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15/07/2013 at 11:26
Hello to all the other Mums!
I am 7 weeks pregnant after trying for 5 years.It's great news. But even though this baby is really wanted it came as a heck of a shock.
I dont have a Mum to be all excited and call me to check I'm OK etc. No-one has really took an interest in my pregnancy or been that excited for us. I've been trying to talk to my best friend but her responses have been really distant. This morning she sent me a horrible e-mail accusing me of being insensitive because she suffered a late miscarriage last year and really wants a baby. But I also wanted a baby so much during that time, but supported her all the way through her pregnancy, calling her every day etc.
I have only just started telling people, but because of the age I am, they're all like "Oh congratulations, now I'm gonna tell you all about my kids"....
I havent told work yet, and becuase I just moved to the area I dont have any friends locally. So all in all, feeling quite isolated. It's my first pregnancy, so I dont know how to interpret all my symptoms, and have suffered accute morning sickness so far and struggled with my very hectic job. I feel like I need the support now more than ever. I spoke to my doctor about joining a local club for pregnant women but she said its too early. Has anyone else been in this position and what did you do about it? Thank you so much xxxx
15/07/2013 at 12:09
congraaa with your pregnancy. let me tell you about me i didnt tell my parents and im not planning to any time soon. i dont care about other people if they are happy for me or not as long iam happy. as your friend shes jelous of you or not that jelous but hurt she should be happy for you thats all. be strong you are going to be a mmomy soon
15/07/2013 at 12:18
Thank you, nice answer. Much appreciated and congrats right back at you! xx
15/07/2013 at 16:50
congratulations on your long awaited pregnancy, sorry to hear about your sickness though it is rough (iv suffered in both my pregnancies), and even more so when you don't have a support network, moving to a new area as well and feeling isolated is hard work especially in early pregnancy as it really helps to have a friend/reative close by. Your friend could do with a bit of a telling off. To try and get out there you could try a book club/library group, local aqua natal / swimming class as lots of mums to be do swim exercise, or a local beauticians if you regularly treat yourself to a manicure or treat of some sort you will get to chat to the ladies there and get to know what goes on locally and make friends, you sound nice and from your pic im sure you would make friends easily. Iv been on loads of websites like this and this is one of the best, someone on here will be able to give you any advice or friendly words when you need it. Your very early in your journey so don't give up hope and hormones can make you feel funny and all over the place my advice would be to treat yourself as a congrats to you on your amazing news and really get into 'baby world' you should feel special because you are special, you take care
15/07/2013 at 18:08
Aww thanks Rachel, such a lovely response, cheered me up already! Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. hugs xxx
15/07/2013 at 19:04
Sometimes on here the monthly group that you're due in starts up a fb page, it may be a way of getting in touch with others in your area. If you're on fb.
It took us 9 years with this one (our 3rd I know) but I know how excited all the little kicks make me feel, so congratulations to you and as Rachael says if you join an aquanatal swimming group you should find a friend! Our aquanatal is not running at the moment, but due to home educating I don't have much time for friends anyway.
15/07/2013 at 19:37
Thank u great tip I will do that xx
15/07/2013 at 19:57
I've used the facebook group thing before and man is that helpful especially in a situation like yours. It's just really nice to be able to keep track of the other moms in the same stages as you and it's just lots of fun. Best of luck!
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