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11/04/2014 at 06:49
Not sure if anyone could help...
I had my little one on Tuesday morning and ended up with an episiotimy as they were worried about her heart rate so wanted me to get her out quickly. I know it's only Friday but it really hurts. I can't sit down, lying down isn't much easier as I'm really struggling to get back up/down again. Does any of this sound normal or should I get it checked out?
I'm a bit gutted as I feel like it's ruined the first few days at home. Feeding is a nightmare because sitting down is so hard...We've been topping up with formula and I think we may have to give up on breastfeeding as it's too much on top of the pain. H has been amazing but I feel like I can't enjoy any of our little one at the moment because everything hurts.
I know that long term its going to take a good while to feel 'normal' (if I ever do!), but short term, how much longer can I expect this pain/discomfort to go on for? I'm finding this bit worse than the labour :(
11/04/2014 at 07:29
I had one and it was painful to sit down, I used an inflatable ring to sit on and without it I had to lie sidewards but even that hurt. I wouldnt say I was in agony just more uncomfortable. It took around 2 weeks until It started to become bearable and as the stitches healed it just felt a bit tender.
If your worried or in too much psin, definitely seek advice. The midwife should make a couple of visits to you soon, My Midwife checked my stitches, maybe ask her for advice or book an appointment with your G.P. Obviously everything is tender down there and takes a long time to retract back to normal, hope they gave you some good painkillers.
11/04/2014 at 07:39
Thanks. I'm just not sure where the line is between painful and uncomfortable and if I'm overreacting. You'd have thought that having done the labour bit I'd have a better idea of my pain threshold! Going to send H out this morning to try and find a ring to sit on.
Just had a shower so giving it some air and then going to brave a look. The midwife came yesterday and won't be back until Sunday. Think they're ringing today to see if I need to see them so I might get them to pop over and check me out otherwise they're not coming till Sunday.
I was only given paracetamol and ibuprofen. The paracetamol doesn't feel like it's doing anything though! Did you get anything better? Wonder if it's worth asking.
11/04/2014 at 08:46
11/04/2014 at 09:30
I had a look after my shower and it all looked ok to me...just really black and bruised. I think I'm just expecting too much so going to take it easy today and tomorrow and can get the midwife to check it over on sunday. I think I've underestimated the healing time. I've read lots about lavender oil so I'll get H to pick some up too, thanks workinghard.
H's shopping list consists of a rubber ring, maternity pads, tee tree and lavender oils...good job he loves me!
11/04/2014 at 09:45
Def get it checked out, don't put up with pain.
On the bfing side have you tried bfing laying down? Just an idea if it is just sittign up that is making it difficult?
11/04/2014 at 09:56
I had one and for the first week or so found it very painful, I used to sort of perch on one cheek when I was sitting! Try and take the paracetol and ibuprofen regularly and it should help a bit.
My midwife recommended something called Hypercal to me,I had to get it from a herbalist/homeopathic shop. It's a liquid that you put onto your pad. Id recommend it if you managed to find it, it's very soothing!
11/04/2014 at 10:16
Please get it checked. I do to want to scare you but mine was hellish, and I just got on with it. A year later I needed corrective surgery as it hadnt healed according to plan xxx
11/04/2014 at 10:38
QI - I did manage that yesterday actually after a bit of googling. It worked on one side and she latched straight on and fed well but both of us are struggling with the left side which is making it all a bit stressful. I have the number of the breastfeeding woman from our NCT class so may ask her for some advice.
Debbydoo, that's exactly how in sitting at the moment...I've had a permanently numb bum cheek since we got home!
Munchkin, I will, promise. I'll get the midwife to check it out on Sunday regardless of how it feels/looks. I think I'm just after too much too quickly in terms of wanting to make the most of having the baby, getting out and about etc.
Thanks for all your help!
11/04/2014 at 11:39
I had an episiotimy which extended to a 3rd degree tear and I didn't have as much pain as you're describing, mine has healed really well. Defo get it checked and keep on top of the paracetamol and ibuprofen, take it as soon as it's due. Hugs to you, it's not nice but it will get better :-) xx
11/04/2014 at 12:10
I had an episiotimy with my eldest over 4 years ago and I can still remember the discomfort!! The advice I was given was to use soluble paracetamol as it works quicker, and to take it regularly (within guidelines obviously) and to bathe daily in lavendar oil (add 8 drops of lavender oil to a cup of milk and add this in the bath).
I sat on really soft pillows, one on each side of my bottom with gap in the middle and tried to remember to move around even though it hurt.
I hope it starts to feel better soon, and in the meantime treat yourself to lots of nice things (chocolate and cake is good)
11/04/2014 at 13:34
The rubber ring is amazing! All those silly hospital bag lists should really include one of these just in case.
I went out with H just for some fresh air and actually walking isn't too bad, it's the sitting that's hard, but it's made me think actually things will be ok soon (hopefully). Plus I've overcome the mental issue of doing the first number 2...!
Thanks so much ladies, I was really fed up this morning but you've made me feel like there's an end in sight. I'll obviously still get checked out on Sunday to make sure all is ok. Looking forward to my lavender bath tonight too.
11/04/2014 at 17:13
I've not had one but tips I've heard from friends who have was a rubber ring to sit on, when you do a number 2 hold a clean maternity pad against the stitches to stop anything getting near them once your wiping. Maybe you could do with a few days stronger painkillers than paracetamol and ibuprofen the midwife can get you a prescription?
12/04/2014 at 19:26
Sorry I didnt reply, forgot Id posted!
The ring is amazing isn't it?! Also a tmi..but I found that when I went to the toilet, Id start to go hovering a little and then sit down, eased it on the stitches a little!
I was given diocodein? Or something similar for pain relief.
Hope your feeling a little better!
12/04/2014 at 20:07
13/04/2014 at 09:36
Thanks all. It's good to see how much it varies and that it isn't all doom and gloom! Things were much better the day after I posted and I managed to leave the house for a little walk which was lovely. I've been having a couple of baths everyday and giving it some air time. Hopefully when it checked out today it's starting to look ok.
Good job my little lady is so cute! Makes it much easier to bear!
13/04/2014 at 13:51
Glad you're starting to feel better Flossy. I had an episiotomy and it was v sore for the first 2-3 days, by the time I came home from hospital the first time at 4 days I had to sit carefully but it was ok once I was down, and by the second time I came home from hospital (we were sent back in on day 5) 3 days later I could sit fairly normally. It also healed very quickly- after a couple of weeks I actually checked to see which side it was on, as although the whole area had been very very sore I couldn't actually feel the episiotomy at all. I haven't had any problems since. I hope yours is as quick healing too.
16/04/2014 at 13:47
Thanks SG. When the midwife checked it out she said that the ditches were fine but was surprised at the amount if bruising and said this probably what's so making it so sore to sit down. It's been getting better everyday and although the car is still really uncomfortable, I've managed to go out for lunch and sit on a wooden chair for an hour so it's definitely improved!
I can tell that I've overdone it the last two days though do I just need to be a bit careful. Hobbling like an old lady today! But a million times better than last week. Now I need to be religious about the pelvic floor exercises!
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