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09/04/2013 at 22:39
To cut a long story short, H's parents were in their 40's when they had him and he is an only child, for that reason, they have been desperate for grandchildren for many years, and we decided to ttc earlier than planned because of this.
now that B is here, they want to look after him when I return to work in around Sept. I want B to be in some kind of childcare so that he can have interaction with other children, but the inlaws are adament they want him, and Im concerned about their ability to cope with him, they are both 70, and are in good health, very mobile etc, but do you think they would be able to cope? Im hoping to only work 4 days a week, and we will struggle to pay for fulltime childcare, but would you say 2 days a week would be too much for them, My other issue is that I wouldnt really want them to drive with him either, but Im not sure they will listen if I say hes to be kept in the house
I personally would rather him in fulltime childcare, but I understand them wanting to look after him too, they are about 30mins away so H would have to drop him on his way to work, so half a day wouldnt be an option really
Any thoughts, opinions etc would be greatly appreciated.
09/04/2013 at 22:41
It is going to depend totally on them as individuals. My mum and PIL are all 67 ... my mum looks after Zoe for up to a week at a time (overnight too) with no issues, PIL can't cope for more than 30 mins.
09/04/2013 at 22:42
That actuslly sounds like how my inlaws would be, MIL would be ok, but PIL has never even held ben, so would struggle
09/04/2013 at 22:55
My mum is going to have H 3 days a week, she's 65 and I've no concerns. Is there any reason you don't want then driving with him or think they won't be able to cope? Only asking as we would rather H was with family than nursery although I know it's personal preference.
If it was me I'd be happy to save the child care costs and have grandparents enjoying their grandson but only you know if they wil be able to cope and if you feel safe leaving him with then as you need to be happy with your decision
09/04/2013 at 23:01
My mom is 66 and she looks after both my two while I work, she comes to my house every day from 10am - 4pm, I am lucky that I am home based with my job so I am always on hand if she needs me. She absolutely loves it and finds it so rewarding and my two boys get so excited every morning when she arrives. She is super and I am so lucky to have her to help. I also don't have any problems with her driving with them in the car
09/04/2013 at 23:08
With the driving I'm just a bit worried about their ability to drive as from being in the car with them I'm aware their reactions can be very slow so would be worried anytime I knew they were going out. mil also has a problem with her hip and struggles to lift at times so I'm worried it would put a strain in her, I guess I don't want to cause them stress leading to health problems, maybe I'm being silly worrying about it
09/04/2013 at 23:21
I think you'll have to try it and see. Whilst he is a baby it will probably be fine and they'll love it. It will be as he gets more mobile that it will get more tiring.
09/04/2013 at 23:31
My Nan was 73, and had my cousins 5 days a week, and once overnight each week. My Grandad was 74, and would drive them all into town, on days out etc. Totally depends on each person, and how they would cope.
09/04/2013 at 23:35
My mum is 70 and looks after my brothers little boy three times a week, and his big sister during school holidays.
My mil is 54 and looks after L full te whilst I am at work.
Neither drive and are both quite fit and healthy. I think it all depends on how well they will cope. You can only try it out and see how it works out.
09/04/2013 at 23:42
Thankyou all, that really helps, maybe they would cope better than I think, I don't want them to miss out on the time with B bit want to make sure they will manage with him
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