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22/10/2013 at 09:32
I feel like I'm a really bad mummy. C has been having really bad colic this past week, always in the afternoon/evening, sometimes lasting an hour with a 5 minute sleep then starting again . We have been passing her between us and changing her position and cuddling her lots. Last night my parents took one look at me and said they would have her overnight, I realised I've had a headache for the past five days and it hasn't shifted yet and just basically keep crying with her. C is fab overnight, she wakes for her feed, has a little "talk" and then goes back to sleep. It's just the afternoon and evening where she cant stop crying and I can feel her poor little tummy going into spasm. A friend has suggested infacol, does anybody have any experience of using this and it working? I felt terrible leaving her last night and cried for about an hour when we got home because it was too quiet without her and I can't believe I'm so crap I cant even last 8 weeks of being with my baby constantly . Does anybody have any recommendations of what can work on colic? Her bottles have an anti-colic system but obviously that just isn't working enough. Id really appreciate any advice xxx
22/10/2013 at 10:12
You aren't a bad mummy at all. Colic is awful but sometimes nothing helps. We used infacol, colief (the best for us), dentinox and another one I can't spell. Infacol does work if given with every single feed religiously. Have you tried propping her cot up so she isn't flat, putting her in a sling for close cuddles during the screaming period or different formula? Hugs but it does get easier xx
22/10/2013 at 10:34
Hi TP thank you. She has always been propped up in her moses basket because she has had a bad mucous issue since birth and it still hasn't cleared up. I haven't tried a sling or a different formula, I'm leaving the formula change as a last resort as don't want to mess her tummy up even more. I will try and get a sling though, my arms are ruined with all the cuddles lol. I really do hope it gets better soon, its so awful seeing her in so much pain i will have a look at some colief for her x
22/10/2013 at 11:47
There are a few formulas specifically for colic. I don't use formula now but I did when getting Breastfeeding going but sma was terrible for us, aptimal comfort but better. F has reflux so I don't know what part was colic and what was reflux so I tried everything.
22/10/2013 at 11:48
We used infacol with some degree of success it helpped also winding for much longer than you might think. winding half way through a feed helpped even though he was breast fed try different positions when winding. Keeping upright after a feed is finished
Propped up crib for sleeps, sling is fab as loved being close to me and helpped calm him down when he was really distressed.
Skin to skin time was also good fro soothing.
A bath sometimes helpped disco when he was really uncomfortable also leg cycling
I'm sure you have tried lots of these but thought I would mention all we tried in case one of them helps, with disco lots of his discomfort was related to some silent reflux but we definately saw an improvment once we got better at sorting trapped wind.
22/10/2013 at 12:24
You're not a bad mummy - my little one is 6 weeks and I don't feel like I'm getting to enjoy her at all. We think she has reflux and colic and she literally cries all day and if we manage to get her to sleep its only ever for 10 minutes before something disturbs her and she wakes crying again. It's also made doubly hard as I have a 15 month old craving my attention. We have tried various milks and anti colic remedies (colief in comfort milk worked best for the colic but didn't help her reflux at all) and we are currently awaiting an appointment with a pediatrician. I'm sorry I can't offer a magic solution but just wanted you to know you're not alone and I'm sure people who have been through it and come out the other side will tell you, this will pass. That's what I keep telling myself anyway! Keep your chin up Hun and if you need support from someone going through it too I'm here! x
22/10/2013 at 13:38
Also to add, my 2 saving graces have been a sling and a swing. They don't always work but some of the time is something! x
22/10/2013 at 19:00
Have you tried tummy massage? If literally nothing helps it might be worth looking into possible silent reflux as excess mucous can be a symptom (where the regurgitated milk sits at the back of the throat and they sound snotty).
I really feel your pain (and MamaD!). P used to cry inconsolably for hours every day and i was at breaking point. At one point i put her in her cot and shut the door and i even shoured at her once too and felt like the worst mummy in the world. But here we are now and P naps for decent lengths in the day (before she would do 10 mins a nap max 2 or 3 timesca day after 2/3 hours of rocking! It was just awful), she is now sleeping through the night, she smiles and chats away most of the day and is like a different child. She is an absolute joy.
