, I got a water labour. Spent over 8 hours in the pool, was fully dilated but then nothing happened and contractions slowed down. Ended up with an emergency section as he was back to back and brow presentation.
I remember thinking in the pool how lucky I was to be in there.
Does it bother me? Not really, it would have been nice but he arrived safely and I'd done all I could. That's life!
07/09/2013 at 22:00
I didnt have birth plans or expectations really. My aim was to have a safe delivery with as little pain relief as required which i achieved. Might not be so lucky 3rd time but we will see.
07/09/2013 at 22:06
With C, I didn't know what birth I wanted. The premature labour/emergency CS wouldn't have been on my wish list though.
With J, I wanted the "typical" birth. Straight forward, push and out comes baby, just like in the movies. I got that. Was the perfect birth for me, after my experience with C.
07/09/2013 at 22:08
I didn't really have a chanc to think about the birth I wanted with A. I had her my emergency c section at 31 weeks. I think this influenced the type of birth I wanted (needed) for my next two pregnancies.
07/09/2013 at 22:27
Not with #1. Started as a home water birth, I refused to get in the water then she went back to back, I got blue lighted to hospital, her heart rate dropped massively blah blah.
Second time like ER I got the movie birth. I am sop pleased I had them that way round. I loved giving birth second time around and would happily do it over again.
07/09/2013 at 22:43
My ideal birth would be a calm water birth with no drugs - but our hospital doesn't have a pool so that was out of the question!
#1 was a very long labour, had gas and air, pethidine and epidural, episiotomy and stitches then to theatre for placenta accreta (placenta emedded in wall of womb). So not ideal in any sense.
#2 - I was worried about a repeat of #1 birth, and that my fears would make things worse, so I did a hypnobirthing course which was amazing. Waters went at 9pm the Thursday night, contractions started around midnight, arrived at hospital at 4am and he was born 20 minutes later. All I'd had was a little g&a on arrival at hospital but that was it.
I am absolutely convinced that the hypnobirthing helped me to stay in control as much as possible, to manage the fear and therefore the pain. If we were to have more kids (which we will most definitely not!), I'd go for the same approach again without question.
Of course, you can never really know how it will go, and it's for that reason I didn't have a birth plan either time, but I do think the hypnobirthing helps you to mentally manage however it goes.
08/09/2013 at 01:08
No. & I blame watching too many episodes of 1 born every minute for making me believe I could have what I wanted!! I got the room with the pool which I desperately wanted but wasn't allowed into the pool till I was 5 cm dilated & by then (only 2 hours of being at the mid wife led centre) I'd been pushing with every contraction so I was only allowed to stay in for about half an hour before giving birth 30 mins later on dry land. Also, as it was the room with the pool I didn't get to play my ipod with the music I'd spent 8 hours (I kid you not - as I got very frustrated with itunes not co-operating!) putting together. If I manage to get pregnant again I want a home water birth!
08/09/2013 at 05:32
I wanted as little intervention as possible. like bg, i got a water labour and was perfect, but then contractions slowed and ended up with forceps with episiotomy. if i was in the same position again id insist on an epidural as it was really painful. hoping i wouldn't need it next time though.
08/09/2013 at 06:56
with #1 I did - MLU, water birth, no pain relief, delayed cord clamping, H cut cord, immediate skin to skin, bf asap - everything you could ask for really. did have a 2nd degree tear and stitches but they didn't overly bother me and healed quickly. I was the only one in the unit though which may explain why it was so easy for them to follow my wishes. had a detailed plan and the MW followed it too the letter.
# 2 & #3 were twins so I deliberately tried not to focus on what I wanted. it was immediately obvious I couldn't use the MLU and wouldn't be allowed in water. I also knew I had to rethink my pain options as I would need constant monitoring so couldn't be mobile. in the end I was induced (which I was begging for by the time we got to that point I was in so much pain with the preganancy), it took hours and hours. waters were manually broken and then one of the twins lodged on my sciatic nerve and every time I led back I had knife like pains through my spine. I refused to lie down for the monitor until they got me the 'epidural man'. labour then didn't progress and I ended up on the drip at max dose which caused decels for twin one. they were about to give me a section when I finally made it to 10cms but then twin one turned and I couldn't push her out. needed episiotomy and ventouse to get her out. she was held up briefly but rushed straight off with the paeds team across the room. twin two followed with little issue but was whisked off just the same. it was 20 mins before I saw either of them. cord was cut immediately, no skin to skin as they were bundled in towels. I know I was lucky to avoid a section but it was not at all what I would have liked and it was very traumatic.
if we have another I would be going for a hospital birth, not the MLU. having seen how things can change I now feel its madness to be 20mins from the hospital (even further if at home), I want to be as close as possible to the facilities incase there are problems. I would aim for another water birth but I am now very open to the idea of an epidural if I feel I need one. my ethos has changed completely from 'natural natural natural' (as most first time mums aspire to) to 'whatever results in safe delivery for me and baby'
08/09/2013 at 06:58
#1 I wanted a water birth in the MLU and ended up with a crash section due to his heart rate plummeting.
#2 I just didn't want a crash section! Ended up bed bound due to constant monitoring but had a wonderfully understanding mwife who made the experience much easier to deal with. Worst bit about it was to 3rd degree tear and having to stay in hospital for 2 nights away from J to see if I needed a blood transfusion
08/09/2013 at 08:10
08/09/2013 at 10:44
I'd always said the whole time I was pregnant that my birth plan was to do whatever it took to get Ella out safely which I achieved.
In an ideal world I would have loved the 12 hour labour they tell you first time moms generally have with the last stage in the pool. Open to pain relief taking whatever helped most. I really didn't want a cs having avoided one for my low laying placenta which jus moved in time
As it happens after 40 hours of labour with very little pain relief I ended up with emcs but I just kept saying that as long as they got E out safely all would be fine.
08/09/2013 at 11:11
Yes I think I did. I wanted to get baby out safely and relatively quickly with the minimum of pain, which is what I got! I was open about pain relief and thought I'd be asking for it, but ended up not liking the gas and air so did without anything at all and it was fine. 6 hours from first contraction to birth, perfect! I didn't want a water birth.
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