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11/12/2013 at 12:26
once the baby was born did you use much of your neutral clothes, or did you re buy everything in colour ?
i dont want to find out and H does, im trying to win him over
11/12/2013 at 12:30
We've got a lot of neutral clothes for newborn age. Got boys clothes as presents which are mostly 3-6 xx
11/12/2013 at 12:32
I used the clothes I had bought and bought a few more bits when he was born. I'm not a massive fan of dressing boys purely in blue. It was nice going out afterwards and buying cute dungerees and things. We got given a lot of clothes as presents after the birth. He ended up with some cool stuff!
11/12/2013 at 12:33
11/12/2013 at 12:35
Sorry not answering the question at all but...
we were exactly the same. In the end I relented and we found out (tbh as were having scans ever few weeks I think I would have figured it anyway). However as soon as I knew, all the neutral stuff I'd already bought seemed a bit well neutral, so I've gone crazy since picking up cute little girlie dresses and clothes.
Plus I had 2 cousins that had recently given birth one to twin boys, and one to a girl. The one that had, had a girl brought me round loads of tiny baby and newborn stuff which I'd been reluctant to buy as although I have a small bump my baby is huge, but it may come in useful even if only for the first week. I don't think she would have bothered if I hadn't of known it was a girl, as everything she had was girly.
I hope you come to an agreement you're both happy with xx
11/12/2013 at 12:44
our current plan is to have a gender scan on 21st december, H will find out and not tell me, he will buy an outfit wrap it up and i will open it xmas day.
as much as it sounds lovely, im not sure its what i want
11/12/2013 at 12:45
Hi Monnie. We don't intend to find out. I intend to just buy minimal amounts of neutral clothing to get through the first week probably, and will then go out and buy clothes suitable for their gender. I'll re-use the neutral stuff, I'll probably just buy white babygrows - I love a newborn in those! So cute.
I sympathise with you - it must be hard when one of you wants to know and the other doesn't.
11/12/2013 at 12:55
We didn't find out with Harry, I LOVED that mum had knitted a yellow jacket and a pale green jacket because we didn't know (and yes, he wore both). We had lots of neutral clothes and used those for ages. The gifts we got after he was born (no such thing as baby showers back then!) were quite gender-specific. I'm not crazy about blues and pinks anyway. We've been window shopping at clothes and have a list of green, turquoise, red etc; I'm quite passionate about keeping clothes and toys as gender-neutral as possible whilst being reasonable, so I guess it's not really even on my radar as a factor in having a baby :)
11/12/2013 at 13:01
We haven't found out but we have so much neutral stuff we will definitely be using it all. the only gender coloured stuff we have will be if anyone gives us gifts!
11/12/2013 at 13:16
You can get loads of brightly coloured "neutral" outfits for babies, which is what we wound up with. I have to say that I was torn between finding out and not, and i honestly am so glad i never found out. The moment you find out in the Hospital is one of the most wonderful moments! Could you not compromise and suggest to your H that you don't find out and when you are in the hospital tell the staff that your H is to announce the flavour?
11/12/2013 at 13:20
Why don't you want to know?
11/12/2013 at 13:26
We didn't find out with O and we were given lots of outfits in 0-3 months once he was born. I reused the unisex newborn stuff with L, even though we knew we were having a girl.
11/12/2013 at 13:41
We had brightly coloured neutral clothing (not much because we didnt know what size disco would be) we used it all and continued to buy mainly clothing that would be classed as genender neutral (or I would class it as such) but then I am not a fan of boys in blue girls in pink. Also disco spent the majority of his first few months in babygrows so easy to find lovely genender neurtal ones.
11/12/2013 at 13:43
You sound like you're not happy with finding out. In which case, don't.
11/12/2013 at 13:59
We did find out but most of the stuff we bought was still what I would consider to be gender neutral anyway. A only really wears sleepsuits and I think most sleepsuits would be fine for boys or girls - but then I would happily dress a girl in dinosaur patterns or whatever, which I know some people wouldn't.
If you really don't want to know then don't find out, I think it's easier to not know when you really want to than it is to know when you wanted to save it for the birth, if you see what I mean.
11/12/2013 at 14:55
We found out, and 99% of what we bought has been used by my neice, so none of it was hugely gender specific despite knowing what we were having! I'm not a fan of putting teeny babies in outfits anyway, I think they're cuter and look more comfortable in babygros, so we just got lots of bright gender neutral babygros.
11/12/2013 at 15:10
up until today i sort of did
however our friends had their baby this morning, we knew it was a girl. so when we saw their announcement it seemed like a parcel had arrived,
they knew what they were having and what she was called, it was just that she arrived, i cant explain it seemed like just a heads up- shes here.
where as my friends who didnt know its always been so exciting, because we didnt know anything?
i know i have no way of knowing how they felt during this time, i can only judge on what i felt
11/12/2013 at 15:12
Monnie - I agree with you and thats why I don't want to find out either. I'd really work on your H if you can :-)
11/12/2013 at 15:16
im sure your friends didn't see it as a parcel arriving/heads up, im sure they were so excited and couldn't wait to meet her,
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