You will get through this. It will definitely pass but get help from whoever offers it!! There is only so much you can take and you need a break! Xx
22/10/2013 at 21:26
Thanks everyone, Drifter we have tried different positions and will keep doing it, sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't. Weve also started to break her feed and wind inbetween as previously she was taking the whole bottle! i try and keep her upright for at least twenty minutes, is that long enough? I try and get as much skin to skin but the little madams feet always manage to find my section scar (ouchie)! I will try leg cycling, thats a new piece of advice thank you so much!
MamaD I really hope your little one is feeling better soon and the doctors can get to the bottom of it, you must be exhausted :( thank you for the offer of someone to talk to I will definitely be taking you up on it.
MM we do rub her tummy but Ive read you're only supposed to rub in an anti clockwise direction otherwise it can bring on colic and reflux dont know how true that is though.
C came back today perfectly content, my parents said she had been perfect, she seemed to exhaust herself with her colic in he evening but fed well during the night like normal. Theyve offered to have her again if I need some time. I was inconsolable last night though, I fell asleep cuddling one of her muslin squares lol. Thank you so much for all your advice so far it truly is appreciated.
22/10/2013 at 21:39
Don't feel bad, you deserve a break and I'm sure they appreciated the bonding time. Take advantage whenever you can, it will be much better in the long run.
I had a tummy tub for F and it helped get wind up before bed. You might be able to pick one up second hand to try. I have only stopped using mine as F has discovered his feet and was pulling his head under the water trying to play with them!
22/10/2013 at 21:42
Thanks JRJ I will have a look for one of those :) xxx
22/10/2013 at 21:55
Luna you shouldn't feel bad for having a break we all need one sometimes, I would have loved one when disco was tiny but he was BF and clusterfed all evening so only got breaks by handing over to h after a feed.
I have no idea if its right but we were told clockwise for tummy rubbing.
Just a thought have you tried baby massage disco and I both found this relaxing when he was little.
I thin we tied every winding poition possible jigging while singing a special tune and over the knee ended up being best for us
22/10/2013 at 23:04
Oh lovey you aren't a bad mother at all. In fact it shows what a devoted mum you are to be dealing with this. It's bloody hard work and tears are normal and expected. Take any help offered, i did! (my baby was the same but we found it was a milk allergy, something to bear in mind.)
23/10/2013 at 16:23
Hey all thank you again for the lovely messages. I took C to our local healthy baby clinic and spoke to one of the nursery nurses there. I basically broke down saying I felt awful for not BF'ing C as I've gotten it into my head that if I had she wouldn't be suffering like this. I was told to not be silly and BF babies go through colic too. I had her weighed as I'm worried she may have been losing a bit of weight with all the posseting after colic and winding....shes 9lbs 12 ozs so actually putting weight on still. She had not other advice for me other than baby massage which I will attend once my scar is fully healed (still a wee bit delicate), but I'm improvising lol. I'll try clockwise Drifter maybe I had it wrong anything is worth a shot! So far no colic but we have another 2 feeds where it is a real possibility :( xxx
23/10/2013 at 16:31
You aren't a bad mummy, having a break so you can be restored and refreshed is never a bad thing in my mind. Some people don't need it, some do.
If you look on you tube there are demonstrations of tummy massage of babies which might be useful. We have used Infacol with Zoe and Orla and find it does work, you have to use it continuously for at least a week though before you start to see an improvement as it has a cumulative effect.
The other thing is that if it is colic then no one knows the cause, no one knows an absolute solution as different babies respond to different things. It may not seem like it but you will probably find that 80% of new mothers are going through exactly what you are, you just don't know about it.
23/10/2013 at 16:40
thanks JB I didnt think of youtube, it says on the infacol box to use it with every feed but not to put it into the milk, im assuming most people do because it is difficult getting a young baby to take it from the pippette? x
23/10/2013 at 20:02
I've never put it in the bottle or seen anyone do it that way. It's not difficult at all, baby opens mouth, drop in, baby closes mouth. Normally my children are screaming when they want feeding so it's dead easy to get in. It's only a tiny bit that they are taking at a time.
23/10/2013 at 20:34
infacol stright in the mouth here as directed, it isn't to huge a dose so it goes in with one squirt and as you give pre feed they are looking for something anyway.
It is horrible when they are in pain, but you really aren't a bad mummy for having a break.
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