Pregnancy & Birth Clubs <
19/06/2013 at 12:03
Hi all,A starts preschool in September at just over 2yrs 3 months old. She is doing two half days a week (3 hours each). She can be quite difficult at the moment, is still in nappies and is a bit of a nightmare when changing her....particularly gets distressed if it is a public changing room. She is going through an awful phase of hitting, pinching, biting and kicking which has mostly been aimed at mummy and daddy but she has started lashing out at strangers when we are shopping. She kicks her legs everywhere whilst in her pushchair and is often aiming them at passers by. She put her arm out as if she was going to hit a man in the shop yesterday and I have to constantly watch her to make sure she doesn't do it. I hate this phase and have tried everything. It was bad enough when it was just aimed at me but total strangers!!! I'm really worried she'll be aggressive with other children at preschool. Until recently I thought not but now I'm worried. I'm so worn out from it all. She is nervous around new people and takes a while to warm to them. I don't think she'll like it at first. Also, when she is grumpy she shouts "BYE BYE!" at the top of her voice to anyone she doesn't know who comes near her. I've tried so hard with her but feel like a rubbish mum at the moment and a complete failure. I feel bad as we haven't gone to baby/toddler groups due by my recent lack of confidence and tiredness/slight depression...In connection with this, I'm really worried about socialising with other mums and interacting at preschool. I seem to have lost my confidence. I am a friendly person who will chat but it doesn't come naturally anymore and I kind of dread it. I feel anxious and self conscious. My H says I am good with people but I don't enjoy it and feel worried all the time. I've had a tour of preschool with H but they also offer a taster session at preschool but I am nervous, although I know it would be a good idea to book one. Am I being silly?! I just hope A enjoys preschool and stops being so aggressive. At times she can be so funny, a little angel and so loving. She is quite clever (in my opinion! ;-) ) and her vocabluary/speech is great. But at other times I really worry about her behaviour. She can be so naughty and seems anxious and angry . sorry, this has turned into a bit of a vent. Things have been a bit stressful recently.
19/06/2013 at 12:24
Sounds like preschool will help. Rules to follow, more stimulation. My M picked up potty training from watching her preschool friends do it.
19/06/2013 at 12:36
Fingers crossed it will help!
19/06/2013 at 18:02
I'm sure preschool will be great for her. She will learn the boundaries there and I'm sure she will amaze you. I was worried about L starting Playgroup when he was 2 but he settled in great.
Also if you don't feel like socialising much with other parents, a polite hi/goodbye is all that's really needed and this might lead to you feeling more confident about having a full conversation.
19/06/2013 at 18:40
Can you go along to a couple of sessions with her? It will mean you ca be sure of the environment she is going into and then she may feel more settled? That's what I did when my son started nursery, so when it was his first few times there he sort of knew a bit of the routine.
19/06/2013 at 21:51
Very often children at this age are awful to their parents and lovely at pre school. There are bound to be ups and downs in their behaviour but that is to be expected. And the preschool staff will have plenty of ways of handling it. Plus there's nothing like peer example to encourage them to do things
Remember to try to praise all the good behaviour when out and about.And whereever possible be realistic about the amount of time that a toddler can be taken shopping/spend in tbeir buggy before it gets too much. My daughter used to be awful at holding hands to cross roads and would sag in the middle. So I took to praising her every single second it took to cross - I sounded like a loon but it worked most of the time.
Try not to worry too much - toddlers have their ways but they do grow out of it.
20/06/2013 at 02:30
I'm with the others - pre-school will really help her get in a routine and she'll pick up so much from the other children. I understand your fears though - littlesue is starting kindergarten 01.08 so I hope she settles in ok
20/06/2013 at 02:39
Hi, our girls are the same age and I is starting at the same time as your LO. We have had the moods etc and we now get the I want to go home mummy, we were at SIL's the other day and she cheered when I said we were going home!
The nappy changes were a nightmare when I was pregnant and involved me getting kicked in the tummy a lot, she got over it and now is as good as gold so hopefully by September you will be over it too. I constantly praise the good and like the other poster praise hand holding for the duration so another loon here!
Re talking to others, just start small and it will get easier. We have 2 taster sessions next month, definitely worth doing for you both I think.
Continues below ad
with our partner Childcare.co.uk
Nice to see you! Please do nose around, sign up and join in.