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09/08/2013 at 21:07
Was out for coffee with my mum this afternoon and there was a lady, little boy about 3 ish and her parents at next table. When Mum nipped to loo i overheard lady telling her parents she knew she wasn't pregnant this month as her temp had dropped and so she was waiting on AF today or tomorrow. She was disappointed as she they'd DTD loads over ovulation this month and had been trying the pre-seed!! Her dad was telling her that she hadn't been trying that long and he was sure it would happen just to keep at it.
I have never discussed any aspect of my sex life with my mum, my dad would have heart failure i think!! I know some people do talk to their mums about these things but to go as far as discussing lube with your dad?! My parents didn't know we were TTC #2, even if they did i don't think i'd have been showing mum my chart....
I'd just told my mum i was pregnant too so i hope she hadn't overheard, not what you want to hear when you're TTC.
Am i alone in being surprised, does everyone talk to their parents about TTC?!?!
09/08/2013 at 21:08
I didn't before the miscarriage, but most months after I told my mum when my period came. Not my dad though!!
09/08/2013 at 21:12
Yesi know some people do talk about when it hasn't happened etc, it was the detail about how much sex and the lube that threw me. And the Dad!!
09/08/2013 at 21:16
God no. They don't need to know about our sex life. That's just weird.
09/08/2013 at 21:22
Oh yes I agree. Lube, specifying when they had sex, and involving dad in the conversation is totally and utterly wrong!
09/08/2013 at 21:29
I would have been more likely to talk to dad than mum actually.
09/08/2013 at 21:31
09/08/2013 at 21:32
Nope, not specifically. We were open with friends that we would like a family at some point, which was great as it meant we didn't get lots of the "so when are you having children" questions when things were taking much longer than expected. I had thought that my mum had also known but when I told her I was pregnant with Zoe she was really surprised and said she thought we weren't bothering about having children. Certainly wouldn't have been discussing the ins and outs of it.
She had no idea we were TTCing with Orla because, well, we weren't :lol:
09/08/2013 at 21:34
My mum knew when I had my colposcopy and treatment that I was upset because we had to delay ttc, so by default when I told her 5 months later I had the all clear I think she knew we were going to ttc.
I would never discuss in that kind of detail with my mum though, and the thought of discussing line with my dad actually makes me feel a bit sick.
Bet your mum was chuffed with your news!
09/08/2013 at 21:36
First time we told nobody at all. For #2 I think everyone including the postman knew as we said we planned wedding for when son was 18ish months so that we could TTC straight after and that would be minimum age gap. Luckily we fell quickly. I never said any details to anyone and if we had problems I still wouldn't talk about temps and lube etc with friends (internet weirdies aside) or my family
09/08/2013 at 21:37
Mum was actually shocked! I said 'so, guess who's pregnant?' and she first guessed my sister (who is 23 and single), then my cousin and then said she gave up and just tell her who!! Apparently she was convinced we wanted a 3 year gap (no idea why!) so wasn't expecting it, she was really pleased once it'd sunk in!!
09/08/2013 at 21:39
I've talked to mum how we didn't expect to fall pregnant so quickly as I know she struggled to conceive with me and my sister (brother was a happy accident). They knew we'd have a second just didn't tell them when.
I could never talk to my parents about lube!!!
09/08/2013 at 21:48
Oh that's funny, glad she was pleased once she was over the surprise.
09/08/2013 at 21:56
Glad i'm not the only one thinks lube and parents is a no-go combination!!
09/08/2013 at 22:19
Everyone expected us to wait longer before having children so we didn't discuss it with anyone as we knew we'd get loads of comments about why can't we wait. People did know we would like children but I guess they thought we meant in a few years. Now that we've had one a few people have asked if we'd like another, but not pressed us on when (mind you he is only 7 months old).
I would not have discussed the ins and out (ha!) with my parents no, especially not in a public place and especially not my dad. I am relatively open with my mum, she prescribed me the Pill from the age of 17 for example, but she doesn't need to know details! We've discussed birth in a fair level of detail but not how the baby got there haha.
09/08/2013 at 23:11
I told my mum and dad ex-h and I were trying when we were referred for fertility testing, I was an emotional mess at the time and wanted to explain. Didn't say that I was trying with OH but my mum was planning to take me to a fertility show when I got my bfp. There is no way in hell though I would discuss the specifics with them though
10/08/2013 at 02:05
God no. Some things really don't need discussing!
10/08/2013 at 04:21
I'd talk temps and mention been 'practicing lots'. Not sure about lube, but if it's in an almost-medical context (which is what it seems like to the lady who was speaking), then yeah, I reckon it's possible that could crop up too. I don't ever see my dad because he's always working away but I'd definitely be able to chat to mum about that stuff, and in front of him. She's great with all that type of stuff. It's just feelings she struggles with, ha ha.
10/08/2013 at 06:48
No! Is there no sense of privacy anymore why not go the whole hog and discuss indepth about fertile cervical mucus, what positions, did either of you o r g a s m
Thankfully my parents wouldn't want to know and I wouldn't be telling, o and if/when my children ttc then they can keep the details to themselves too!!
10/08/2013 at 07:04
I still find it weird enough my parents knowing we DTD to have O! Haha! Some things need to be left unsaid. I'd only talk to my parents if we were having issues with ttc afyer a period of time. This kind of talk is what friends (and MD) are for!!
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