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13/02/2014 at 14:28
Did you/are you going to find out? what were your reasons for knowing / not knowing?
we did with Molly to the extent we had a private scan as at our NHS one they could not tell for certain. this was as we thought we wouldn't have anymore so decided to buy a girls coloured pram etc. now obviously this may be an issue this time but I am saying we can worry about that once baby is here and it would be nice to have a surprise but OH thinks for planning it would be better to know (baby needs to share a room with Molly too and we will re-decorate as they are swapping rooms with our eldest Lauren, if Molly had a choice it would be pink with a touch of pink but obviously if we have a boy we need to netrualise things a bit!)
13/02/2014 at 14:33
We have. Our local clinic does gender scans from 16 weeks and I was there at 16+3 demanding to know! I am just a very, very impatient person. I don't do surprises!
13/02/2014 at 14:40
Yes we found out both times. Second times we paid for a private scan as like you they couldn't be sure at the nhs one. I'm far far too impatient to wait. Don't like waiting for surprises!
In your case I would think you would also have the extra benefit of being able to tell your two girls if they're getting a brother or sister which may help them get excited about it all!
13/02/2014 at 14:42
We didn't find out. I understand why people do but personally I was more excited by the idea of not knowing than finding out. I reckon I'd be tempted to find out if we have a second but still think it's pretty unlikely we would xx
13/02/2014 at 14:43
I wanted a surprise but the OH wanted to know and I decided to give in. However we got the scanner to write down the sex and opened it and read it out at a family meal, in those 3 days between the scan and the opening of the envelope I was dying to know. I'm actually glad I found out as it's helped loads with organising everything, but if I hadn't have found out I think I would have figured it out by now after all the scans I've had.
13/02/2014 at 14:44
I didn't first time, we decided we wanted the surprise at the birth - everything could be bought neutral, and we'd buy more boy or girl related things when they were born.
This time MrDD says he doesn't really want to, but I do (I sort of did last time, but not as much as this so he's agreed to it) - decided I want to be able to be more organised this time, and if it isn't another boy then we can get rid of all C's old clothes. C's current room will stay as it is (cream and yellow with jungle animals - quite neutral, but will somehow girlify it a bit if it was a girl) and C will be moving into the spare bedroom at some point if we ever get round to sorting it out - guess we've got a year before we'll actually need the nursery!
I found out just because i was impatient really! Never regretted it although I didn't believe it entirely until they were all born lol x
13/02/2014 at 14:46
We did , I didn't originally want to I was totally torn, but H wanted it. So I did it for him. And I think it made me bond with my bump better.
At the beginning I was very detached after a few bleeds etc and didn't believe it was going to be alright. Once I knew she was a little girl I felt incredibly close to her.
I can't imagine not knowing now. I love her so much xxx
13/02/2014 at 14:47
13/02/2014 at 14:49
I didn't first time round, but have done this time for practical reasons - have been getting rid of Ms stuff, buying blue things etc. Although having had complications this time round it feels more real talking to my boy than to my baby, if that makes any sense at all!
CK you need to update your footer thingy :)
13/02/2014 at 14:51
We found out, for various reasons.
Main one being I am impatient, haha. It was actually inportant for me to know, to bond, due to C being prem, and then having a mc.
I felt really strongly about not wanting a girl too, so finding out meant I could "prepare myself" incase it was a girl. I also really dislike neutral (cream and beige, rather than bold "neutrals"), so wanted to get suitable clothes, equipment etc.
13/02/2014 at 14:53
See my OH really hates surprises so for him I can understand why he would want to know. I have toyed with the idea of him knowing and me not or us both knowing and not telling anyone else. but I keep coming back round to the fact that it would be practical and I do like to be prepared!
13/02/2014 at 15:04
I found out with J as H wanted to, and I didn't strongly not want to. This time I really wanted to as I loved knowing last time, getting to think of the baby as a he/she rather than an it is nice, and it makes it easier from a practicality point of view. We paid for gender scans both times - once the decision to know was made I was highly impatient to find out!
13/02/2014 at 15:08
NB we did that. When's your birthday?
Hubby found out on December 21st,he went out and bought an outfit in the appropriate colour and I opened it Xmas day!
13/02/2014 at 15:13
At the moment, I am thinking we won't find out. Just kind of like the idea of a surprise really. I also really don't want a baby shower, and I'm not sure why, but not knowing the flavour might it easier not to have one IYSWIM
However, the comments about bonding are actually a really good point, so now I am a bit confused!
13/02/2014 at 15:16
I have heard so many people pick names and even allocate attributes (he kicks a lot, going to love football like his daddy) that I didn't find out, this time or last time. Happy to have a blank canvas and hopefully minimise how much we imprint on to them if you see what I mean. Just a personal thing. And I am never going to be team pink/blue so happy not to know. Like the idea of only finding out when we meet baby, people say having a baby is exciting enough but for me, finding out as part of giving birth does seem even more exciting.
13/02/2014 at 15:28
I think we are going to find out, just so we can be more organised.
But as this may not be our last, the pram etc will all be neutral.
It is more clothes, room decor etc that I would want to decorate tailored for the sex.
13/02/2014 at 15:43
13/02/2014 at 15:45
We will be finding out. Our private gender scan is already booked for 16 weeks!
At first I wasn't too bothered to find out but as time has gone on and I find myself wondering what they will be.
I am impatient now, and I really want to know if they are two of the same or one of each. It really doesn't make a difference to us what they are, but I am super excited to find out!
13/02/2014 at 15:53
We have never found out. I like the surprise element. I have never felt the need to be 'organised' in terms of gender related items.
That moment when they are born and you ask what is it is very special.
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