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07/11/2013 at 16:51
I am currently doing my best to feed on demand (bottle)but can't help feel life would be easier if I set a schedule (although would obviously feed early if I thought she was hungry). mostly to fit with school run and to give myself the best chance of a good sleep at night...she's likely to want fed later around 9 1 and 5 which is a horrible one as everyone gets up at 6. If I'd tried to set my own schedule I'd set up last feed for 10ish. And we eventually end up with schedules when we're weaning... breakfast lunch and dinner. So are there benefits to demand feeding? What does everyone else do?
07/11/2013 at 17:43
CV, I'm currently having this dilemma too. A feeds roughly every 2 to 2 1/2 hours and I feel like I'm constantly feeding then winding her then keeping her upright for 20 minutes after feeding due to her reflux and once I've done all that, it's time for another bottle. I'd like to try and get her more on a 3 hourly feeding schedule but then I don't want to starve to poor love (she cries enough with her reflux as it is) She also wakes around 4.30/5 for a feed and I'll have just got her to sleep when my eldest will wake at 6 for the day. Also sometimes we're staying up till 11/11.30 to give her that last feed - it makes for a very long day! Will be watching people's replies with interest.
07/11/2013 at 18:13
I Fed demand but disco was BF which I guess might make it easier, he fed little and often then would cluster feed all evening but we were lucky tha once he got a little bit bigger the bonus of the cluster feed was only 1 waking in the night.
So reasons we did on demand rather than schedule
1) GP said little and often better for babies with reflux (disco had silent reflux) because not so full after each feed thus helps reduce reflux symptoms
2) From reading I did feeding on demand helps babies learn about hunger, if you feed to a schudle and try and make them take a set amount they aren't listening to their own bodies which can mean they just learn to eat weather they ae hungry or not, I am quite sure you can find evidence that says the contry too but for me this felt logical.
3) Felt that i could miss growth spurts where extra food would be needed because didn't fit in with a schedule
As i say I think it is a personal choice, and I am sure you can find posative arguments for both sides
07/11/2013 at 18:17
Drifter, that's really interesting about the little and often thing for reflux - I hadn't heard that before. Maybe sticking to the 2 1/2 hourly feeds might be best for her, thanks for that x
07/11/2013 at 19:36
I demand fed Zoe and am doing the same with Orla, both formula fed. Neither of them every fell in to any kind of pattern so there didn't seem an obvious routine to fall in to. I do however feed Orla before the school run in the morning and afternoon no matter when she had her last feed. She may not need it before the afternoon run but the whole process of getting to school, picking up, and getting home takes at least an hour so I prefer to top her up a bit if necessary.
07/11/2013 at 20:07
F was initially formula fed on demand but quickly fell into a pattern and is now fed roughly every four hours. Feeding him much more frequently makes his reflux worse so it has worked out well although it does mean he still needs a night feed! :(
07/11/2013 at 20:25
We formula fed on demand, but might as well have been to a strict schedule as E was very routines, naturally. She'd cry every three hours throughout the day and sleep through once we got to twelve weeks, and if you got ten mins over, you would know. On that basis, routine worked for us, just because, she had to have a drop into her milk, so that had to go in thirty mins before, and then making formula in accordance with the guideline means I'd need another half hour for the kettle to boil.
That said, I couldn't leave E to cry for food, it's not how we parent so I don't know how we'd get a routine working if she didn't do it herself. I guess I'd have to try getting to sleep and keeping asleep in the car, past food Time so she fed more?
07/11/2013 at 20:55
Oh I'd never leave her hungry, it was more offering her a bottle early to suit my times that I was thinking of. School run time majorly stresses me if I think she might want fed at an inconvenient time so I will maybe try feeding her early if needs be to avoid that worry (fed her in car in carpark once and it was awful) but stick to demand for the rest of the time for now. She's 6 weeks already and I'm conscious that the time is flying by so I shouldn't sweat the small stuff. Night feeds will be a distant memory again soon enough!
07/11/2013 at 22:29
Im a very routine driven person but its impossible to feed S at the exact same time every day as her waking time in the morning is different every day. I like to time it so her last bottle is around 8pm so I work backwards from there. Sometimes she'll need to stretch a bit longer so I try and make sure we're out for a walk during that time. I definitely arrange them to suit our day. She'll never go more than 4 hours, rarely more than 3.5, so sometimes I'll give her a smaller bottle just to push the next one on a bit.
07/11/2013 at 22:52
Bit different as I was BFing but although we did feed on demand, I always offered him a 'top-up' before going out and the little fatty never refused, until after weaning when he got much more efficient and could go longer. I don't see anything wrong with offering a bottle early, if she wants it she'll have it and if she doesn't then she'll refuse. I never saw what I did as anything other than feeding on demand, although thinking about it now, I suppose there was no "demand"!
08/11/2013 at 07:03
Aw in that case CV, I have done that, I think you can always offer, if they say no, then we just went with it iykwim. X
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