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24/01/2015 at 21:54
Me and my partner have known each other since primary school. He is my best friend, my soul mate, and we have now been together for 5 years and expecting our first child together. Nothing could be more perfect, right? Except for the big bombshell that was put upon us at my latest check up. Our first child has an almost certain possibility of having Down Syndrome. It came as a massive shock to both of us as this was not what we were expecting. My partner has taken this news quite badly. Going from the 'happy father-to-be' to telling me the best thing to be would be to get rid of the baby. But I cannot do that. A child is a child. I strongly believe I would love a child, my child, regardless of what they may or may not have. I've lost my partner, my best friend, and my baby's father. But can I do this on my own? I don't know.
25/01/2015 at 13:51
Hi Anon7. I am really sorry to hear how your partner reacted and that he is not supportive of your feelings. I can imagine how difficult it must be for you right now..but it is your decision. When i was younger I had a friend who had Downs Syndrome, her mum was an amazing woman, having being left by her husband soon after the birth of her daughter leaving her to look after her and her older son. I can imagine this must have been so hard for her at first but she was such a strong lady, an active member of the community and a fantastic role model. Her daughter was a lively, fun and quite independent young girl who used to be involved in lots of activities and loved to socialise, and of course her mum loved her more than anything! Maybe it would help if you could talk to other single parents of children with Down's Syndrome, to hear there experiences? I know there are support networks around you could contact like the DSA (Down's Syndrome Association). I really wish you all the best and if you need to chat you know where to come. x
25/01/2015 at 17:33
That is really nice to hear.
I know I can't change my mind and I won't. I know I will love my baby no matter what. I hope he comes round to the idea but I can't rely on him doing so at the minute. But thankyou, you're right, it would be nice to talk to single parents of children with Downs Syndrome. So thank you, I will look into that x
03/02/2015 at 23:31
So sorry to hear what you are going through at the moment.
I have a little girl who has Down Syndrome, she has just been 3yrs old, she's amazing! We only found out about her condition when she was 10 days old so I didn't have the worry during my pregnancy but a massive shock after, as you can imagine.
I have a lot of brilliant groups online I can put you in contact with and lots of information and support.
Please feel free to PM me and I will be very happy to help and support you.
04/02/2015 at 10:29
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04/02/2015 at 20:47
Yes u can I was 24 on my own when I was told my baby had a condition that affected alot of things and they didn't know what his brain would be like or how well he could walk and his heart was affected and when he was born he had some problems but nowhere near as bad as they thought try not to think the worst. My friend also felt the same they were told baby had something other downs or very similar they didn't think they could keep it and they took along time to decide bit she is now 4yrs and just like a normal girl she has hit all theile stones pls think of u want to keep the baby then don't think u can't do it on your own u will b surprised what u could do xx
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