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03/07/2013 at 11:50
Feeling a bit bad today as I've told my friend that I'm not going to her birthday celebrations saturday (her 27th) as she's going for a night out (drinks only) at a lively bar and although I'm not suffering from morning sickness (I'm 6+2) I get tired in the evenings, feel bloated & I haven't gone off alcohol (although definately not drinking it for the next 9 months) so don't fancy spending my evening watching everyone else getting drunk & getting bumped by drunk people! I've said I'll take her out to a girlie dinner or lunch instead as our other friend is 21 weeks pregnant and she's not going either.
Am I being completely unreasonable? She's now not speaking to me (I've already told my friends I'm pregnant) and I don't want to lose her freindship as we've been friends for over 15 years, but we're at completely different stages of life. My pregnant friend has said that it's not me being unreasonable, but am I just making a fuss and should I just suck it up and go to keep the birthday girl happy?
I've always been there for her when she's had bad break-ups etc, but my baby (that I've waited to have for 5 years due to circumstance) is now my first priority and I know she doesn't get that yet due to not being a mum herself yet, but I feel completely torn as I don't want to be a bad friend but I want to do the best for my baby.
Just feeling like a really terrible person now
03/07/2013 at 11:56
No at all chick u gotta look out for ur baby n she should c that. U offered to take her out so uv done all u can let her stew for a bit and enjoy her night out she will come around I'm sure x
03/07/2013 at 12:51
Thank you for replying - you've made me feel better! I don't want my friends to think I'm a whinger during pregnancy, I have a tendancy to be an anxious person, but if roles were reversed I would've done something suitable for my pregnant friends (even a meal then follwed by drinks with my non-pregnant friends) so they wouldn't feel pressured to come to all of it (I would've gone saturday if they were going for a meal first).
I hope you're right about her coming round after Saturday!
03/07/2013 at 18:14
Absolutely not! I totally understand why you don't want to and your friend should too! I think she will get over it and just obviously wasn't expecting you to say you weren't going. And as you have said you will do something just the 2 of you so she has no reason to complain.
Dont feel guilty, she will get over it and you are just doing best for you and baby!x
03/07/2013 at 18:33
I went up town at 18 weeks and it was horrible. Hot noisy and crowded, icy outside so nearly slipped over and had some geezer tryin to dance with me doin the whole rubbing up against me thing. I went mad at him lol once he knew I was preggers he left me well alone. Not an experience I will be repeating I had one drink and left sharp ish! X
04/07/2013 at 17:10
wow I couldn't even contemplate going out right now, I'm so tired in the evenings I could go to bed at 7pm and sleep till noon the next day!
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