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17/07/2013 at 09:32
I am finally seeing a doctor today. I have been really struggling I am really depressed and suffering from severe anxiety, so bad now I barely leave the house unless with a trusted friend that can drive.
Yesterday I received a phone call from adult social services and child social services. Some one I think my midwife has contacted them and told them my H and I are both visually impaired. I was told my baby has been placed on unborn baby register and they will be setting up a multi agency merting to discuss the help we need.
Now I am really worried about telling my doctor the real truth about how bad things are, and them telling the social services and taking my bsby away. Can my doctors share my information with social services with out my permission?
17/07/2013 at 09:38
I think they can in certain circumstances. It sounds to me like they are trying to support you and get a network in place to help you before baby is born - i.e. they want to work with you, not take your baby away. I'd be honest about your anxiety because they may be able to get you support with that too. They don't want to take your baby away, this support is to make sure your baby stays with you. I suffered a lot with anxiety during my pregnancies especially and I really wished I'd asked for help.
17/07/2013 at 09:42
As far as I know Victoria's law states that certain information must be shared across agencies as it might be that no one realises how bad a situation is because each agency has its own small piece of information. Not saying that is the case here. A baby would only be taken away in extreme circumstances, I'm sure the meeting would be to discuss how they can help you, social services will have more time to meet your needs than a dr who can't leave a surgery. I know this all sounds worse than it is, and the biggest step is you went to drs in first place. I would take the support being offered and continue to be honest and open so that you get the advice that will help you the most. Sorry you are going through this x
Yes, they can share that information.
I agree with SBS, they'll be doing it to get you a support network in place nothing else.
I've seen some shocking parents in my police time and they still have their children. You have to be truly awful to have your children taken off of you (and sometimes not even then). Easier said than done but try not to worry and take advantage of all the help you can get.
All services have a duty of care to the child under the child protection act - it doesn't matter if you give permission or not, I'm afraid. However, flip this on its side - many different agencies are coming together to discuss the help that you *need* - social services won't want to take your baby away from you, they'll want to be doing all that they can to provide you and your H with support so that you can look after your baby.
I promise, they will do all they can to help you. But you need to be honest about the help you need.
17/07/2013 at 09:43
Oh lovely you must be so worried. I can't answer the question about your doctor passing information on because I honestly don't know.
If it was your midwife who called them I'm sure she's got your best interests at heart and just wants you to get any help you may need & that you are entitled to. However, she ought to have said something first to warn you & explain why she was doing it.
What I do know is that it takes an awful lot for social services to remove a child from their parents & they are very, very reluctant to do it. Social services aren't all about splitting families up.
If you are feeling depressed I would have thought it best to ask for some help sooner rather than later - I'm sure it will help your case by not being afraid to ask for help.
17/07/2013 at 09:44
Please don't panic. I think it has all been worded badly but basically your mw has contacted ss and they are now aware you are having the baby, I'm guessing that if you and your h are visually impaired then you will have measures in place on how you do things, this meeting will not be about taking your baby away, itl be them asking you if you need them for support
The gp will more than likely refer you to the safeguarding adult team, this is what he HAS to do, there's lots of reasons that people are referred for safe guarding issues but if a pregnant woman is feeling anxious and low then they should be referred to the safeguarding mw, the mw would likely arrange a meeting with you and again see what measures can be in place to support you. Don't let this put you off going to the dr, the dr has a duty of care to you to get you the best support out there and that means he has to let other agencies know what's going on
17/07/2013 at 09:57
RustyI agree with SBS, they'll be doing it to get you a support network in place nothing else.
Exactly this, they'll do everything they can to keep you and your baby together and happy
17/07/2013 at 09:59
Hi don't worry go to the docs get the help you need and that should help take away the anxiety at the same time. x
17/07/2013 at 11:25
As everyone else has said, they will be helping you to put a support network in place rather than take your baby away. The GP will have to refer is they consider it necessary, however even if you have really really severe depression / anxiety and need admitted to a mental health unit they have special mother & baby units - they would still keep you and your baby together. I am not saying this because I think this is what will happen but to show you that even when it is very very very severe it still isn't about taking a baby away from it's mother.
17/07/2013 at 12:04
No, they don't need your permission. I did think they had to tell you though, if we make a referral at work we always have to tell the family we are doing it. We don't ask permission though.
They won't be taking your baby away, that's not what they are there for, despite what the press would have you believe. They are there to look after the welfare of the child and family. Please tell them everything as they are there to support you. If the GP is concerned then yes they have to refer, but it's to get you the best support, nothing else.
17/07/2013 at 12:34
Hi, I can't give any advice I'm afraid, but wanted to send you my love.
As others have said, it sounds like they are just laying the foundations to work out the best way to support you through this.
Please speak to your gp about your anxiety. Anxiety does not and will not make you a bad parent but maybe something you are suffering when you don't need to, again your gp will support you. Xxx
17/07/2013 at 13:05
99% of the time we tell the patient/relatives we are referring for safeguarding just to make them aware but in occasions we don't, for example if we think the family is likely to do a runner or if there is a risk if harm etc, so its likely the gp will say to you if he plans to refer,
17/07/2013 at 13:06
Vlvixon I had noticed you'd not been about too much recently, I am sorry that you are going through such a tough time.
I am sure that as the others have said they want to try and help you, I think in order to get the best ehlp you need to be really honest about how you're feeling.
We're here if you want to talk to us.xx
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