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30/09/2014 at 22:26
As the title asks really, just wondering what you did/are planning to do. Obviously I'd tell H as i want him there. But wondering about family and close friends... I know they'd like to be updated but don't want them to worry or ask for constant updates. But then again if labour takes a long time then they might panic at the sudden communication silence?
01/10/2014 at 05:22
Only H in my case but it started in the middle of the night and was over by midmorn so no need really. Had it gone on longer I may have contacted my mum, but no one else. I found out afterwards H told his parents&sister, but forgot about my family. Probably a good job or I think my mum would have turned up at the hospital!
01/10/2014 at 06:47
I have been pondering this too. Obviously H will know, and I think I will send a quick text to my PP, but for friends and family I think not...I'd rather just surprise them with a BA.
01/10/2014 at 06:54
We decided we would tell parents at the point that I was staying in hospital. As it turned out, I had to get my mum to take me in as H was at work when my waters broke. As my waters broke but nothing happened until I was induced, we told them anyway even though I was at home for 24 hours before induction.
I didn't tell any friends but they all guessed as I went into labour over my due date so they were all texting me but I wasn't replying!
I wouldn't have wanted my wider family to know, all the texts approaching my dd were bad enough without being bombarded with "how many cm are you?!"
01/10/2014 at 08:02
Everyone knew when I went in as I was 2 weeks overdue and going in for induction!
01/10/2014 at 09:33
I think it depends on the situation. I have tried to avoid telling people my actual due date because I don't want all the texts asking if anything is happening yet.
As noodle says, if you're being induced people might know anyway. We would probably tell my dad and the in laws but maybe not anyone else. Its quite a private time and if it goes on a while or there are complications it could be made worse by good luck messages etc
01/10/2014 at 09:34
Only parents and close friends knew I was being induced. I didn't tell many my induction date so the ba was then a surprise. I won't tell many this time either when it kicks off, very few even know my due date.
01/10/2014 at 09:52
01/10/2014 at 10:08
With L I was induced on the Sunday but told everyone I was going in on the mon or tue figuring that I'd likely still be in hospital by then anyway.
With I my pp knew I was in labour but I didn't she just text in the morning I told her about my annoying tightenings and she was on the phone getting me to time them , she was heavily pregnant too so I text her saying I was going into hospital and she said she was going to wait up for my BA which I then felt awful about. Mil and sil had to look after L and they were just told I needed to go in for monitoring (because as far as I was aware that's all that was happening as I wasn't in labour )
This time I'm not even telling anyone my planned section date, I went into labour before it last time (and have 2 friends this happened to) so it's just a date like the edd and may mean nothing iyswim. I couldn't be doing with the constant texts etc and also Iv known people go for a planned section and be delayed till the next day too. My h is just going to book the day working from home, I have friends who will take both boys until sil can get to them if needed. If it happened during the night then sil would be at ours within about 10 mins, I'm loathed to even tell sil though as she's super excited already and Iv ages left .
01/10/2014 at 10:09
We tried ringing our mums to let them know things were slowly going to be starting to happen. I'd just got back from hospital after some tightenings but was examined and told nothing was happening it could be a while still and given a booklet on the latent phase of labour. We couldn't get through to either of them and not long after that my waters went and M was born a few hours later so I didn't have much time to update them. In fact when H rang to say they were nannies, neither of them answered first time! We both liked that they didn't know and would love for it to be the same again, but we need childcare for M, so unfortunately that can't happen the same way.
01/10/2014 at 10:32
I originally went in at 6.30am after my waters had started to go at 10.30 the previous night. My mum works in the hospital, so by the time she got into work at 9.00, H went down to let her know I was in. We had to let work know (we work together) as H wouldn't be in and had to cancel some appointments. My mum told my sister who lives a couple of hours away and wanted to come up by the time the baby was born. I also had to text a friend as I was due to meet her for coffee that afternoon. At some point, H must have phoned his parents too. All in all, quite a few people knew!
01/10/2014 at 13:10
My waters broke at home, i yelled H and told him, he came running in. We rang the hospital who said to come in and check, then i rang my mum because a)i knew it would kill her if i didn't, and b) my sister was living there at the time and she was my other birth partner and i needed her to know she was on standby. H then rang his mum. In the car on the way there i text some close friends and posted on my NCT group FB wall.
01/10/2014 at 15:38
Parents and sister. Wish I hadnt though as my mum and sister spent the morning badgering the labour ward and post-labour ward as they hadnt heard from us since the night before! Like I wasnt going to tell them she'd arrived as soon as I could!
01/10/2014 at 19:23
We will tell my parents and that's because they are driving up from Devon to be with the dogs!
01/10/2014 at 20:27
Everyone knew I was going in for induction at 40+12 but we only kept my parents, mil and pp up to date after that.
Everyone else had to wait for my BA 2 days later.
01/10/2014 at 20:53
We told people after 40 hours of labour little did we know we still had another 23 hours 58 mins ahead x
01/10/2014 at 21:01
Thanks all, still not sure what to do! Maybe let the 2 mums know, see what time it happens I guess. Wowwww SL!
01/10/2014 at 21:09
My waters broke 8 weeks early in a hotel bathroom. I told my H and a friend (another MD member) initially starting with the text 'I think we have a problem' haha poor tiny-tiggs! I then posted in the 2014 baby group asking what amniotic fluid looked/smelt like. Family wise I had to ring my dad to ask him to bring my maternity notes as I didn't have them on me but I don't think he really understood I was about to have the baby.
01/10/2014 at 21:46
Mine happened quickly. I told my Mum I was getting pains but we truthfully both thought it wasn't it and that I'd speak to her the next morning. Then early morning I was in hospital and baby born within 4 hours so no time to update my Mum! She always told me she wanted to know when it was happening but soon forgave me when I rang her telling her that her grandson had arrived :)
04/10/2014 at 07:29
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