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12/11/2013 at 18:26
Was just wondering how you're getting on with the feeding? Have been thinking of, hope S is more settled x
12/11/2013 at 19:27
Still bf but still not sure how it's going?? S is a lot more settled during the day but will only sleep on my chest at night time. Otherwise we have a feed, sleep, place in crib, cry, feed cycle that lasts all night. Her latch is tonnes better though and sore nips are gradually getting better!
I don't think H wants me to continue feeding. S is literally stuck to me in the evenings/ night so he doesn't feel like he is bonding with her at all. The mw is here tomorrow or Thursday so I will see what her weight is. Im worried she isn't getting enough as im not leaking at all and she doesn't seem to get a lot when feeding.
Thanks for thinking of us :-) xx
12/11/2013 at 19:36
I'm finding it hard too Sam. It's a 2 steps forward 1 step back situation, isn't it? I had the bf support worker today and she said 7-10 days is growth spurt territory so a constantly feeding baby is normal right now. Alex feeds for an hour at a time then sleeps for an hour and we're off again, it's exhausting.
12/11/2013 at 20:04
Can your H take her for settling so that they get some cuddles? If you want to stick with the feeding hopefully he will support your decision, this won't last forever and he will get his bonding time with her. My H didn't get much time with S at the beginning but he now settles really well on him I think because S isn't distracted by the smell of my milk!
Glad the latch is better and you're not so sore, things get better a little day by day I found. Don't worry about not leaking - I never leaked during pregnancy and haven't at all since so I don't think its symptomatic of anything, focus on wet/dirty nappies and weight. Hope the mw can reassure you about weight gain.
TT how are you and A? Hope you're getting on ok, its bloody hard work isn't it?!
12/11/2013 at 21:04
Thanks popcorn, we are doing ok. The feeding has been the trickiest part as he would only latch into one boob for the first few days which was stressful and painful! We had a very rough weekend but after the midwife suggested a 24-hour break where I just expressed and we bottle fed him my milk, A calmed down and I felt better and now we are sort of feeding well on both sides. We have to use nipple shields and sometimes it takes a while to get him on there but it's a massive improvement from the weekend. The current growth spurt is tricky as I'm shattered but as long as I know he's getting enough from me then I will keep going!
Otherwise he is a cute squishy ball of loveliness so that more than makes up for any stresses :)
13/11/2013 at 09:40
TT- if S slept for an hour in the evenings/ night I would be amazed! I think the most ive been able to put her down for is 20 mins and then she wakes up rooting frantically like she hasn't been fed for a day
I have given in this morning and sent H out for formula. Part of me feels so guilty and really disappointed but I have to confess that I feel like a huge weight has been lifted. I told H at 4am I was going to be giving her a bottle today. He woke up this morning and when he said he would get some on his way home from work (he's on a half day) I cried and told him I couldn't face breast feeding her for that long.
With another marathon feeding session last night my nipples are so sore and I actually took S off before she has finished last night because I couldn't stand the pain.
13/11/2013 at 10:49
I gave A top up feeds on Saturday at the midwife's suggestion, I felt like is let him down badly but in reality if have been letting him down if I'd carried on with the sore nipples and him not getting enough. After a couple of teeny top ups all balance was restored and he hasn't needed any since, I thought it would be the beginning of the end of bf but was actually just the boost and break we both needed.
13/11/2013 at 11:59
Just had the lovely mw come visit. She was so good about the bottle feed and giving advice whilst making me feel whatever I decide is ultimately for the best as baby needs a happy mum. She saw my nips last time too so I have her sympathy haha.
TT- what nipple shields are you using? Im either going to have to express or use shields to relieve some milk so thought I could give shields a try and maybe mix feed?
13/11/2013 at 12:21
I have Avent ones, H was sent to buy and they're the ones Tesco had so I didn't research or anything. But they are working really well now, wet them with hot water first and they soften and stick on. Before I had them I had one black nipple (ouch) and one he wouldn't latch onto at all, now he feeds off both well. The healing one is still sore at the beginning of a feed but only for a few seconds and nowhere bear the toe-curling agony I had before throughout.
I expressed for 24 hours and bottle fed the expressed milk with formula top ups, it rested my nipples, stopped me getting so stressed before each feed, and we all slept better. I'd recommend trying it and then try shields after a little bit of rest.
13/11/2013 at 13:58
Just wanted to try to reassure you that I breastfed exclusively for first year and then 50:50 until 19months and LO is the BIGGEST Daddy's girl ever. It didn't affect bonding at all.
14/11/2013 at 09:47
How did yesterday go Sam? x
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