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26/03/2013 at 10:36
We are thinking of going for number three, we have two daughters, one who is nearly 15 and one who is 3. I have just had my permament contract confirmed at work which would mean full pay for maternity leave plus they are very family friendly. We was thinking of trying again (if we can, I have PCOS but will post another one about that!) at the end of the year which would mean probably having children of 16, 5 and a newborn - crazy? I am 35 and I just cannot get over the broodiness which is inside, it was more me that OH but now he has joined in too which has freaked me out as it means it may actually happen!
26/03/2013 at 10:40
I dont think youre mad, having an older one means that she can help you out more, so it would be more like having two children and a young adult! And the older two would be in school and at more of an age where they can entertain themselves. I'd think you were more mad if the two you have were under 5!
26/03/2013 at 10:45
Not mad, if that's what you really want then why not? As porkchop says it may well be easier than trying to manage 3 under-5s!
26/03/2013 at 10:46
Totally up to you isn't it. Nobody else can pass corny on what's right for you.
35 is still young for a baby though so even when they have all grown up you won't be really old.
26/03/2013 at 10:51
i would say if thats what you want then go for it.
if it was me i wouldn't...but i only want 1 baby so that's the reason.
26/03/2013 at 10:56
Like everyone else has said - only you can know what's right for you!
26/03/2013 at 11:04
Curlywurly....please please JFDI. Those were your words to me xxx you are fantastic parents, you don't need to worry xx
26/03/2013 at 11:12
Munchkin - thanks lovely back to see the consultant in May so will see if we can get this show on the road...you watch, they will tell me my bits have shrivelled up
26/03/2013 at 12:12
As everyone has said it is a personal decision. Turn the situation on it's head. What is really stopping you from having another? If they are hurdles that you are able to overcome then you should go for it;-) I always knew I wanted a third
26/03/2013 at 12:15
Definitely go for it! I have 3 girls aged 5, 2 & half and 18 months and I think your age gaps will be so much easier to handle! You'll have all that lovely one-to-one with baby with your other 2 at school. Good luck!
26/03/2013 at 12:18
Don't see any reason not to go for it! And if it's your age you're most worried about, I'll be at least 38 when we have another one! x
26/03/2013 at 12:23
my age does worry me a bit but so does having a child studying at Uni and a newborn! lots of people would think we are mad I know but every family is different I guess!
26/03/2013 at 12:29
I hadO when I was nearly 36. M would be pretty much at school and you have great family support who will help with childcare
26/03/2013 at 12:38
Do whatever is right for you. I don't think you are mad at all, you have a live in babysitter
26/03/2013 at 13:16
we do have a lot of family support , I think I have got tied up in the minor details if that makes sense
26/03/2013 at 13:42
I think you shuld go for it. When my younger sister was born older sister was 14 and I was 7 it was nice having that gap and we both did bits to help. made me feel very important and grown up hehe. Plus seeing my baby sister for the first time was magical and we are still incredibly close now (shes 18, makes me feel well old!) you sound like a very loving family! xxxx
26/03/2013 at 14:19
No more mental than I am with a 4yo, 2yo and 4month old .
If its what you want then go for it! I know other people with similar age gaps and it works well for them. x
26/03/2013 at 14:47
My H will have an 18 year gap between his first born with his ex and our baby due in May and I don't think he is crazy at all.
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