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27/06/2016 at 13:28
Hi ladies I'm 19 weeks pregnant today and I'm honestly just struggling I've been happy for weeks haven't been down about anything been buying baby things. Today and yesterday I just can't stop crying there's a lot of things that are bothering me!
My unborns son father has a new girlfriend already he doesn't contact me at all anymore blocked my number so I can't contact him. We lived together for 6 months and things eventually went sour he's moved someone else in now!
i lived in Leeds for 4 years and I loved my life had a great job at the council and had lovely supportive friends. I just want to go back but I know I can't afford it now. I've moved back in with my mum and my mum isn't all that supportive she has her own life she has a partner and he kind of wants my mum to his self all the time.
My brothers ex girlfriend is living at my mums house she has the spare room that I need for me and my son. she's been slagging me of to my brother and my brother came and told me what she said shes also drank all the drinks I brought and ate all my pickeld onion crisps!!!
My brother is a heroin addict and we're trying to get him clean but he just can't stick to it. I just feel like me and my family are different I had a great life before living in Leeds going out after work had a great social life! Now I'm pregnant with my exs baby he doesnt care I'm working part time at tesco just so I can afford to get things for my son I've got nowhere to sleep me and my mum taking it into turns to sleep on the sofa and bed because my brothers ex won't move out.
Ive got my driving test AGAIN in three weeks I'm trying to afford a car I can't even afford. I just feel like giving up on life I just want some kind of help and guidance what can I do to make me happy?
27/06/2016 at 18:16
I was in a similar situation as you found out I was pregnant and he cheated on me and moved in with her I got evicted from the house share we lived in and things with my parents hadn't been good for nearly 2 years
My nan took me in until I went on maternity leaved she kicked me out and my mum took me in to the pub I had once been a landlady with my dad (why things weren't good)
So I was 8 months pregnant worrying about being a young single parent knowing he was with another woman, living in a pub I hated so much with them telling me they would rent somewhere for me but the dad and his family could never come round ha. So.i messaged him asked what he was planning on doing birth being there that sort of thing. And he asked about the next midwife if he could come I said fine I was planning on telling her I Wass.sleeping on an airbed if there was anything she could suggest another point of view for my parents and council. Anyway he came parents kicked me out because I was speaking to him and made me homeless that day he said he couldn't leave me like this and broke up with his girlfriend and became homeless with me. Long story short I eventually I forgave him we are in a really good place I haven't spoken to my parents for nearly four years and we have another little boy also pregnant with another of his sprogs. I think what I want u to know is I understand there were days and days I couldn't.stop crying and it seems so hard to be positive but I have a.nearly 4 year old little boy who brings so much joy to my life. Those few months of hell were also the best because I had the perfect gift. Look whatever happens if u sort things with the dad or not even if it's just talking because of the baby. Women are stronger then we think.
Do you like keeping fit, maybe some pregnancy classes yoga swimming that sort of stuff gets you mixing with other mums to be. Have a look in your area children's centres sometimesn have things like that for mums to be.
As for your family is there anyway of talking to the council get ur mum to evict you you might go in a mother and baby unit until they find somewhere but living in that environment isn't good you need your space for you and the baby although I think the council wait until ur further along but.you will have ur green notes to show them
Good luck I hope yourfeeling.better soon pregnancy hormones are.the worst btw don't know if ur coming or going some days x.
27/06/2016 at 18:26
I would suggest contacting the local council housing as you don't have any where permanent to stay and sleeping on a sofa is not good when pregnant.
As for your ex he has walked out on the most precious thing he will ever get in life his child. If he can do that to you he really isnt worth it.
Things will get better and soon you will have your own beautiful little family and be proud of what you have and can achieve. Sending hugs xx
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