Im feeling so alone and lost and worried

Tomoz is D day for me to see if my jelly bean has died

Iv had cramping for 3 days and very light period bleeding for 2 days now, i feel sick to the bine and my head is pounding, i was so hoping for a fab out come....

My 1st scan i saw my sac my second scan i saw a bigger sac and now this...

What do i do if iv lost my jelly bean, how will i cope? Does it hurt to pass the baby at 7 weeks, will i have to be sent for a D&C??

Im so worried and doing this alone....My partner has done all he can but cant get out of work tomoz  

My head is all over the place, the midwifes told me yesterday that they think im have a m/c

i am soo sorry to hear this and can't possibly imagine how u feel?! i am having to go thru ivf at the moment and that is bad enough.. i think the only thing worse than my situation of not being able to naturally get pregnant is to have had a baby and lost them .. no matter how far gone.. i'm not sure if anything anybody says to u on here is going to help u but all i can say is u will get lots of support on here i'm sure.. i hope and pray that there is a perfect explanation aside from m/c and that your little bean is well, you must be feeling so emotional and all over the place! i really am sorry and dont really know what else to say but if u want to talk at any point i'll hear you... lots of luck and love x x x 

Hi kimberley 2

Yes my head is all over the place i was told a few years back i woupnt ba able to have kids as i lost 1 ovary and tube and my other was damaged in the opp.

Yet in november 2011 i fell pregnant with my son who is now almost a year old, falling pregnany again ment the world to me so to be told by the midwifes that they are 90% sure iv lost my baby is just killing me, i can wait for my scan tomoz just so i can get things sorted and start heeling xx

Thank you for your kind words, the suport on here is unreal and i wish u all the luck with the ivf treatment xx

Aww Sarah,

I wish i could come with you to support you. Are you taking anyone else if your partner can't make it, please don't go on your own xxx

I really wish you didn't have to go through this and I really am praying for you and jelly bean. I know what this heartache is like and it's awful but you will get through whatever is going on somehow I promise, I know.

Dont give up hope Sarah, jelly bean might still be clinging on. please try and rest tonight although I know you won't really be able to. Make sure you have something to eat and drink too.

Please take care, sending you lots of cuddles xxx

Aww sorry to hear that things are looking like going the way nobody ever wants. This is pretty much the exact stage that we lost ours and in terms of the pain, my wife said it was pretty bad and I was there with her when it happened, it's not nice but from our experience it was over within an hour or two. 

My mrs was offered both the DC or the tablets, she chose the tabs because hates anything evasive and didn't want surgery. Once she'd naturally mc though the tabs did very little.

Im so sorry that you'll be alone for this but Im sure your partner will look after you in the times when he can. I won't build your hopes cos I don't think that's the best but I am thinking of you and bean. it will be very hard and emotional, I was crying for days and on the edge of tears for a few weeks following it, but after you've grieved you can think about the next go.

Much Love

Hello guys and dolls

Thank you for your kind hearted words of suport i can not tell you how much i reapect and thank you all

Yes im going alone but il have my son with me and my partner will do all he can when he is not working, im not getting my hopes up one bit i dont see the pint at all.

The cramping has stopped now but the bleeding is ongoing, im just glad the paint has gone and i can go back to picking up my son for a hug, thats been the hardest thing the last few days.

As for the bleeding its not heavy hardly having to change pads....iv not passed any thing yet, by there is still time before my scan tomoz.

Im trying to be grown up about this and trying to fight back the tears and just look forward to the nexted few weeks...il be holding my sons 1st birthday in about 6 weeks so i have my goal to look forward to xxx

Il pop a post up tomoz after my scan xx

Good luck, you are so brave. Will be thinking of you today.

Good luck today honey xxx

Thank you but i already know the out come of today i had one hpt left so i thought id do it this morning and its already answered my question with out having the scan

There is no longer a strong possitve line, infact u can hardly see the line, im hoping the scan will at least let me know how long my little jelly bean has been gone xx

So sorry babe, keep us posted. Try and stay strong xxxx

It ok LH86 i kinda knew this was coming and iv done my fair share of crying since the 10th of june, im lucky enough to have my wonderdul little boy and what ever the out come holds for the future il just have to take it as it comes....

Feeling low and sad yes....End of the world No....

My partner said yesterday that if its not a good out come today dont worry that we can always try again when im ready...i dont think il ever say lets try again, i think il just go with if it happens it happens if it dont then lets be greatful we have Lennon our little boy xxx

(Even if he can be a pain in the butt! Not slept yet been up since 12:30 as he decided to wake up every hour!....gotta love him) xx

Bless that's a good way to look at it chick. Just take each day at a time xxx

I intend to mate really i do, i cant thank you all enough for the suport the last few weeks and il be sad to move to the different site as i wont be able to speak to u all but maybe one day il be back with better news

For now i hope the people in the m/c forum are as nice as you all xx

I check all the forums anyway chick I just look at the latest posts so ill b checkin up on u and I bet the ladies there are just as fab and will totally understand where ur coming from and how ur feeling. So sad to be losing so many of my bump buddies but I know ull b back bigger and better next time xxx

Thank you LH86 and to think we would have been 2 weeks apart on due dates

But im buzzing that your little bean is fab a roo gives us girls all the hope we need xx

Anything is possible mate, everything happens for a reason and what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger xxx

I lost my baby at the weekend, the midwife re looked at scans from last week to let me know that the sac was 7 weeks and 3 days but the baby had not formed right and was only the size of a 4 week old yok, she said i dont need d&c or pill as iv passed it alreay and im now empty again

Sorry to hear that hun , I know you were expecting it but it's still a shock , you still had a little hope , that's good you don't have to have any intervention though, think it helps to make it easier to get pregnant quickly , thank goodness for your little boy , I hugged my dd lots and i'm sure it helped the healing process , sending lots of love and hugs your way x x  

Im so sorry xxxxx

Thank you girls needless to say iv not out my son down yet, this is gonna take so.time to get over thats for sure x